xpaperxcutx Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I thought people would advocate he call? Isn't calling a better way to gage a response than a text?
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 18, 2010 Posted November 18, 2010 I thought people would advocate he call? Isn't calling a better way to gage a response than a text? Well yeah, he should have done that from the beginning. There's something about people these days which makes them averse to calling. Anyway, her response to the text he sent was evidence enough. She flaked out on him.
Author jimbo Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 This girl is driving me crazy. Last night, after I sent that text saying I was doing well, I sent I would be interested in seeing you again. Then the next day, she replies, yes, most definitely!!! That is what she typed for verbatim. I am not sure how to respond, or if I should respond at all. It took her a day to respond to the text I sent on Tuesday and another day to respond to the one I sent yesterday. Even I am at a loss... I do not understand.
welikeincrowds Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 (edited) Even I am at a loss... I do not understand. There's no sense at being angered by the sea, as it will always ebb and flow. The only sensible act is to decide whether to swim or remain on shore. EDIT: wow, that sounded a lot more meaningful in my head than it did after I wrote it. Anyway, some mild flaking comes with the territory. It's no fault on you if you decide to look past it, so long as you don't get fooled for a third time. Edited November 19, 2010 by welikeincrowds
Author jimbo Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 Have no idea what to say. She normally replies back fast or within an hour or two. The last two texts took each a day to respond. Which leads me to think little interest. But then, why reply the next day with yes, most definitely!!! Makes no sense. Plus, I do not like running after people. Or do you think she likes the chase? I am thinking about just waiting and seeing if she sends another text or calls. Two can play at this game. All's fair in love and war, no?
CLS63AMG Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 Stop contacting her...women who are interested dont take 24 hours to reply with meaningless text messages, they reply in 24 seconds. Whats that saying, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me... Find another date and keep on truckin'.
Author jimbo Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 Stop contacting her...women who are interested dont take 24 hours to reply with meaningless text messages, they reply in 24 seconds. Whats that saying, fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me... Find another date and keep on truckin'. I did not respond. I am curious to wonder if she sends another text or calls.
welikeincrowds Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I did not respond. I am curious to wonder if she sends another text or calls. Nah man, don't waste your time. Call her to plan a date, or don't. Games will get you nowhere.
lovebitme Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Nah man, don't waste your time. Call her to plan a date, or don't. Games will get you nowhere. Thus the mind itself is bowed to the yoke: even in what people do for pleasure, conformity is the first thing thought of; they like in crowds… welikeincrowds- I'm curious where did that quote come from?
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 I am going to go against the grain: she gave you somewhat of a green light by saying "yes, definitely!" Text her and ask for dinner/movie whatever on a specific day. Really, just try it. You have nothing to lose. Being a guy, most women want you to pursue. If she gives you a wishy washy answer or flakes again - move on.
johan Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 (edited) I agree with OceanGirl. It's time to send her a picture of your genitals. Edited November 20, 2010 by johan
Author jimbo Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 26 hours to respond to a text? Shows low interest and I feel I am wasting my time. I am tired of pursuing and pursuing and then get a few words back a day later each time. Come on. I feel like a joke continuing on. Yea, she's attractive, yea, she's smart, yea, we have a lot in common. But, I do not like to be treated like yesterday's newspaper. If she has a slightest interest, she can text or call. But, this is too much too early on.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 26 hours to respond to a text? Shows low interest and I feel I am wasting my time. I am tired of pursuing and pursuing and then get a few words back a day later each time. Come on. I feel like a joke continuing on. Yea, she's attractive, yea, she's smart, yea, we have a lot in common. But, I do not like to be treated like yesterday's newspaper. If she has a slightest interest, she can text or call. But, this is too much too early on. Eh, the guy I am currently going on a second date with took almost 48 hours to respond to my e-mail. I decided to go ahead anyway.
Author jimbo Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 (edited) Eh, the guy I am currently going on a second date with took almost 48 hours to respond to my e-mail. I decided to go ahead anyway. Do you know when our first date was? October 25. Two Saturday's later she was "sick". Then she wanted to meet Monday, I was unavailable, so we were going to meet Friday. Then I got that call 3 hours before the date. Followed up Monday via text, took a day to respond. I then responded Tuesday, she then took 26 hours to respond. All times before this week, pretty fast, a few hours. A day to type four or five words. Come on. Edited November 20, 2010 by jimbo
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 Do you know when our first date was? October 25. Two Saturday's later she was "sick". Then she wanted to meet Monday, I was unavailable, so we were going to meet Friday. Then I got that call 3 hours before the date. Followed up Monday via text, took a day to respond. I then responded Tuesday, she then took 26 hours to respond. All times before this week, pretty fast, a few hours. A day to type four or five words. Come on. Two Saturdays later? What happened initially to wait two Saturdays for the second date?
Author jimbo Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 She went away for Halloween weekend. Then, had plans with friends the Saturday after, but then was sick. Last Friday we were then going to meet, but she cancelled.
OceanGirl Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 One of the most important things in early dating is momentum. Sounds like you two have lost yours and interest faded. You can still try the direct text just so you know you have 100% done everything you can do.
Author jimbo Posted November 20, 2010 Author Posted November 20, 2010 Story of my dating life. Used to it already.
SunsetRed Posted November 20, 2010 Posted November 20, 2010 You did the right thing by respecting the fact that the 2 of you are strangers and by not suggesting meeting up at each other's houses. She does sound like a drama queen so if I were you, I'd just pull back and see if she contacts you. If she does, have fun getting to know her but don't be surprised if she pulls more drama on you.
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