The Great Leon Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Alright, long story short, I was with a girl for the summer. I had been in a relationship with this girl earlier in my highschool days, and only near the end of this second relationship I realized how special she is. I fell for her hard, and then had to go off to university. We had agreed at the beginning of our relationship to end it when I went to school, but I didn't at all expect to fall so deeply in love with her. We both do want to be together, but decided that it is for the best to end now. This is where the trouble begins... Essentially, we are surrendering our relationship now, in hopes of a better one in the future (beginning in the summer, when I return). We both have things to do to prepare for a real relationship, and admittedly, the air of history would be better cleared between us. Though I feel over the relationship, I'm not over her. I just miss her presence in my life, and it's tearing me to shreds every day. So, my problem is with the future. Should I look forward? I know that I can't wait for the summer to come. I need to get over her. But I also know that it's possible to return where we were in 5 months or so, which is messing with my head. So, should I allow myself to look forward in such a way, or convince myself that we'll never be together again. I don't know what to do, and it's weighing me down increasingly more. Any advice or help would be great. I hope I've included enough information to make sense of my situation.
germain Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Will you be finishing school this Spring? If not, do you guys plan on taking another break next year? If you're young and will continue to have this distance between the two of you, I would say just let it go. Since there is no guarantee that you guys will be together, it's best to move on right now, which sucks and is hard to deal with. If you guys are still actually interested in each other and end up together at some point in the future, it'll be that much more meaningful. But that's probably not going to come while you're still pining over her. It'll most likely be a random occurrence when she's the last thing that's been on your mind at the time. I need to take my own advice. I'm in a similar situation. We both love each other very much, but are in a situation where we cannot be together. It's difficult to let go and not hope for that future together. But perhaps someone will have a more optimistic opinion?
eastcheap Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 (edited) Well, she certainly loves you too. I think telling her was a good idea. Let it play out, pally ;] Edited December 1, 2010 by eastcheap
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