coltsfan1 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Just as simple as the title, was getting dinner with a couple we both use to be friends with. She was there with the guy she had been cheating with (FYI he is a douche) having dinner and drinks. We ended up at a table about 8 feet from them, they finished their meal and left we did the same. Was nice to get it out the way, was also funny too cause she drove back by after she left and told other mutual friends that she didn't see me?? Go figure, even after she asked me to be civil I would have thought she would be happy knowing no arguments/fights would occur if or when we saw each other??
Trovador Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 May I ask, why is it so important to you? No meaning disrespect, but it seems you are not entirely over her... not that you are saying you are but one would think that after some months one's reactions would be more... neutral...
Chi townD Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 She's playing stupid, she knew you were there. She just putting up some stupid front. Pay no attention to it. Not worth your time.
Hhhh Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Hope you looked good! Loll there's no need to anaylze everything in your comments he saw his ex and wanted to share what happened
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 @Trovador- I am for the most part over it, was just first time shell shock. I think she expected me to leave and not stay. I just thought it to be strange that the last time we spoke she went out of her way to ask me to be civil and polite if we ever saw each other out. I can't see being anymore civil than to just leave it be. I also thought it was funny that she sat with her arms and legs crossed after I got there, they didn't speak to much wasn't alot of laughing/flirting. Just thought it to be amusing that just my presence could do that. I now know that she is trying to avoid me since her bestfriend asked me 4 times if I was going to a concert that they are going to, but didn't tell me who she was going with. GAMES!!!! Its is just a HUGE change from at the beginning when it was rub it in my face, she what you last out on deal. But that was before her dirty little secret came out!!
Trovador Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Yep, it must be hard to appear cool in front of an ex when there are still feelings for them...
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 @Hhhh I didn't look bad but I had been out on my motorcycle (that she helped me pay for lol). I guess I just have questions as to why she would have asked things out of me then acted the way she did about it once it happened? WHO KNOWS, Im just typing what Im thinking in my head!!
Lemontang Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Yeah it's good to get the run into the ex out of the way test. How you react is a good self indicator on how far you've come along in getting over them. I'm still waiting for that to happen to me. We've seen each other at a distance driving around since we live near each other and both have very distinct cars (doesn't help that mines kitted out like the Fast & the Furious ). But yet to come face to face 11 months on. But funny enough I ran into one of her sisters & her brother in law on the weekend at a concert out of town...very random. I was genuinely stocked to see them too (I've always held her family in high regard), needless to say they'd have reported back to her running into me and that I have a new GF in tow.
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 sounds good, I have seen my ex's family out and about but I didn't speak to them and they didn't speak to me. I just laughed cause I know what she has given up by playing her hand they way she has. @Lemontang- was your ex's family nice to you? and do you drive a yellow stang?
Lemontang Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 @Lemontang- was your ex's family nice to you? and do you drive a yellow stang? lol. Yes their civil to say the least, her mum loves me and apparently cries when my name gets brought up as she thinks I was the best thing ever to happen to her daughter & grand daughter. At first her dad thought I was a prick for throwing her & her grand daughter out...which I never did, heck I even tried to organise counselling for her. In short she'd told her family only what she wanted them to know. I filled him in with the drinking, money issues she had & constant abuse but spared him the infidelities (no parent wants to hear that about their children), but I did confide in her brother in law (the one I ran into) about it shortly after I'd found out, and dare say he told her sister. As for the car no it's a kitted out MX-5 (Miata for you US folk), but I'm manning up soon from the hairdressers car to a twin cab ute Nissan Navara (pickup truck for you US folks again).
skydiveaddict Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 Go figure, even after she asked me to be civil I would have thought she would be happy knowing no arguments/fights would occur if or when we saw each other?? Never trust a woman. Especially one who dumped you. Who knows what evil lurks?
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 i dk she is broken and I have to accept it!! just sad that things panned out like this!!
