natalieB219 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 So, I've been cheated on in the past. I break up with them, a couple months later, I'm over it, I move on. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I've always felt like he's better than anyone else I've ever dated, and I've always had a good feeling about him. Well, for a couple months he's been distant, and blamed it on me...which kind of caused me to become suspicious. One night he went to bed a couple hours before me. When I went into the bedroom, he was sleeping with his phone next to him, which he never does. As I went to go lay down, I tried to put my arm around him to give him a little hug, and he pulled away from me. As he did that, he rolled on his phone, causing the screen to light up. I immediately saw what I had been dreading. There were multiple "scandelous" pictures from a female, and a lone string of texts of pretty vulgar things. A fight followed, lots of harmful things said in both directions, and then he left. I had never felt so heartbroken in my entire life. After a long discussion I said I would try to make things work, but I couldnt promise I could get past any of this. He claims nothing physical ever happened between the two, and they had only been texting for about a week, and she texted him first. Since he thought I didn't love him as much, he felt like she had real love for him..and since he's insecure, he fell for it. I looked at our phone records, and it's true they had only been texting for about a week and a half..but it was constant. Page after page of "sent" and "received" between the two. Which makes me think he really did want more from her. He let me set up his phone to where he can only receive and send calls/texts to 20 numbers that I approve of. He says he really wants this and he knows how bad he messed up. He's been working at this factory for a while, and a couple months ago asked for a raise or promotion. His boss finally got back to him and said he would get a raise, and run a machine on second shift (he currently works on first shift). Come to find out, this girl works second shift at the factory. This causes me to wonder if things between them will become a reality once this promotion happens. I just don't know how to get past any of this. This has left me so insecure and worried, that it makes me feel physically sick to my stomach. I want to believe him, but it's so hard...How am I supposed to be ok with those two being together 10 hours a day? Did I make the right decision by giving him a second chance? What can I do to stop feeling so horrible all the time? Just any advice helps =/
bleeg Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hmmmm... Honestly? If this was me...I would move on. I don't know how hard it is to find out that kind of info.
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