LK30 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hey there! I've posted on this site lots before, but thought i'd do it again. I've been single a year but recently met someone else. She's very nice but can't say I'm finding myself physically attracted to her unfortunately so I may have to end it soon :-( I don't know why but I keep having flashbacks about my ex in different ways. I do miss her but don't think she was the one, although I keep remembering her for the good times and that makes me miss her more! A couple of weeks ago I went to an event and had to walk past the ex's house (ironically with my new lady friend!) and her car was parked outside, and the other day I saw her go past me in her car, which is crazy as I haven't seen her for over 6 months then I see her car twice in under a week! I guess her name is fairly common but I often hear it mentioned, and even my new gf works in the same road as my ex lives. Has anyone seen the film serendipity? It's almost like the universe is telling me to make contact but I've been no contact since March. I shouldn't believe things like that, but I admit my heart did start racing when I walked past her house with nerves. I need to snap out of this as it's been a year now!
cerridwen Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hi--I'm just wondering what you would do/say to make contact? I believe in synchronicity (I haven't seen serendipity though now you got me curious about the film )
Margot Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I have also experience those serendipities moments. I have been broken up for about 4 months. I went NC because I wanted to heal of this long term relationship (6 years). During this past 4 months I have been avoiding place where I might come across him and have been ignoring his texts and e-mails. Well one day I was at my house working at my computer. I was telling myself that I had to make lunch, but kept prolonging it. But when I finally got out of the computer and started cooking I stop for a minute to see outside of my window and there was my ex passing by. In the only two minutes that I decided to look outside my window, is the exactly two minutes that my ex is passing through my building. He doesn't live near, he doesn't work near, so I don't know why he had to walk in my street. That after 2.5 months of not seeing him. I thought that that was weird but I just kept with my NC. One night I was watching some TV and saw a TV program that caught my interest. I thought of my ex, and said to myself that he might like this show and wanted to text him about it. And there only 2 minutes passed and he sent me a text telling me about the show. I just kept NC. The messages about things that I see that he might like are always when I feel fine and just see stuff that he might liked. But then I realized that even though this things happened I reminded myself that he broke my heart and that he treated me like ****.
stopthemadness Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I too feel like I get signs form the universe telling me thats hes thinking of me. But mostly I feel its just wishful thinking ya know? Its cause we still miss them I guess. In time this too shall pass. My ex is with someone new so truth be told hes thinking of her. Just keeping it real...
shayan Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I told my self I would call someone at exactly 4:30 today (I thought of it at noon), and she called me at exactly 4:30 literally when the minute swicthed. oh yeah, I don't believe in coincidence.
cerridwen Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I've come to believe in synchronicity because I experienced so much of it with this breakup. When you're open to the signs whether good or bad, you begin to receive more of them. For instance, after finding out yet again my bf was sexual online w/a stranger, I felt very wronged. But, he is a good manipulator and convinced me I contributed to the problem. Suffering from guilt about lies I told him in the past, I was very confused about whether I deserved such bad treatment. I was in extreme pain and uncertainty. One day when talking about something completely unrelated, my friend puled out a tarot deck and laid it on the table. Now, I'm not an advocate of tarot reading but I didn't want to offend her so I let her pull 3 cards from the deck. It was like being hit by a bolt of lightning. I had not told her anything about my situation and she still doesn't know. The three cards she pulled (according to the written interpretation in the book) were about 1) being wronged and it testing my base sense of integrity 2) ending things/cutting ties 3) believing in my own growing wisdom that my instincts are right. After she left, I went through all the cards to see if it was just coincidence. No other cards fit my situation NEARLY as closely as these did. No, it wasn't wishful thinking. It was clearly a sign I was right to end things.
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