James1234 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 (edited) Hi, So I know this girl for a while now, and we finally went on our first date. I thought it went quite well. We sat next to eachother at a restaurant/bar and had something to eat. We shared our food and tried eachothers drinks, laughed alot and made consistent eye contact. She seemed intrigued. She even initiated the physical contact by shortly resting her hand on my leg while speaking to me. A little later a few of her friends showed up as planned and sat down with us, she slid closer to me on the bench and didn't seem to mind that our legs were touching. The music then became louder and it became hard to follow the converstion (which she didn't seem that into). She tried to reinitiate conversation with me a few times, with our faces in very close to one another. During the times that we weren't talking she seemed quite nervous ( fiddling with things on the table and playing with her hair). We left a little later and I insisted that I pay for her meal, saying that I invited her so I'd pay. We walked a little and then her parents came to pick her up (she's a little under 18). I said hi to them and bye to her ( I didn't think it would be appropriate to try any physical advances infront of her friends or her parents.) I then left. The next day I sent her a message saying that I had fun and asked if she had time next week. I didn't get a reply and then called her a couple days later... She picked up the phone and I asked if she had time on Saturday to go out. She told me she already had plans with her friends but still asked what i wanted to do on saturday and so declined. She then invited me to a party the week after ( she mentioned it on the date as well). The end. I really like this girl and would like to have a relationship with her. But I'm very confused as to her intentions and it seems difficult to get her alone. Is she just playing really hard to get or just wants to be friends or what?!? I'm a few years older than her btw. Sorry for the long post. Any advice on how I should proceed? Edited November 16, 2010 by James1234
xpaperxcutx Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 The only things that are going to keep you from dating her are her parents, her schoolwork, and her friends. If her parents are okay with you dating, they will still probably allow her minimum freedom to date ( making sure that you're not having sex for one). And if her friends like you, you'll start hanging out in crowds more than going on 1-on-1 dates. And she likes you, she wouldn't say no when you ask her to be your girlfriend.
Author James1234 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Her female friends seemed to get along well with me while, beyond an introduction, her male friends seemed to ignore me. If things go well at this party do you think I should try to kiss her even if there are other people/her friends around? Thanks
xpaperxcutx Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Her female friends seemed to get along well with me while, beyond an introduction, her male friends seemed to ignore me. If things go well at this party do you think I should try to kiss her even if there are other people/her friends around? Thanks How old are you again? You said you're a few years older, therefore I think there is a significant age gap that kept you from bonding her male friends. I obviously would not kiss her unless the mood calls for it. Like for example the two of you sitting together, and there is a significant amount of touching and PDA. Are you in college?
Author James1234 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I'm about 3 years older than her, 21. she's a few months away from 18. I'm studying, she and her friends are in their last year of school. What's PDA? Thanks again
xpaperxcutx Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I'm about 3 years older than her, 21. she's a few months away from 18. I'm studying, she and her friends are in their last year of school. What's PDA? Thanks again Public Display of Affection.
NoLongerSad Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 If her parents have to pick her up from dates, she's too young for you.
Author James1234 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Well it didn't seem planned that her parents would pick her up, it was more of a 'coincidence' that they were out having dinner as well (we live in quite a small town and all the restaurants/bars etc are in a reasonable walking distance from one another). Actually her sister was originally going to pick her up but she was already at home by the time we left. Just a note, I didn't get the impression that her parents were against her dating/me or anything like that.
NoLongerSad Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Well it didn't seem planned that her parents would pick her up, it was more of a 'coincidence' that they were out having dinner as well (we live in quite a small town and all the restaurants/bars etc are in a reasonable walking distance from one another). Actually her sister was originally going to pick her up but she was already at home by the time we left. Just a note, I didn't get the impression that her parents were against her dating/me or anything like that. James, when you are the gentleman who is escorting the young lady for the evening, it is both your obligation, and your privilege, to have the honor of returning her safely to her doorstep. You don't just drop her off somewhere for her sister to pick her up or her parents or her friends or anyone else.
Author James1234 Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 It wasn't as if I just dropped her anywhere alone. We left the place and were walking to meet her parents. Then we bumped into them on the way there, walked together to the car and said our goodbyes.
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