I'm AWFUL at telling if a girl likes me or not! ?

[Tim The Enchanter]

no I never had problem with that-How about you look for that little post of mine and quote it again, like what you seem to be good at.

 

Nah, your posts aren't really that interesting.

[Tim The Enchanter]

 

when I'm doing that, before actually going to ask for a date, would asking for ber number be a better idea?? I know green said to ask for a date first but I don't think it is the best idea in my siuation. so how should I progress things in conversation?

 

thanks for the advice!

 

No, don't do that. Your starting point for conversation should be the date itself that you have in mind.

 

You: hi (insert her name), how's it going?

Her: hi (your name)...

You: What are you up to on (chosen date)? Would you like to go to (chosen date activity) with me?

 

If at any time she says, "you mean, like on a date?" you say "YES". And if she agrees, you get her number there and then. Call her to confirm everything the day before, unless you have the chance to see her in person.

[bsilmb]

No, don't do that. Your starting point for conversation should be the date itself that you have in mind.

 

You: hi (insert her name), how's it going?

Her: hi (your name)...

You: What are you up to on (chosen date)? Would you like to go to (chosen date activity) with me?

 

If at any time she says, "you mean, like on a date?" you say "YES". And if she agrees, you get her number there and then. Call her to confirm everything the day before, unless you have the chance to see her in person.

alright sounds good sir!

[bsilmb]

So you saw her today and neither of you were with friends... WHY DIDN'T YOU DO IT TODAY????? ignore the little voice in your head that keeps telling you NOT NOW NOT NOW and JUST DO IT!!!!! heck even if you are both with LOTS of FRIENDS... you CREATE the situation... say "come over here I want to show you something" thennnnnnnnnnnn ask her out away from friends.... if you can't get her away......... well then its a good indication of maybe she doesn't like you.. but she will take the second to walk around the corner or whatever to see what you have to show... and then u have her alone ask her out. If its in a hall and no one else is really close or no good friends are around but random strangers like teachers and students you don't really know are around then yes just go ahead and ask her out infront of those random people who cares if they hear more confident if they hear actualy... don't speak to quiet.

 

ASKING FOR HER NUMBER IS A HORRIBLE IDEA.. especialy for some one like you. Look you want to date her right? Well asking her out in person is your best bet of seeming 1) confident 2) Romantic 3) attractive... You have the best odds of getting a YES! in person. You ask her out over the phone or txt..... well its easier to say no... less confident... lame even.

 

You'll get her number no problem if you ask her out on a date "lets go bowling tomorrow" and she says "Yes" heck even if she says "no I'm busy" you still have a great chance of getting her number by just pulling out ur phone after you ask her out and she'll put it in for you. Heck after she says "yes" to the date or even if she says "no" she may then say "let me give you my number" or she may ask for yours... either way You get her to put HER number in YOUR phone and then you imeadietly txt her "Hey its ___________ now you have my number too"

 

Look the sad fact about when a girl does like you is.... it doesn't last forever. In fact especialy with YOUNG girls it has a chance to FADE or GO AWAY QUICK. The sooner you ask this girl out the BETTER. The closer it gets to the WEEKEND the more likely you will get a NO unless you are inviting her to a cool party you are going tooo... which is a good idea if you are invited to a cool party this weekend. but if not, then well just hurry. I'm disapointed in you passing up a great oportunity TODAY... you may not get as good an oportunity tomorrow but JUST ASK ANYWAYS. Stop being SCARED...

 

AND stop with this I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY crap. Just make it up as you go. Look if all you can think of is "I always get horny after lunch" then say that. You'll probably think of something better. And not knowing her actualy gives you more to say you can ask her questions like "whats your favorit colour" "Pink" "thats my favorit color to for a different reason" look you get the point... just say what comes to your head BE YOURSELF... and you don't always have to say stuff.... all you have to do is ask her out.... seriously if you are so incapable of having some small flirty conversation about NOTHING then just walk up to her and ASK HER OUT... better if you have some small flirty conversation about how she blinks or what time it is or how it rained that morning and then ask her out but keep time considerations in mind.....

 

 

MOST IMPORTANTLY DO ITTTTTTTTTTTTT> STOP THIS BULL CRAP OF PUTTING IT OFF AND OVERANALYZING AND ASKING FOR MORE ADVICE... YOU DONT NEED MORE ADVICE you'll teach yourself this sht but....... YOU NEED TO ACTTTTTTTTTTT>.......... AND QUICK......... SHOULD HAVE DONE IT TODAY!!!!!! U DONE F'ed up son.

