studiomuffin Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 First off gonna warn that this will be long since i want to go into detail. The reason i like this girl is because, her black haired emo trend is a turn on for me, shes short, very cute, I love the shy girl personality and shes can be playful. Ok first off, how i met her. I met her threw a friend at a club. We were all drinking and i was slowly moving my way up to her to try my luck. Her friend tells her to kiss me, i missed out part of the conversation but it perked my interest. We end up just chatting, before we left the club we are cuddled on the sofa and when we left we are holding hands. On my way to the next club i get her number and she gets mine. I ended up getting a make out session in the next club but sadly i had to leave shortly after, telling her why since i had work the next morning. Now i text her acouple days later to say hello and trying to ask her out, I got a maybe but i though i would just wait for her to get back to me. I then talk to her friend who knows her and she told me, that the girl is the typical shy quiet girl. I kind of noticed she was a little shy on the night from tiny signals. So i tell her to find out what she thinks of me but in a more casual way without her knowing that i told her friend. I then called her on thursday for a few drinks on friday night but no answer so i text her if shes free friday night. I get another medium ish text and a maybe. She then pulls a sicky on friday night, i gave her the benefit of the doubt and took her word. She then says if i wanna meet up next week since shes getting paid. I say yes and we organised a date for thursday night next week. I told her i would organise the time since i didn't want her to worry and we were going to see a movie in the city so i had to work out getting us home as well. I then get a chain message from her and i just send something sweet back hoping that shes feeling better. I got no reply that night. Today i sent her a message saying the times we could go and offered what time she wanted to go watch it in the evening or much later. I got no reply and i then ask her on facebook after about 5-6 hours. I then got another maybe and a short ish conversation out of her before i went off facebook since i have work early again tomorrow. I just feel frustrated that she offers to meet up and then when i sort out a time she says "maybe" again so i don't know if shes gonna come on thursday or not. I could easily be wrong her and she could be infact ill and shy and wants to go out but is very nervous at the same time. Or i could be completely wrong, that shes not ill but trying to give signals that she doesn't want to go out with me. I'm gonna see her friend again this tuesday and find out whats going on because i'm loosing my patience a little. I'm gonna leave it a few days till i got my theory test out of the way then try to text her on wednesday and if i get another excuse, i'm just gonna tell her how i feel and that if she doesn't feel the same,she should just tell me so i can leave her be. Can someone please give some honest advice on how i should deal with this situation.
kdark Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Just let her be. Any more action on your part will make you come off as as whiney b#tch.
ascendotum Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 It seems like its 90% one way communication. I would not have the tolerance for pursuing this girl anymore than you have - beyond finding out what club she will be at on the weekend and trying to pick up again on that make out session that ended prematurely the last time. Seems like less talk/txt and more face to face interaction has served you better with this girl. She may be shy but you have given her ample opportunity to merely go with the flow here but she hasn't. You get a crappy chain msg from her..hey whoopee. It sounds more like she is just not that into you beyond an in the moment drunken pash in a club. Hopefully you get more positive feedback from her friend.
Author studiomuffin Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I thought it was kinda one sided and was planning to just leave her be last friday but when she invited me out for next week, it threw me off so i though i would give her a second chance. Like i said if she cancels again this thursday, thats pretty much it. I will just not bother to text or call her at all. I guess at least i can learn from my mistakes here and use my ego boost from that night to help find another easier. I just dislike how every girl i actually like either doesn't feel the same about me or is currently taken. The only women whom do want me are either under aged or 15-20 years older than me. Maybe its just my preception when looking for signals but since this is my first shy girl, the signals and hint seemed quite difficult to spot and it was harder tell if shes purposely trying to get rid of me or just shy. I guess my only option is to wait till wednesday, I asked one of my parents and they said to keep persuing her but i have my doubts. I have also been given advice to slow it down and wait for her. If i at least wait till wednesday i can talk to her friend and made my final decision. With any luck her friend has snooped around and looked into. In the end, i reckon if it doesn't work out i can properly just detached myself emotionally in a week or so but i hate to have another awkward ex female friend who doesn't even ecknowledge my presense
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