jazzie Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 About a year ago, I reconnected with my ex on facebook. The problem is, he lives abt 8hrs away from me. At the time, we were both involved with other people. Six months later, we were both single and we started talking more and more. I go visit him, we meet in the middle, and he will be up here to see me this weekend. He is everything that I every wanted in am man... He is currently finishing his senior year in college, and whenever I talk to him about us being in a committed relationship, he tells me that right now he is too busy to devote the time and effort into a relationship but as soon as he graduates (DEC 10, 2010) that he and I WILL make things work... I know all of that sounds nice but here's the problem... the last two months or so, he and I have hardly been talking or texting. He says that it's because he is so busy working and finishing up his degree and I have been trying to be understanding. Well the other day he tells me that he is not going to walk at his graduation so I shouldn't bother coming and that instead he is going to London and Germany. (a graduation present from his family)... but then today while we were on the phone, he said that he was going to buy his cap and gown. When I questioned him about it he said its so he can take pictures??? After further questioning, he told me that his last final is on the same day as his graduation but his plane leaves right after he finishes his test. This all sounds so fishy to me. It's got me feeling like he doens't want me there because maybe he a girlfriend that will be there. I mean, why would someone not celebrate their graduation after a 6year program? It just doens't make any sense. He is coming out here this weekend and I really don't want to ruin our time together by arguing. My friend suggests that I enjoy my time here with him and then just drive down to his graduation to see if he's there. What if he is lying? What if there is another female? Do I have the right to be upset since he and I aren't in a committed relationship? Do I want to start a serious relationship with someone who would lie to me? What do you think?
folieadeux Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 My University actually had a similar program to your ex’s. After we were notified that we were eligible for graduation, we had the option of taking part in the actual ceremony or not. For those who chose not to, the option was given to rent or purchase a cap and gown for pictures to be taken, etc. A lot of people chose not to participate (for several different reasons) so I wouldn’t put so much weight on that. And it is also quite possible that he booked his flight right after his last exam is finished so that he can enjoy the most time he can have abroad. To me, it sounds like something bigger is making you not believe him. I personally couldn’t be with anyone I didn’t trust, be they eight hours or eight minutes away. December 10th will be here before you know it. I suggest you sit down and talk to him when he gets back so you both can figure out what you want to do in regards to making things official…or not.
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