thinkgal Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 not sure if Im posting in the right place,, but I need strenght...IM in this relationship were I feel soo insecure and my bf I feel knows how weak I can be with him so he says the right stuff and I feel so powerless,, I want to be strong and be able to say fu*k it,, screww him ,,, I feel he may not be truthful to me and might be cheating,, and I already had a divorce and I wonder if maybe that is why Im soo afraid of letting this relationship go. I feel sooo stupid tonight, so very very stupid. I should be stronger,, I went throgh a divorce already and I remember that was horrible. I didnt wanna cry to a man after that no more, and now look at me. At pathetic me, and I know I should change and I feel like I can't. why?? cuz I have this thing where I dont want the other woman to win. I know pathetic but idk, all I wanted to do is vent, and really felt this was the only place to do so. ty
Don Ho Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 So you would rather be mistreated and cheated on than be alone? I think your fear is about being alone or failing. When you don't want to be alone you compromise your values and what you'll tolerate. If he's cheating on you and/or you're being a doormat, dump him. You already survived a divorce, so I'm sure you'll survive this break up. Woman up!
inthagong Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 ahhh why do we stay with people who make us insecure???? Ive been there mate and it doesnt get better, only worse.... Its guna be hard saying bye bye to this dick, but you NEED to do it, and once you have you will feel a big weight being lifted off your shoulders. We are all scared of being alone, but when it does end, you need to keep yourself REALLY busy, and the pain will go... I was dating a married guy for 4 months and we ended it two weeks ago...and already I am pretty much over him, even tho he told me I was his soul mate blah blah blah.... It is hard but it does get easier... Stay strong and never let someone else take away ur self worth.
Gunny376 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 We're each incividually responsible for our own happiness ~ not through that of another! Most people are about as happy as they make their minds up to be? Happinesss isn't a 'future" its a presence ~ a state of mind! Don't live your live for others ~ not your parenets, not your children, not your SO"s ~ live it for yourself. To do otherwise is only an excercise in disapointment! And the one that that gets disappointined? Is YOU!
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