tigressA Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I rebuilt my profile on OKCupid shortly after I broke up with C, mostly just to browse. I wasn't expecting what actually happened... Someone came up in my matches who intrigued me. I had checked out his profile a few times and anonymously saved him in my favorites. After a couple days of stalking he still hadn't stalked back, so when I saw he was online Thursday I sent him an IM. We talked for roughly 3 hours that night (half on IM, half on phone) and he asked me out for Friday. Friday we went out for dinner. We stayed past closing time talking (I'm a regular) and then we decided to go bowling. We signed up for 3 games and took turns trash-talking. The flirtation was ramped up significantly; he easily found excuses to touch me. Once when he bowled a strike there was a special pin in the front so he got to spin a wheel for a prize, and he gave it to me. When we left the bowling alley we walked around the college I attended. I gave him a bit of a tour. We sat in his car for awhile after that, talking. It was getting late so he drove me back home. We did what I thought would be a goodnight kiss, but it was the start of an hour-or-so-long make-out session. When I ultimately had to get out of there, he said he'd call me. He called me at about 8:30 tonight, and we talked for over 2 hours. He asked me out again for this Friday. I wondered about this happening "so soon", but then thought: "This? Who even knows what 'this' is? No point in being concerned about 'this'." So I'm just having fun. I really like that I like someone, that I click with him. It's very fun...very nice...very easy.
DontWorryBHappy Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Sounds good to me. Dont worry about things moving "too fast". The most important thing is that it FEELS right to you, which you say it does . Things moved very "fast" with my boyfriend, but thats because they happened so naturally that it would have been a shame to try and control the pace, and to this day it is the best relationship I have ever been in... like a dream really. So keep having fun and enjoy it!
Author tigressA Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I wasn't (and still am not) worried about the pace of things between us. I was somewhat concerned with the idea that this was happening "too soon" after I ended my last relationship (less than a week). But I looked at the facts: I was coping just fine. I wasn't desperate for just any company. And it was only one date.
Author tigressA Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I talked to him again today. I like him...we have some strange things in common, and yet we're still rather different. He's the first remotely sports-interested guy I've met in a long time. I don't normally attract guys who are into sports, as I'm not a big fan. Our plans for the weekend had to change as something came up for me, so we're meeting Saturday instead of Friday. It was cute, we both (kind of sheepishly) admitted we didn't really want to wait until then. I guess I have a real 'type' now too, judging from my track record. This guy's also Indian, works in engineering, etc. But unlike the others he seems much more Americanized. There's a bare trace of an accent that comes through once in awhile, depending, and he's been stateside for 7 years. I just seem to attract these guys like honey attracts bees.
D-Lish Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Just enjoy it Tig! I'm in a similar situation and I have decided to just go with the flow! This is good, and something you need right now. Enjoy it!
Author tigressA Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 You're right, D. It IS really nice. I did have some reservations because of the timing but they've disappeared. I just get good vibes from him. Nothing feels forced...I feel like he could be one of my closest friends because we hit it off so well, and yet there's also a lot of physical attraction. I thought we'd both go mad with frustration in the car Friday night. Now I just have to wait until Saturday...sigh. Luckily I have too many things to occupy my time until then.
sugarmomma Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 So happy for you T!! You've gone through so much with the ex and you deserve something simple and satisfying. Best wishes!:bunny::bunny:
Author tigressA Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 So, in about 5 hours I will be on date #2. I'm all giddy. We've been talking every day since last Sunday and have grown progressively creeped finding out how much we have in common . He sent me an email earlier today saying he hasn't shaved since he saw me last because he remembered I said I like facial hair. Cute. :laugh:
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 How many outfits are laying on your bed?
jerbear Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 There should be no outfits laying on T's bed after the date, only T and date. Good luck and have fun T!
