Author 4321sn Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 I would never actually tell her. I just get so pissed off sometimes. I actually met her once. We had to stop by his house because he forgot to bring his insulin. I gave him his shot and as we were walking towards- he says "she's here!" I was so scared...I pretended I was a collegue. I had to stand there and lie to her. I was caught off guard. Now I regret lying... For many reasons..
Lauriebell82 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I would never actually tell her. I just get so pissed off sometimes. I actually met her once. We had to stop by his house because he forgot to bring his insulin. I gave him his shot and as we were walking towards- he says "she's here!" I was so scared...I pretended I was a collegue. I had to stand there and lie to her. I was caught off guard. Now I regret lying... For many reasons.. That proves how manipulative MM really is. He didn't want to get caught.
Fieldsofgold Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I've had that urge too, to find out what their marriage is really like, to find out the truth and to know what he was saying about me. Probably I wouldn't find any comfort in any of it, and I sure don't want to bring myself anymore pain right now. Just about handling what I've already got. I talked to mm's W. And his OW of 10 years, when I found out about them. I was a BS in the past, and would have given anything to know the truth, so I felt i should tell them. What you learn from the W will depend on what kind of person she is. In my case, I'm certain both the W and the OW lied to me about a lot of things (to make themselves look like the important one). They of course said some really ugly things to me. I don't think I learned much from them. Mostly I wanted them to know my story. Which they did listen to. Who knows what they believed. Later, the OW, in a jealous rage, tried to cause me a lot of trouble. If you talk to the wife, there's a good chance you won't know any more than you did. There's a good chance you will hear some hurtful things. It might cause trouble for you. But she will know what she's married to, and there's a lot to be said for that.
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