 

I would have F'ed up to when I was your age. I sucked with women. A girl could have liked me just like your girl likes you and I was my own worst enemy Overanalyzing constantly comming up with excuses not to ACT afraid I was wrong or that it would be awkward had nothing to say. Sooner you get over being your own worst enemy the sooner things will work out. Want my advice ASK HER OUT.. then u'll get her number.

 

All your instincts are RIGHT....... the background chatter the voice that comes in afterwards... thats your fear ignore that

 

 

OK, now I must ask her out, it seems obligatory now! But this may or may not be important, but I found out she just got out of a relationship like a month ago, it may have been serious, idk.

 

Does that change anything?

 

I'll get the balls and just do it!

[Green]

OK, now I must ask her out, it seems obligatory now! But this may or may not be important, but I found out she just got out of a relationship like a month ago, it may have been serious, idk.

 

Does that change anything?

 

I'll get the balls and just do it!

 

Dude how seriouse could the relationship be YOUR IN HS. Just hurry up or she'll be in a relationship again before you have the balls. (sorry sorry to be so hard on you if you do chicken out just know that I always chickened out to and while I did end up dating a lot of pretty girls after college and currently have a great gf of over 2 years... I didn't so much as kiss a girl all thoughout HS and College because I OVERANALAYZED and was SCARED into doing nothing, I got off on just being a guy who didn't cause trouble by making BOLD moves like ASKING people out.. I GREW out of it eventualy and so will you... so nothing wrong if you chicken out... but damn it would have been sweet memories to have a HS sweetheart... I want that for you if its meant to be... so just DO IT)

 

YOu got the balls now use them. Remember ASK HER OUT... it doesn't have to be perfect... have fun with it... but mumble your way through if thats the best you can do... IT DOESN"T MATTER WHAT YOU SAY... its more about WHAT YOU DONT.. so ASK HER OUT... and Be flirty... (touch her arm grab her hand ect) and before the date is over you must TRY TO KISS her... (you'll probably chicken out... but prove me WRONG and TRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY) very important

 

Also ASK FOR THE DATE (don't call it a date.. call it whatever you are asking her to do)) Remember letting her no something like "I LIKE YOU DO YOU LIKE ME TOO" is LAMEEEEEEEEEE!!!!! but being confident enough to let her know "I think you're pretty" that is COOOOOOOOOL!!!!

 

SO if she asks "is this a date" "well I want to go bowling with you and I think you're pretty so call it what you want" hahah thats cool

 

Oh so yeah butter her up with a "your pretty" or a "Sweet voice" or other compliment on the date, before the date.. or BOTH

 

ANd TRY TO PICK HER UP... if your parents are driving you ask to pick her up... its better then meeting her.

 

Youll get the number after asking her out

 

 

Look just DO IT MAN STOP COMMING UP WIHT EXCUSES STOP ASKING FOR MORE ADVICE

 

I want see UPDATE we have date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

heck UPDATE She said no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you can't lose you are the man just for trying

[bsilmb]

Dude how seriouse could the relationship be YOUR IN HS. Just hurry up or she'll be in a relationship again before you have the balls. (sorry sorry to be so hard on you if you do chicken out just know that I always chickened out to and while I did end up dating a lot of pretty girls after college and currently have a great gf of over 2 years... I didn't so much as kiss a girl all thoughout HS and College because I OVERANALAYZED and was SCARED into doing nothing, I got off on just being a guy who didn't cause trouble by making BOLD moves like ASKING people out.. I GREW out of it eventualy and so will you... so nothing wrong if you chicken out... but damn it would have been sweet memories to have a HS sweetheart... I want that for you if its meant to be... so just DO IT)

 

YOu got the balls now use them. Remember ASK HER OUT... it doesn't have to be perfect... have fun with it... but mumble your way through if thats the best you can do... IT DOESN"T MATTER WHAT YOU SAY... its more about WHAT YOU DONT.. so ASK HER OUT... and Be flirty... (touch her arm grab her hand ect) and before the date is over you must TRY TO KISS her... (you'll probably chicken out... but prove me WRONG and TRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY) very important

 

Also ASK FOR THE DATE (don't call it a date.. call it whatever you are asking her to do)) Remember letting her no something like "I LIKE YOU DO YOU LIKE ME TOO" is LAMEEEEEEEEEE!!!!! but being confident enough to let her know "I think you're pretty" that is COOOOOOOOOL!!!!

 

SO if she asks "is this a date" "well I want to go bowling with you and I think you're pretty so call it what you want" hahah thats cool

 

Oh so yeah butter her up with a "your pretty" or a "Sweet voice" or other compliment on the date, before the date.. or BOTH

 

ANd TRY TO PICK HER UP... if your parents are driving you ask to pick her up... its better then meeting her.

