What does he expect?

[Mandi7759]

Not sure if I should put this under the dating section but here goes. I met this guy several years ago (he was married at the time) and he worked with my ex. I never even really talked to him back then. Well he found me on a social networking site and we started talking. It was innocent at first and then one of us (not sure who started it) starting flirting a little and it just has exploded from there. Now we keep sending eachother racy emails all the time and we flirt like crazy. We've been talking about hooking up and thats all it would be. And I'm kinda up for that. The guy is ten years older than me and I don' t want a relationship with him. I've never had casual fling before but at this point in my life I just want to do something fun and crazy. He told me the other day he wants to come over and see my new apartment. He said he promises he'll behave, he just wants to hang out with me. Now he's in his 40's so I'm not sure if thats the same as when a horny 20 year old says he wants to hang out. I don't know how to act. I want to sleep with him but is this initial meeting (we haven't seen eachother in probably 5 years) give us a chance to check eachother out and see if we want to go through with it? Or is he just using a line about just hanging out when he really means he's coming over expecting to get laid? In his emails he will tell me in detail what he wants to do with me. But I know its a lot easier to talk big when you aren't face to face. What are his plans? Do you think he's just stopping over to chat or does he have pretty definate plans of getting some? I don't want to get all excited thinking we're going to have this hot night and then he just wants to hang out and talk for awhile. I guess I"m so unsure because I've NEVER had casual sex. Only in relationships and only with four guys. So thsi is new to me. But it is exciting!

[january2010]

As you've posted quite a few threads since this one, hope you found the answers you were were looking for.