Walking away from my Dream Girl!!!

[Sav_From_Oz]

Hello everyone, I am posting this story as my first thread on this forum. I believe that it is an experience that I have learnt a lot from and I hope that by reading this post that it may also help others who have had to deal with a similar circumstance or situation.

 

Recently I came into contact with a friend from university that I had not seen for at least a year. This girl, ( lets call her Susan), is probably one of the most beautiful women that I have ever laid eyes on. She is stunning.

 

Through some strange coincidence we were reacquainted at a function through another mutual friend. Susan had recently been dumped by her boyfriend and was going through a tough time dealing with it. We spent the night talking as a group and having a few drinks, just acting like old friends would after such a long hiatus.

 

During that following week, Susan and I contacted each other through facebook and we were to see each other again at my mate's Grand Final BBQ the following Saturday. She mentioned that she really wanted me to be there. This remark caught my attention but I didnt take too much notice of it.

 

We caught up at the BBQ on the Saturday and things were great. She was very excited to see me and we exchanged a few looks and few flippant flirts. But still I believed this was just her way of being friendly.

 

I managed to see her for the next few weeks consecutively, each time in a small group of three or four. Each time we met the signals she was sending out to me began to gain strength. She would stare and smile at me for periods of 5-10 seconds. Caress my hands and arms. Talk to me about giving her massages. Her behaviour escalated to the point where she was outwardly showing jealousy when id mention other girls that i knew or had been hanging out with. All I could think was, " Is this for real?"

 

The sirens started ringing in my head, as I was certain that she was interested. She had called me randomly one Saturday afternoon to arrange gathering with some friends and since having her number we had been in constant contact via text or call.

 

I was still sceptical about how genuine she was, so I asked many of my friends about the situation, many of them being female. They all gave me the same answer; " She definitely likes you but be careful because having just gotten out of a relationship, her head may not be right." I then asked another mutual friend who had witnessed first hand her behaviour and she too wondered what was happening?

 

However, the truth would soon reveal itself to me. On Saturday 6th November we were all going out as a group to a Brazilian dance party in the city. It was my turn to drive and I would be taking Susan and three other friends to this event. This would be the night where I would find out one way or another what her true intentions were.

 

In the car on the way to the party Susan mentioned that a guy from her work would also be attending. I didn't take too much notice of this remark and just didn't show any signs of bother. We arrived at the party and Susan seemed to be very quiet and reserved. She was acting very unlike herself. And then i realized that she was waiting for this other guy to arrive. Once he did she was exuberant and delighted. She spent the rest of the night flirting with him and paying me absolutely no attention. I now knew what game she was playing. She approached me at one point and mentioned that I didn't have to stay, and that her friend from work would drive her and my other friend home. The message was loud and clear that she didn't want me there. The look in her eyes was one that was urging me to leave.

 

I waited a few minutes then myself and another mate of mine left the party. I was disappointed but also relieved that I found out the truth. I wondered how I would deal with the aftermath of this? I knew that she would stop messaging or calling me and hope that I would disappear into the mist. I was determined not to let this happen.

 

I waited a couple of days, and having heard nothing from her, I decided to call her and get an answer out of her. I messaged her first, and asked if I could give her a call. She replied, ' sure.' I called her and asked her if the signals that she had been sending me were genuine or was it part of an act that she was doing to get over her ex?? She seemed stunned, and replied that she was only being friendly. A typical response, one that I was prepared for. I told her that I had many female friends who do not act that, ' friendly' towards me. And that even some of our friends were asking what was happening between us. After this all she could do was reply with ooohh and ok! I had called her out and her game was over. I told her that I was not prepared to pursue anything were it not for real. And that I needed to walk away from the situation. She seemed to understand and we left the conversation on good terms.

 

Doing this was a really hard step to take, but I am so proud of myself for taking it! I was not going to be the one who got walked over! I am 100% satisfied with my decision and it has helped me to move on with my life!

 

The problem with attractive women is that they are used to treating men as play things that can be bent and shaped, then discarded at will. They have done this all their lives, first with their fathers and then with guys they have dated.

 

All I can to any guy who reads this and is in a similar situation as I was to, WALK AWAY!!!!! The girl will be flabbergasted, and will not know how to deal with this type of rejection. The same type that we as men deal with on a regular basis. Don't be afraid! I have recently found out through a mutual friend that Susan is upset with me and does not know why I called her; she can’t deal with me turning the tables on her.

 

Now its time to get back out there and enjoy life!!! WOOHOOO!

[dreamingoftigers]

More guys should be able to walk away from an attractive woman mistreating them.

 

It sounds like you don't need any advice though.

[OrangeSnack]

glad youre moving on. What nerves, can't believe she did that to you

[Surrealist]

Yeah that's kind of what I went through early last year with a girl from work who I had become quite attracted to. Good on you, it is hard but you did the right thing.