yobynnad Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I just need to say that I feel like I'm dying from holding in the fact I think certain girls are so ... I have no words. Hot/sexy isn't even the right word... It's not really a fetish.. It's because, I dated them when I was a kid, or rather.. they dated me These girls I knew in high school, who I always felt like.. we were of different backgrounds and social cultures.. so it would never really work out, yet to this day, that is what I'm physically attracted to. But, I feel I grown to no longer attract that crowd, sorta? Well, no.. because, sometimes, I still feel I do because of the way I dress, as though I'm really subconsciously still hoping to attract that. But, that my personality just feels it's gone back to "what I really know", which is my 'culture'. I'm speaking in code here because I'm afraid if I give specifics you'll focus more on that, then the point, which is... basically, I'm physically attracted to a different 'culture' (notice I didn't say race), yet, I no longer share the personality of that culture. So, I may date them, but then feel bored. And they feel bored. Because we're not connecting anymore. But, I still can't get rid of that, I guess, child sense of going off my physical attraction and feeling the 'good' feelings when I'm with that person I just 'think is really really cute' I feel a sense of doom over it. That, what I want inside, isn't what I want outside... or vice versa. That I'll just be alone. And hope, maybe when I get older, our insides will match again... Has anyone gotten this way as they got older? Did it change? Did you just, settle? I mean, is this what "settling" means? I heard that word but never cared to know what it really meant...
AverageJoe Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Settling means one who has compromised themselves. A person who once held themselves to a standard or even a higher regard with expectations. Only to later accept the things they initially found completely unacceptable to them. As time passes they ask themselves, how the hell did I wind up here! They settled for what they could get, or just stopped trying to get what they might be able to. As far as hot girls go, I am with you there. It makes me happy.
MrNate Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I've been there man. Sometimes there's nothing else to say but: Damn.
Mellisa Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I just need to say that I feel like I'm dying from holding in the fact I think certain girls are so ... I have no words. Hot/sexy isn't even the right word... It's not really a fetish.. It's because, I dated them when I was a kid, or rather.. they dated me These girls I knew in high school, who I always felt like.. we were of different backgrounds and social cultures.. so it would never really work out, yet to this day, that is what I'm physically attracted to. But, I feel I grown to no longer attract that crowd, sorta? Well, no.. because, sometimes, I still feel I do because of the way I dress, as though I'm really subconsciously still hoping to attract that. But, that my personality just feels it's gone back to "what I really know", which is my 'culture'. I'm speaking in code here because I'm afraid if I give specifics you'll focus more on that, then the point, which is... basically, I'm physically attracted to a different 'culture' (notice I didn't say race), yet, I no longer share the personality of that culture. So, I may date them, but then feel bored. And they feel bored. Because we're not connecting anymore. But, I still can't get rid of that, I guess, child sense of going off my physical attraction and feeling the 'good' feelings when I'm with that person I just 'think is really really cute' I feel a sense of doom over it. That, what I want inside, isn't what I want outside... or vice versa. That I'll just be alone. And hope, maybe when I get older, our insides will match again... Has anyone gotten this way as they got older? Did it change? Did you just, settle? I mean, is this what "settling" means? I heard that word but never cared to know what it really meant... I still think what we want inside is more important than what we want outside.Dont be afraid to acknowledge what your heart wants.You just cant ignore it.You have to follow you heart,give it a try and see if it'll work out this time.I dont think you'll be truely satisfied with getting what feels right outside if you choose to ingore that want inside. What are you afraid of going after what you want inside?What exactly are your fears?
musemaj11 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Naturally girls are no hotter than boys. Its just the testosterone talking. Its the testosterone pressure that makes them look hotter to you than they really are.
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