Author insecure_girl Posted December 1, 2010 Author Posted December 1, 2010 Ok. I guess I'll just have to learn to love that reality. I mean, sure, I want a guy to love me for who I am, like I said, I'm not that crazy or deluded, but I am just coming out of a really bad relationship and don't even want to think of dating, I don't even want to think of falling in love yet... that being said, I'm still a woman and want to be attractive, and have guys give me attention... attention which I've never had... of course being told you're hot all the time must be boring, but I've never had that... not even my ex told me that... it was all "You're so smart!". Just that. Smart. Which is good... but I love sex... and brains have nothing to do with sex... I guess I just follow the rule of wanting what I cannot have.
harmfulsweetz Posted December 1, 2010 Posted December 1, 2010 Ok. I guess I'll just have to learn to love that reality. I mean, sure, I want a guy to love me for who I am, like I said, I'm not that crazy or deluded, but I am just coming out of a really bad relationship and don't even want to think of dating, I don't even want to think of falling in love yet... that being said, I'm still a woman and want to be attractive, and have guys give me attention... attention which I've never had... of course being told you're hot all the time must be boring, but I've never had that... not even my ex told me that... it was all "You're so smart!". Just that. Smart. Which is good... but I love sex... and brains have nothing to do with sex... I guess I just follow the rule of wanting what I cannot have. The rule is "Love what you do have." Make a nice little list of all your good qualities, physical and otherwise. Consider that list. It could be your eyes, hands, lips, nose, legs, brains, whatever it is-but it's a part of you that you love and cherish. Big boobs are big boobs. Some girls have them, some don't. Some don't have them and pay to have them (which more often than not looks ridiculous). Find your focus, remove it from the things you don't like, and concentrate on the things you do. I honestly think losing weight may be beneficial to your self-esteem, not because of how it looks, but because how that achievement will make you feel. It won't be a 'quick fix' like a boob job will, it'll be something you worked really hard to do, and I think all those added endorphins and the general feeling of doing good for yourself, will really help you. Have you tried Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred workout DVD? It is brilliant. It lasts 20 minutes per level, you start with level 1 (which is still trying and does push you) and she really knows how to motivate you just when you're about to give up. It's only 20 minutes, but you'll feel it in the morning, in a good way. I just found using that every day really boosted my confidence, she's a proper trainer, she knows what she's talking about and none of the moves are difficult. It's basic stuff, which works. It promises that you will lose up to 20 pounds in 30 days, if you do it every day. I think before you start looking for a relationship, you have some heavy work to do on yourself and how you perceive men and male desire. It's tough, nearly if not all, women have been there feeling, thinking the same thing. Imagine you got the boob job and it went terribly wrong, and you were left severely disfigured in the boob department. Your ex may not have called you those things, but he was also a jerk to tell you that he prefers big boobs. So I wouldn't pay too much heed to his opinion anyway. In time, you'll be hunting for the guy to call you beautiful, not hot.
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