MissKnowitall Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 My boyfriend has a crazy obsessed exgirlfriend. His description of her was exactly that. I see now what he meant! I snoop her facebook page (bad I know) and she is friending all his friends. She is over 35 years old mind you but she will NOT let go. It is over between them but she is not over him. She was obsessed when they were together he told me and still is. It annoys me. I know he loves me but the thing is they do have lots of mutual friends together. Plus they both are recovered drinkers (how they met, in AA) and I've never had that problem. It is a tight group of friends and she is part of that group. He keeps me seperate from that stuff and I'm ok with that. I know he no longer has contact with her. He isn't around their group much right now but I'm sure eventually their paths will cross. I dont know if he has told her that he has moved on. He simply avoids her. Meanwhile she obsesses on. Im not threatened but really annoyed that she is now adding all his other friends as hers. wtf? Anyway to hold onto him I guess. It is absurd. She also posts things on his best guy friend's page, trying to act like he's a good friend to her as well. It is so blatant what she is doing. She's added all his 'likes' in music and books. She is trying to hard to identify with him when in fact, other than AA, they don't have much in common. Seems like a huge way to manipulate into someone's life. She tries to be all holier than though, new agey type stuff when I see her as an obsessive shrew. How can I get past this? I dont want to talk to her ever. But what is with women that will NOT LET GO???
that girl Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 How exactly is she stalking him? By friending their mutual friends on Facebook? Unless there is more to this, I think you are assuming too much.
zengirl Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 If it's all happening on Facebook, I really wouldn't worry about it.
Cee Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I've been in AA and the support circle is wide and interconnected with everybody knowing/being friendly with each other. Her being FB friends with his friends makes a whole lot of sense b/c of AA. Think of it like a small college where it would be expected that FB friends would overlap a lot and not mean much. I would back off from stalking Facebook looking for signs and trusting your BF. Try to apply the principles of AA yourself and "let go, let God." Or even try saying the serenity prayer- works for me.
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