AlisaMarie Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 If you read my last thread, my story is posted there. The problem right now is that I am having a really weak moment! I feel like I need to talk to him and text him how I am feeling. I know this isn't the right thing to do...but there's almost been 2 weeks of no contact and something has to give! Help!
worlybear Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 If you read my last thread, my story is posted there. The problem right now is that I am having a really weak moment! I feel like I need to talk to him and text him how I am feeling. I know this isn't the right thing to do...but there's almost been 2 weeks of no contact and something has to give! Help! Don't!! You'll be cross that you gave in to the impulse- when I get desperate to contact the X , I post on here instead,that way I get to write out how I feel but retain my dignity. Try it!
Theforgottenmelody Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 i took me a while before i understood what people on this website are saying with the NC. bottomline if you call you lose in everyway possible. you will go back to square one feelings wise , he may want to talk to you which is worse and he wont respect you. trust me i been there all year. and am now just starting to cope been NC for 4mths I miss her everyday but i will never call!!!!. do what your heart feels because exp is the best teacher.
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I know, but what if he is also pulling the NC rule and it's a mistake, oh boy... I think I am in the denile phase. He was the one to always come back, and end it- but the last time he started pulling away so I ended it and told him he was dead to me. So why would he try to contact me? I feel like it is what he wanted though. AHhh... I am so confused I wish I never met him.
Theforgottenmelody Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 put it like this If its worth it it should be worth it!!!! im not against you calling because life is to short just dont beg!!! its your relationship and your heart andyour feelings! find out where his mind is and go from there, you shouldnt have to convince him of anything
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I was thinking about saying something like this: I was just thinking about you. I wanted to say that after all is said and done that I loved and cared a ton. I am sorry that we caused hurt for each other and I can't have ill feelings for someone that meant so much. I don't want to be "friends" per se, but I want to have peace in my heart about our situation and what we've been through. Too much???
Theforgottenmelody Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 we are all human with flaws insecurities etc. forgiveness is not a magic wand it comes when we are ready to accept things and are in a good place in our hearts. with that said i wouldnt call it ill feelings its more like anger from the good memories. in time it all starts to come into place dont rush it
Author AlisaMarie Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 You're right, I just meant "ill feelings" because of how I ended it. Saying he was dead to me and such. Trust me, he came back with some insults. So really there are some "ill feelings." Maybe I can just keep putting my thoughts on here and leave him be.... idk!
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