fun2bewith Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 You can answer anything. Below are some questions to help you think... I would just like to know what you were thinking when you were 20 years old.. How did you see life at age 20?... What did you think about relationships and the future?... How serious were you about love?
sedgwick Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I was very very messed up from a lifetime of severe bullying. I had zero self-esteem. I was in a college theater department with some serious mean girls who made my life miserable every day because I dared to be talented and smart. For part of that year I had a boyfriend, but only for the sake of trying to be normal (he was very, very normal. I was very, very not.) I didn't fall truly in love for the first time until I was 23. I was way, WAYYYY too immature at 20 to really have any idea what love was, at least in the sense that I understand it now. This is why it scares the sh*t out of me that my 33-year-old brother is engaged to a woman who just turned 21.
Eeyore79 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 When I was 20, I really didn't know who I was as a person. I had very low self esteem from having been bullied at school and treated badly by men I dated, and I was extremely lonely and lost. I wanted to meet someone special to spend my life with, and I was constantly saddened that such a person never seemed to come along. It took me several more years to find myself, and then to find a decent and trustworthy partner.
ReturnToSender Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 The age of 20 was a full year for me... My bday and my daughter was born in Jan...my bf/fiance was overseas and I was stationed in a city far from home, so I was alone most of the year, with the exception of 2 friends who gave me tons of moral support. It was a super hard year on my own...with plenty of emotional breakdowns, I spent more time with the chaplain cause I was losing it, or in the hospital cause my daughter as always sick, then I did at work. I was also completely and totally broke...my budget for my food was literally at about $20/mth. I ate A LOT of cream of wheat. A LOT! I tried holding it together, waiting for my fiance and looking forward to being with him, getting married, being a family... He finally did at the end of the year and things were great...for a whole month. That was most definitely, without a doubt, the hardest most challenging year of my life. I was super hopeful, I never did completely crack though everyone was afraid I would and wouldnt have blamed me if I had. And I do often think back to that year and realize if I made it through that, I can make it through *anything*.
cerridwen Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 At 20 -I was outwardly confident and inwardly brutally insecure -I depended on other people's approval -I unknowingly looked to men to validate me -I was serious about love and was always in long-term relationships -I didn't "know" myself and looked to relationships to define me -I didn't know all the shapes and sizes Losers came in and accordingly spent too much time on a few -I wanted to get married and have kids some day but wasn't in a rush -I was still trying to figure out where I fit in the world--what I was meant to do for a career--how I should act.
Author fun2bewith Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 At 20 -I was outwardly confident and inwardly brutally insecure -I depended on other people's approval -I unknowingly looked to men to validate me -I was serious about love and was always in long-term relationships -I didn't "know" myself and looked to relationships to define me -I didn't know all the shapes and sizes Losers came in and accordingly spent too much time on a few -I wanted to get married and have kids some day but wasn't in a rush -I was still trying to figure out where I fit in the world--what I was meant to do for a career--how I should act. Thank you! Exactly what I needed to know! You really helped me by giving me this information...
havehope Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I was on top of the world at twenty. Good college, good major, good friends, madly head over heels in love. This was the last time I remember being truly 'happy' in my life. Thought I was going to get engaged a few years into future. I was as serious as I've ever been. too young? too naive? maybe, maybenot... but I'm here now striving for 1/2 the happiness I had a few years ago
D-Lish Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I was awkward and insecure at 20, not quite fully developed emotionally. I was a bit self absorbed, and my self esteem was dependant on what others thought of me. Today, 20 years later, I barely remember the guy I was dating at that time. He was so important to me then- but now I barely remember anything about our 3 year relationship.
LoveTruthChaos Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I am 26 now, and I'm growing by the day. Every three years, I enter a personal growth cycle. I have just entered another 3 year cycle. At 20, I was entering a cycle. I was a strange little one. - I thought I knew a fair bit, but I knew NOTHING (I still know nothing) - I was a little boy crazy, coz i'd been single for a year - I had my heart broken...twice - I thought those 'heart breaks' were the worst pain I had ever felt - I had NO idea what I wanted out of life, except for the career I was studying towards (I have now switched careers) - I did not want kids, marriage, anything - My views on the world were so deep, but my 'street sense' was greatly immature - I had no clue - I couldn't control my anger - I had no clue - I did a lot of growing up, because my whole family fell apart - I had no sense of forgiveness, and I used to wish such bad things upon those who had inconvinienced me in any way. On the outside I was lovely. But I was a monster. - I was a mess - I had no clue I am AMAZED how much i have grown since then. I am nothing like the girl I used to be. Hope that helps ) -
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