akyinnar2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I have heard stories about online dating scams and I have been fully aware and did not trust my online guy completely. We have been talking for the past 6 months and we talked to each other daily. But we have never MET before. He seemed sincere and nice and we talked about future. We are living in different countries, and he said he will move to the country where I m living so that we can be closer and spend time together. He has been planning to start business in this city and he found a business partner from my city last few months. But last month, his partner backed out and then he started to whine about his business problem to me. I gave him so many ideas such as getting loan from a bank or loaning from a private party, etc. He said he tried all of those and none succeeded. He said he is asking all his friends and relatives. Later after few days, he told me that all his friends & family said they don't have the money to loan him and he needs to start his business as soon as possible coz all his savings will be finished if he does not start soon. He said his savings are also not enough to start his business and he needs more. He kept whining to me about it for a week or two. I kept giving him ideas and suggestions, he kept on giving some excuses saying he tried all of these and nothing worked out. Then he started asking if I can help. So I told him I won't be able to help him unless & until I know him in person. I m not stupid to send him money without meeting him and not knowing. Then he said ok, he will need my help when he comes and start his business in my city. Then I told him I will help him as much as I can after he is here. After few days, he asked me to confirm him the amount I can help since he needs at least $6000. I told him I don't have this much, but I ll try to help him with $1000-2000. Then he said it's not helping at all. I was so annoyed. What the hell. Then a few days ago, he talked about it again, whining about his problem and saying he was not able to find the rest of the amount he needs and my promise to help him with $1-2k is not helping much as well, and he is in deep problem. Now his savings are also getting less and less. I just listened to him, in my mind a lot of suspicions. I lost my trust in him and he notices it. He told me that he knows I don't trust him, that's why I m not helping him more. I told him yes I dont trust you. Then I asked him, "what do you want from me?". Then he was so hurt and said that he is not a cheap guy, if he just wants to use me for money, he would have just looked for a rich girl. He knows that I m not rich and he is in love with me and he wants to spend his life with me, etc. I just listened but I didn't know what to believe. Is he most likely to be a scam or a guy who will use girls for money or is there any chance that he is sincere???
OceanGirl Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Girl, put on your running boots - it is a scam
JaneDoe35 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Honestly, this man sounds like a creep. This is NOT normal trustworthy behaviour.
inthagong Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 just be really really careful here... I see disater looming... Talk to ur family before you go handing money over to this wanker.
green_tea Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Oh no, there is no way this guy is sincere. No decent person would even hint at asking a person they never met for money. And then to ask for more when you even offered some is just rude. Sorry but he really is just using you, and my advice would be to stop all contact with him.
Titania22 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Don't give or lend money to people, unless you are prepared never to see the money again.
ascendotum Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 No way would I be handing over any money if this was a girl in the equivalent financial position, even if she was gorgeous. Can this guy qualify for residency if he cant even scrape together this $6k (assuming he has much more than this stockpiled for his business). His family + friends wont back him, then what a f***ing cheek to ask a mere aquaintance on other side of the world. Do not give this guy a $ unless he first comes out and tries to establish himself. I have heard of too many stories of people (M + F) exploiting others on date sites, though 6 mths to cultivate a mark is pretty unusual.
harmfulsweetz Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 He's using you. Even if he wasn't, the ungrateful manner in which he has treated your offer is a red flag in itself. Cut contact. Never lend money to someone you don't 100% trust. I'd only lend the sums of money you're talking about to my best friend or my family, and my best friend I class as family.
Chicago_Guy Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 You should have your head examined if you even consider loaning thousands of dollars to someone whom you have never met and who lives in another country.
utterer of lies Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Is he most likely to be a scam or a guy who will use girls for money or is there any chance that he is sincere??? He is scamming you. How more obvious can it be?
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