 

Youll get the number after asking her out

 

 

Look just DO IT MAN STOP COMMING UP WIHT EXCUSES STOP ASKING FOR MORE ADVICE

 

I want see UPDATE we have date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

heck UPDATE She said no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! you can't lose you are the man just for trying

 

 

alright, sounds good, but what should i say? where should i ask to go? maybe be my usual stupid self and be like "hey so you wanna do something sometime" I know that sounds stupid, but she always thinks when I say stuff like that I'm funny. Thats how I got to where I am anyway

 

So i've basically decided I'm taking my chances. We got a break coming up, so if its a yes, then cool, date! if no, I have a week off to let things simmer.

 

AND IF i never fee like its a good idea, I'm in her class next semester and I'll have 6 months to talk to her and see what happens. But *fingers crossed* I don't wanna wait that long

[Green]

alright, sounds good, but what should i say? where should i ask to go? maybe be my usual stupid self and be like "hey so you wanna do something sometime" I know that sounds stupid, but she always thinks when I say stuff like that I'm funny. Thats how I got to where I am anyway

 

So i've basically decided I'm taking my chances. We got a break coming up, so if its a yes, then cool, date! if no, I have a week off to let things simmer.

 

AND IF i never fee like its a good idea, I'm in her class next semester and I'll have 6 months to talk to her and see what happens. But *fingers crossed* I don't wanna wait that long

 

If you don't ask her out tomorrow it won't ever happen. The fact that you have class with her next semester does not give you 6 months. If it doesn't happen tomorrow it never will. ASK HER OUT tomorrow.

 

WE TOLD YOU WHAT TO DO. SO you have to figure it out on ur own now.

If you say something as open as "want to do something some time" you will then need to follow it up with something to do sometime... plus it makes it easier for her to say no... cause you didn't even sugest anything. Just make something up....... "lets go bowling tonight" (see something to do some time.. the something is bowling the time is tonight) or "I know a great place we should go to eat at tomorrow" (again I've named something to do some time)

 

Since I'm guesing she doesn't have a car either MAKE IT EASIER on her AND HAVE YOU AND UR RIDE go pick her up for the dinner or bowling or what ever.

 

Good luck JUST DO IT... don't tell urself next semester or 6months it will never happen then........ DO IT!!!

[windows]

And don't you dare post back until you do it. We're quite sick of these non-update posts

[bsilmb]

If you don't ask her out tomorrow it won't ever happen. The fact that you have class with her next semester does not give you 6 months. If it doesn't happen tomorrow it never will. ASK HER OUT tomorrow.

 

WE TOLD YOU WHAT TO DO. SO you have to figure it out on ur own now.

If you say something as open as "want to do something some time" you will then need to follow it up with something to do sometime... plus it makes it easier for her to say no... cause you didn't even sugest anything. Just make something up....... "lets go bowling tonight" (see something to do some time.. the something is bowling the time is tonight) or "I know a great place we should go to eat at tomorrow" (again I've named something to do some time)

 

Since I'm guesing she doesn't have a car either MAKE IT EASIER on her AND HAVE YOU AND UR RIDE go pick her up for the dinner or bowling or what ever.

 

Good luck JUST DO IT... don't tell urself next semester or 6months it will never happen then........ DO IT!!!

 

ok minimal posts until tomorrow, but WHY must it be so hurried. wouldn't she be freaked out if I already ask her on a date. keep in mind we will have known each other for a week tomorrow.

[Green]

ok minimal posts until tomorrow, but WHY must it be so hurried. wouldn't she be freaked out if I already ask her on a date. keep in mind we will have known each other for a week tomorrow.

 

I'm most confident when asking out a girl I've known less then a day. The more time you know a girl before asking her out the more likely she is to "freak out" as you put it. If she "freaks out" then she is a "freak" now stop worrying about it. Stop believing the crap you make up because you are scared and stop over analyzing. WTF would a girl be more likely to go out with you after a month or 6 months or a year of knowing you???? Shes more likely to go out with you after not knowing u much at all. Look She likes you RIGHT NOW... that can only COOOL DOWN and BAM u missed ur WINDOW of OPORTUNITY. STOP!!!!!!!!!!!! OVERANALYZING AND JUST DO IT>......... don't ask urself why or what if this or that happens JUST DO IT AND STOP BEING SO SCARED AND CRAZY ABOUT THIS

[bsilmb]

