making-up after argument

[bkboy]

hello. i've been dating a girl for about a month and a half and everything

was going fine. we got in our first argument, however, which was primarily my fault and now she's not sure if she wants to continue seeing me.

 

the next day, after the argument,i apologized and explained why i was to blame. the discussion went well, although she went through a list of reasons single-life might be easier for her.

 

after our talk, she gave me a sort of ambiguous answer to whether or not she'd still date me, and ended the conversation by saying i have to be comfortable will the ball in her court.

 

it's only been two days but im wondering should i wait for her next move or say something? has anyone ended a relationship after one argument?

 

thanks

[make me believe]

has anyone ended a relationship after one argument?

 

It depends on what the argument was about and how severe it was. What did you guys fight about?

[Roxanna]

With limited information, my read on this situation is that she is using this argument to have the upper hand and make you sweat and/or beg her to forgive you.

 

You've only dated for one month - if she really was no longer interested she would've definitively ended the relationship, she wouldn't need days to figure it out.

 

I would cut this one loose.

[bkboy]

thanks much for the reply. she was trying to take pressure off of defining our relationship, and i misinterpreted it as her saying she didn't intend to stick around long. so basically i got into "well what's the point" mode, and she began crying and kept asking if she "messed everything up between us".

 

it was a little heated, no abuse or name-calling or anything like that.

 

when we spoke after she explained she'd been in a terrible situation with an past BF, so our argument reactivated those bad feelings. she said she didn't think i was abusive or overly-aggressive, but the incident made her second guess get back into dating after 2 years.

 

having apologized and explained myself should i wait for her move? could the argument spell the end?

[bkboy]

roxanna, thanks for your take. this possibility crossed my mind, and i'm not really one to beg.

 

i think she might've assumed i was done with her and prepared reasons to accept the end. but when i apologized, and said i still wanted to continue dating, she mightv'e been caught off guard. i'm hoping she's open to cooling down before finalizing things, but maybe you're right.

 

it's so hard to tell.