silentdivide Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hey everyone! This is my first post, although I have read numerous threads of this forum and found them extraordinarily useful! Anyway, here's the quick and dirty of my story: I met this lovely girl a few weeks ago. We've been on three wonderful dates and seem to be compatible in many ways. She's a semi-shy/semi out-going girl...somewhere in the middle, but unyieldingly friendly and down-to-earth (I'm certainly not used to this in girls!). Spends alot of time with her family, which is super cool. We've both confessed that we like each other. No kissing thus far. Not a lot of touching on her part beyond meeting and departing hugs. We were texting each other good night and good morning about a week ago, but only because I initiated it for the most part (with the exception of two times). Since our last date that has dissipated and we've sort of transitioned over to facebook messaging. Not because I wanted to, though. I found myself disliking always having to be the one to pull the trigger. I should note that she responds welcomingly and happily every time. So, I tried the old "don't text her and see what she does about it" thing and it only took her a couple days before she sent a facebook message hoping everything is well and asking how this thing I went to was. I responded accordingly and reciprocated asking how she was and so forth. She messaged shortly after that to further proceed the conversation and then closed it off with a "have an excellent night" in the mid-afternoon. I hadn't a chance to even ask her out again. So, I went out with a ton of friends had a blast and got loaded and ended up drunk texting her that I missed her. Oops! But, surprisingly, she took to it well and said she missed me too. So we're texting back and forth again (I guess), but nothings happening or progressing. She said she wanted to see me again and I said well then we should probably do that. I think she was evidently trying to hint at me to set a date....but.... Here's where I'm confused: I'm a pretty busy guy. I have to constantly juggle my life, but do always make time for people who matter, ALWAYS. However, sometimes I don't have time to make great plans for dates and can be to exhausted to do so as well. I have actively pursued this girl and planned and made the three dates happen, which collectively were rather expensive. Why does it seem to me like she is not putting in any effort to pursue me or try and see me? I have put in the effort to bring her her fav drink, send her kind little messages, plan and take her on dates, and etc (and not to a stalker-extent) but nothing in return? Now, I'm not asking for her to plan an extravagant evening, but perhaps just merely ask me to hang out or ask if I want to do something with her. I'm confused and its really aggravating me! After writing this, it occurred to me that a huge part of me prefers a girl who can drive a little if you know what I mean? Take the wheel for a bit. Just. for. a. while. ! What do you experts think? :-)
BobSacamento Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Why should she? She probably doesn't even know if you like her since you haven't even made a move. She fears the rejection I would suspect.
utterer of lies Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 No kissing thus far. See, that's the problem. How can you go on a date and not kiss? And why would you go on a second date if the first one didn't end in kissing or more... Don't be such a pussy.
that girl Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 It has been three dates. Some people worry about coming on to strong so they let the other person lead. As long as she is responding to texts, calls, etc. Don't worry. And kiss her.
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