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 just feel like venting and I dont want to start another thread!! Well I haven't heard from her, and I haven't been waiting really. I even went on the first date since we broke up. Had an awesome time, dk if it was just nice being out with someone and it not having all the baggage/drama like being out with the ex or if it was that we flat out had fun!! the new girl is closer to my age (im 30 she being 27) the ex is only 23, we had dinner, drinks, and I stayed the night !! first thing new in 4 years, her divorce was final in august and me being fresh out of a LTR guess we are both each others rebounds. I think i am going to ride this train out for a bit, she is pretty much the polar opposite of my ex blonde, green eyed, tall, not large in the chest, while the ex was brunette, short, dark eyed, and very chesty.. I know im going to ride this train out for a bit , the new girl and I have talked and she just wants to have real fun. drama free, baggage less, fun, even if i don't stay the night!! its awesome to have a hot girl that actually wants to spend/share her time.. she is really cool and we push/pull each other great.. Well guess the ex can just miss out!! im going to make every effort at having/showing this girl an awesome time, still alittle bit of my heart looks to the past. thats just human nature...... WISH ME LUCK!!!!
Graceful Posted November 24, 2010 Posted November 24, 2010 just feel like venting and I dont want to start another thread!! Well I haven't heard from her, and I haven't been waiting really. I even went on the first date since we broke up. Had an awesome time, dk if it was just nice being out with someone and it not having all the baggage/drama like being out with the ex or if it was that we flat out had fun!! the new girl is closer to my age (im 30 she being 27) the ex is only 23, we had dinner, drinks, and I stayed the night !! first thing new in 4 years, her divorce was final in august and me being fresh out of a LTR guess we are both each others rebounds. I think i am going to ride this train out for a bit, she is pretty much the polar opposite of my ex blonde, green eyed, tall, not large in the chest, while the ex was brunette, short, dark eyed, and very chesty.. I know im going to ride this train out for a bit , the new girl and I have talked and she just wants to have real fun. drama free, baggage less, fun, even if i don't stay the night!! its awesome to have a hot girl that actually wants to spend/share her time.. she is really cool and we push/pull each other great.. Well guess the ex can just miss out!! im going to make every effort at having/showing this girl an awesome time, still alittle bit of my heart looks to the past. thats just human nature...... WISH ME LUCK!!!! I just re-read your thread, and it sounds like you are really on your way! Great news, and good to see someone moving on in a positive way. I love that you see that you are attracted to someone who is the opposite of your ex, and maybe someone closer to your age will be more mature and is what you need. Sounds like you have come a long way and learned from your last LTR. Now, I won't get into the fact that the Patriots kicked the Colts' azzes last weekend, will I??? (couldn't resist) Hey, you can't call yourself Coltsfan without us football fans noticing, can you? Have a good time with your new friend, no pressure, and as you get to know her, I'll bet you get to know yourself better, too. Nice going.
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Posted November 24, 2010 @Graceful- I am going to have as much good clean FUN with her as I can!! we have plans for the day after thanksgiving. I can't describe how nice it was to hangout and not wonder about who she was with the night before, or who was texting/calling her. It was a little sad to think that my ex and I let it get so bad, but hey thats the way it is!! Im going to just have fun and enjoy her company!! @seibert253- thats a Theory of a Dead man lyric!! great song and so true!! Just trying not to flaunt it..
Author coltsfan1 Posted November 30, 2010 Author Posted November 30, 2010 I have been spending time with the new girl and we have been having a ball!!! Another girl that I dated 6 years ago just came back into my life, her sister works at a place a good friend of mine does and I didn't even know it was her sister. So guess I might start dating (not screwing) her as well. I just want to enjoy myself and get the mojo back going again. Then I will try to find a brand new girl that I have never met and chase her!!! Things are looking up, but I won't lie I still think about the ex and what she is doing sometimes but now I know that I can live without her. I have also came to the understanding that I need to work on somethings about myself to be a better man, and I WANT TO!!!!
andyohyeah Posted November 30, 2010 Posted November 30, 2010 you sound like you are really happy and doing quite well! get that mojo back!
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