Author tigressA Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 How many outfits are laying on your bed? Several! But I'm all dressed already! I decided on a cream cable-knit sweater--it's a bit oversize, so the black lace trim on my bra is peeking out some at the V-neck. A triple-strand necklace with black and gray beads, dark wash skinny jeans, and my high-heeled black suede boots over them. I'm wearing my hair up, too.
threebyfate Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 There should be no outfits laying on T's bed after the date, only T and date. Good luck and have fun T!It's winter. She needs to start out dressed. Anything after that...well...que sera! Several! But I'm all dressed already! I decided on a cream cable-knit sweater--it's a bit oversize, so the black lace trim on my bra is peeking out some at the V-neck. A triple-strand necklace with black and gray beads, dark wash skinny jeans, and my high-heeled black suede boots over them. I'm wearing my hair up, too. Sound hawt, darlin'! Have a great time.
Author tigressA Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Thanks, you two. I need to do some crazy dancing around to burn some excess energy.
Author tigressA Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 I just got back home a little while ago. I went to his (I'll call him "R") neck of the woods, and he took me out for dinner to this small Indian cafe. We were sitting there and Wheel of Fortune was on one of the TVs. We were having fun guessing at what was on the board and made it into a competition. I won 2-1. R kept insisting it was 1.5-1.5 because he "helped" me with one of them. We bar-hopped a little bit afterward, and I got drunk after 2 rum-and-cokes. I had warned R before I was a cheap bar date and he said, "I didn't think you'd be THAT cheap!" We were all over each other all night and we ended up having a sleepover, during which the inevitable happened. We were woken up at around 6:30 A.M. by a bunch of firefighters chopping into the roof of a house behind his. We went to a nearby window to watch for awhile and then went back to bed. We went out for lunch and then came back to watch a movie. He gave me a really nice kiss goodbye when he dropped me off, said he had a great time and that we'd talk soon. I like him. He likes me. Things are good.
johan Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 We were all over each other all night and we ended up having a sleepover, during which the inevitable happened. You paid your taxes?
SilentVoice Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Awww , I am a little green >-_-< . Congrats !Sounds delightful. The best things come to us when we aren't expecting. ;-)
Author tigressA Posted November 21, 2010 Author Posted November 21, 2010 Very true. I hope I get to see him again soon. I'm on vacation for Thanksgiving all this week.
threebyfate Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Wow tigress, that's a long date! Glad you had a great time and that things are going so effortlessly.
Author tigressA Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 Wow tigress, that's a long date! Glad you had a great time and that things are going so effortlessly. Yeah, it was long...the one drawback is that I'm feeling rather lethargic now. The first night sleeping somewhere new isn't particularly blissful, especially when sharing a bed.
threebyfate Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Yeah, it was long...the one drawback is that I'm feeling rather lethargic now. The first night sleeping somewhere new isn't particularly blissful, especially when sharing a bed. *tucks tigress in for an early and long night in her own bed*
Author tigressA Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 *tucks tigress in for an early and long night in her own bed* "Waaaaaaaaaaahhhh!" :( It's funny; I don't have a whole lot to say about this situation. Perhaps because it's going so well.
threebyfate Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 "Waaaaaaaaaaahhhh!" :( It's funny; I don't have a whole lot to say about this situation. Perhaps because it's going so well. Awww...don't cry. Sleeping is good for you. You'll need to reserve your energy for your next long date. It's cool to hear that it's going so well.
jerbear Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 Yeah, it was long...the one drawback is that I'm feeling rather lethargic now. The first night sleeping somewhere new isn't particularly blissful, especially when sharing a bed. That is SO TRUE. :rolleyes: Awww...don't cry. Sleeping is good for you. You'll need to reserve your energy for your next long date. It's cool to hear that it's going so well. I suggest using Rosemary Mint in addition to coffee / tea to stay awake.
Author tigressA Posted November 22, 2010 Author Posted November 22, 2010 That is SO TRUE. :rolleyes: I suggest using Rosemary Mint in addition to coffee / tea to stay awake. We did fall asleep holding hands, which was cute. I think I prefer that to spooning because you're still touching, yet you have your own space. I'm so used to sleeping alone that it's difficult to adjust to having someone beside me. I could definitely get used to waking up with him, though. :)
threebyfate Posted November 22, 2010 Posted November 22, 2010 I suggest using Rosemary Mint in addition to coffee / tea to stay awake. Caffeine taken intravenously.
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