Green Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 i'm just making lots of girl friends. I'm not gonna be a player and date a bunch of chicks. I've been most successful with women when we have become good friends, but there's some sexual tension always. I know the friend zone thing, but things usually turn out well Yeah you're creating the friend zone now. The friend zone is created by guys who are more comfortable aproaching women as friends instead of romanticly. They do it out of fear of rejection and then end up acting suprised and frustrated when they have built a good friendship. Friendship is not a vehicle to romances especialy if a friendship is being entered into with that purpose. Don't be "friendly" with girls you like... be "FLIRTY' and ASK THEM out... and MOVE on if they are saying no... until you try again. UR SUCESS RATES WILL GO UP.
Banega100 Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 well I got her number, but basically she told me she's likes me but isn't really completely ok with her breakup. she had been dating this guy for two years, so it was a while. I'd say it worked out well. she's probably the prettiest girl who I've actually known to like me. it was a plus in my book! thanks for asking! How did you get into that conversation? I take it you didn't ask her out then? I'm not gonna hit you over the head with this, because youve since said you'd rather be friends with her. You're gonna get friend zoned, because you displayed interest but didn't ask her out/kiss her i would guess. All the best.
Green Posted November 27, 2010 Posted November 27, 2010 How did you get into that conversation? I take it you didn't ask her out then? I'm not gonna hit you over the head with this, because youve since said you'd rather be friends with her. You're gonna get friend zoned, because you displayed interest but didn't ask her out/kiss her i would guess. All the best. Its not just that, you have to be willing to display interest (ask out on date) and not settle for anything less. (be friends with a girl you'd rather be dating). I'm not saying you should act upset or unfriendly (that would be uncool) but don't stick around and be or try to be friends with some one you wanted a relationship with.... kinda forget about her unless you are TRYING for round 2
Author bsilmb Posted November 28, 2010 Author Posted November 28, 2010 Its not just that, you have to be willing to display interest (ask out on date) and not settle for anything less. (be friends with a girl you'd rather be dating). I'm not saying you should act upset or unfriendly (that would be uncool) but don't stick around and be or try to be friends with some one you wanted a relationship with.... kinda forget about her unless you are TRYING for round 2 yeah I guess that does make sense. sometimes I just like to remain friends with girls I used to like. and sometimes when I like a girl I've been friends with, I become afraid to ask her out because I don't want to lose our friendship because she doesn't like me. I know chances need to be taken, but sometimes it's hard. I guess that's why if you like a girl, you shouldn't become too good of friends with her before you ask her out.
Green Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 yeah I guess that does make sense. sometimes I just like to remain friends with girls I used to like. and sometimes when I like a girl I've been friends with, I become afraid to ask her out because I don't want to lose our friendship because she doesn't like me. I know chances need to be taken, but sometimes it's hard. I guess that's why if you like a girl, you shouldn't become too good of friends with her before you ask her out. I know its hard. Its no big deal really. When I was your age I was probably worse with women then you are, I would freeze up and act really weird around any girl I found pretty. I would never ask girls out. I asked a girl for her number once in high school but then was to afraid to call it again or talk to her after trying twice with no answer. I was more interested in playing video games and getting into trouble with my friends, staying out all night just driving around with my friends. Wasn't until after High School and College that I got my act togather. Bottom line just enjoy HS and don't worry so much about girls because its the worrying and the over analyzing that screw you up. If you could just with out fear ask out the girls you liked you would have a gf pretty quick. But if you are afraid no reason to push it. I do fine with women now I have a great gf and really it would be fun to have had a HS sweetheart but it makes no difference now. Good luck dude just have fun and don't worry about "telling if a girl likes you" or stressing about this sht. Just learn to be yourself and have as much fun as you can. good luck
Banega100 Posted November 29, 2010 Posted November 29, 2010 Just learn to be yourself and have as much fun as you can. good luck Some pretty good advice here for dating and life in general
Author bsilmb Posted November 29, 2010 Author Posted November 29, 2010 Some pretty good advice here for dating and life in general thanks for the advice, both of you guys! I've been trying to do that the past few days, and not worry about anything like that. already seems to be working awesome. there's this girl in my newspaper who has seemed to be knew flirty, but it seems like she's being prettyfriendly lately and going out of her way to talk to me. she's also wanting me to help me her, so we email each other now. thing is she's got a boyfriend. I'm not gonna worry too much about it, but it's still cool. thanks so much for all the advice you guys!
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