Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I met a great guy not even 2 months ago. We have gotten together several times. He calls me nearly every night. We were intimate sooner than I would have usually been with a guy but so far things are going well. Even though we have not had the "exclusive talk", he has told me he isn't seeing anyone else and he prefers getting to know one woman at a time. At the beginning he did ask me to be patient with him. He was in a relationship a few years ago that left him broken hearted. Even though it hasn't been long that we have been seeing one another, I feel myself falling faster than I would like to. I think about him all the time and worry I may be into him more than he is into me. He is originally from Canada and came here for his job. He doesn't have family here, just a few friends. He has not met my family yet but I thought about inviting him to Thanksgiving dinner, so he wouldn't be alone. When we first started seeing one another he told me that last year he went to his bosses home for Thanksgiving and he felt pretty awkward. So yesterday I sent him a text asking him if he would like to join me at my parents home for the holiday. He responded within a minute with "yeah sure. I would love to". So I guess my question is, does this mean he sees me as girlfriend material?
AverageJoe Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 he told me that last year he went to his bosses home for Thanksgiving and he felt pretty awkward. If he felt awkward at his bosses place, this will pale in comparison. Poor fella has no idea what is about to befall him. And after just two months. What the hell is he thinking.
welikeincrowds Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 So I guess my question is, does this mean he sees me as girlfriend material? That's not the right question. Have you discussed exclusivity? I see that you have not. In this discussion you will find the answer to your question, and many more incidental questions, as well as the most important question -- the one you actually care to know.
welikeincrowds Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 If he felt awkward at his bosses place, this will pale in comparison. Poor fella has no idea what is about to befall him. And after just two months. What the hell is he thinking. +1 like button
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 +1 like button what does that mean?
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 That's not the right question. Have you discussed exclusivity? I see that you have not. In this discussion you will find the answer to your question, and many more incidental questions, as well as the most important question -- the one you actually care to know. ????????????????????
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 If he felt awkward at his bosses place, this will pale in comparison. Poor fella has no idea what is about to befall him. And after just two months. What the hell is he thinking. whats with the nasty response? I don't have the kind of family that makes people uncomfortable.
AverageJoe Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 whats with the nasty response? I don't have the kind of family that makes people uncomfortable. I apologize for my post not shooting out confetti in the form of fluffy turkey feathers as you must have expected.
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I apologize for my post not shooting out confetti in the form of fluffy turkey feathers as you must have expected. Ok. Go troll elsewhere.
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 +1 like button Gotta love trolls.
Eeyore79 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 You need to have the "exclusive" talk with him before you go jumping to conclusions. He may well see your invitation as just a nice gesture, and an improvement over spending the holiday with his boss. If you've only seen him "several times" in two months, that's not a great sign - from the beginning I saw my bf about 3x per week. Him calling you could mean he likes you, but could also mean he's lonely and/or hoping for phone sex. The only real way to tell if he's interested is to ask him - two months seems kind of a long time to wait to discuss exclusivity.
welikeincrowds Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Gotta love trolls. I'm not trolling, and neither, I don't believe, is he. I found his post funny. You seem confused about what I wrote, so let me clarify. There's no sense, or point, in trying to divine some sort of greater understanding as to "how he sees you" from irrelevant actions like "he wants to eat Thanksgiving dinner with my family." He could be doing that for any reason. The only things that matter here are the facts of your relationship. Until you make a point to discuss exclusivity with him, you don't know if he wants to be exclusive. It's really that simple.
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 You need to have the "exclusive" talk with him before you go jumping to conclusions. He may well see your invitation as just a nice gesture, and an improvement over spending the holiday with his boss. If you've only seen him "several times" in two months, that's not a great sign - from the beginning I saw my bf about 3x per week. Him calling you could mean he likes you, but could also mean he's lonely and/or hoping for phone sex. The only real way to tell if he's interested is to ask him - two months seems kind of a long time to wait to discuss exclusivity. Several times is about twice a week. Seeing as how I go to school and work a full time job and he works about 60 hours a week. Sometimes thats all people can do and we also live an hour apart. Phone sex? lol no. 2 months is nothing. I don't rush into things.
AverageJoe Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 2 months is nothing. I don't rush into things. Inviting him to an intimate family function, a holiday event, with your family isnt rushing things after only two months?
Author Metoo33 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 Inviting him to an intimate family function, a holiday event, with your family isnt rushing things after only two months? I don't think so. As I said he doesn't have any family here. I appreciate advice not negative trolling comments.
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