Sheppy99 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Is she sending me mixed signals or am I not being forceful enough? So I've been talking to this girl for the past month or so and in the last week or so things have really picked up. I wake up to messages from her on my cell phone and we literally message each other from the beginning of the day until we go to sleep. It's been like this for the past week and a half or so. It doesn't matter who she's with or what she's doing, she's always messaging me updating me on what she's up too. We hung out for the first time last night and went for coffee. We ended up driving around and I showed her a new house I had just purchased that I was moving into soon, nothing too heavy but she really opened up to me about her families past etc. Really felt like I got to know her on another level. We are going to a parade together this weekend and I managed to ask her for a movie afterwards. I have no idea if this is a date or just 2 friends hanging out, lol. All my friends are telling me it's a date but they don't know the mixed signals I am getting from her. One other thing about the parade thing. I asked her to the parade 2 weeks ago and she pulled the "can i bring a friend" act. Well after things started to pick up, oddly enough, the friend isn't coming anymore and it's just us now. Surprise surprise right? One last thing is we both really enjoy christmas (I know this sounds corny, lol) But we already have plans to do all these fun christmas things together and I joked with her asking if it's a good idea for just friends to be doing all this kind of stuff together and she was like "don't you ruin my christmas, I'm really looking forward to doing all of that with you!" So all that being said, you would think it was pretty cut and dry right? Well here and there I find she will say things that really make me wonder. Like tonight for instance she brought up an ex bf who just told her he still has feelings for her? Is that possibly her way of trying to make me attach value to her? I'm playing my cards close to my chest and I haven't really been very open with the idea of us dating cause I don't now what I want yet but lately I'm really starting to dig this girl. It's not the first time she's brought up an ex that still has a thing for her. It's really putting me off. She'll also say things like "ugh i'm going to lose my really good friend who used to give me advice all the time, but I still have you to be my friend who gives me great advice!" I'm really confused.....
that girl Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 How did you even met this girl? She'll also say things like "ugh i'm going to lose my really good friend who used to give me advice all the time, but I still have you to be my friend who gives me great advice!" This sounds like she just sees you as a friend. If you have hung out more than once, why haven't you kissed her? That would tell you where you stand.
Author Sheppy99 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 How did you even met this girl? This sounds like she just sees you as a friend. If you have hung out more than once, why haven't you kissed her? That would tell you where you stand. We work together and I made it kind of clear that I would never date anyone I work with in conversation with her when we first started talking. Now that I've gotten to know her, I'm not sure anymore The reason I don't want to try to kiss her yet is because if it doesn't go well, it will be incredibly awkward at work if it isn't reciprocated. 90 percent of the time it feels like it's pointing in the direction of her wanting more but than she'll say or do something that just throws me completely off. Like when she sees me, she runs to me and gets a big giant smile on her face. She'll touch my arm and stuff. All those kind of signs. Maybe she's mad cause I'm not picking up her signals and she brings up ex's as a way to place value on herself to say to me "Hey looks at these guys that want me, why don't you?"
that girl Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 We work together and I made it kind of clear that I would never date anyone I work with in conversation with her when we first started talking. Then why on earth would she think you were dating?
Author Sheppy99 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Then why on earth would she think you were dating? I'm not sure, but the signs are there that she wants more. I'm just confused about the conflicting actions that she does once in a while. Maybe she's doing it on purpose cause it's how she feels towards me. I'm sure it'll play itself out regardless. I still honestly don't think it's a good idea to date someone I work with but I am really starting to like this girl so I'm not sure what to do at this point.
utterer of lies Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I still honestly don't think it's a good idea to date someone I work with but I am really starting to like this girl so I'm not sure what to do at this point. Kiss her after the movie.
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