I'm most confident when asking out a girl I've known less then a day. The more time you know a girl before asking her out the more likely she is to "freak out" as you put it. If she "freaks out" then she is a "freak" now stop worrying about it. Stop believing the crap you make up because you are scared and stop over analyzing. WTF would a girl be more likely to go out with you after a month or 6 months or a year of knowing you???? Shes more likely to go out with you after not knowing u much at all. Look She likes you RIGHT NOW... that can only COOOL DOWN and BAM u missed ur WINDOW of OPORTUNITY. STOP!!!!!!!!!!!! OVERANALYZING AND JUST DO IT>......... don't ask urself why or what if this or that happens JUST DO IT AND STOP BEING SO SCARED AND CRAZY ABOUT THIS

 

 

 

ok fine! no promises for it happening TOMORROW, but it's going down VERY SOON thanks so much for alll of the advice

[Green]

ok fine! no promises for it happening TOMORROW, but it's going down VERY SOON thanks so much for alll of the advice

 

If you see her tomorrow and it doesn't happen you just waste one more day and you give more time for her to like some one else. Just make it happen tomorrow......... DO IT. None of this VERY SOON bs .. YOU GOT THIS!

[runner]

bsilm- consider yourself lucky that this thread has even gone to six pages. most new members come on here seeking insight and barely get a single response only to see their enquirey fall into oblivion.

 

now make something happen.

[bsilmb]

bsilm- consider yourself lucky that this thread has even gone to six pages. most new members come on here seeking insight and barely get a single response only to see their enquirey fall into oblivion.

 

now make something happen.

 

 

that's a good point.

 

I've absorbed a lot of input and advice on this, and it would only be doing you all a dishonor if I didn't try to make something of it all.

 

this girl has giving me some really friendly signs. and must be at least somewhat attracted to me to continue to talk to me on a regular basis.

 

if there's one thing this site has taught me very well, it's not gettin hung up on one girl, unless we are exclusive. to tell the truth, I'm not hung up on this girl emotionally. I just have asked a lot on this site about it. she's cool and all but I'm notgonna put serious feelings into and get hurt.

 

the other thing that I think is vital to being successful, is I need to lose all my inhibitions and stop giving a ***c! if I can dothat, then I will be in debt to all ofyou!

[Green]

that's a good point.

 

I've absorbed a lot of input and advice on this, and it would only be doing you all a dishonor if I didn't try to make something of it all.

 

this girl has giving me some really friendly signs. and must be at least somewhat attracted to me to continue to talk to me on a regular basis.

 

if there's one thing this site has taught me very well, it's not gettin hung up on one girl, unless we are exclusive. to tell the truth, I'm not hung up on this girl emotionally. I just have asked a lot on this site about it. she's cool and all but I'm notgonna put serious feelings into and get hurt.

 

the other thing that I think is vital to being successful, is I need to lose all my inhibitions and stop giving a ***c! if I can dothat, then I will be in debt to all ofyou!

 

Shes just a pretty stranger. You don't really know her. and she doesn't really know you. So of course you shouldn't be obsessed with her... in fact never be obsessed with anything.. have passion for things. Passion for life, love, fun ect.

 

You should give a fck about this just don't give a fck about what people think or about if she rejects you. Only think about the REAL posotives that could come out of this the negatives are all made up and in ur head. Only the posotives are real.

 

I will consider you sucessful if you ASK HER OUT TOMORROW... FInd a way don't give up. Search her out and ASK HER OUT TOMORROW you do that you win no matter what she says really you do.

 

My main problem with women back in HS MYSELF! I couldn't get out of my head. I was afraid it would be awkward or I would feel like sht or what ever if a girl rejected me.... SO I NEVER TRIED even when girls seemed like they liked me... I would just be like "hey you think she likes me" and my friends would be like "yeah she came up today and talked to you and touched you ect" and I would just be like "nah shes just being friendly"

 

I remember I thought this one girl was SOOOOOOOOOO HOTTTTTTTT oh man. But I never even had the balls to talk to her. Then my friend who I thought I was cooler then asked her out... AND SHE SAID YES!!!! can you believe that a hot perfect girl said yes to some guy who I considered myself better then.......... but wait HE TRIEDDDDDD

 

I didn't learn my lesson that you need to try till after college. But boy oh boy let me tell you getting women gets easier with age. As you grow older you will care LESS about rejection and you will be HORNIER and well you get more sucessful as time goes on (only losers peak in HS) In HS I was 140 some times less... now I'm like over 200 with out even working out that hard... things just get easier. being more muscular is easier as you progress through your 20's and getting women is HELL of a lot easier as you go through your 20's so... don't put pressure like you have to get a gf. I was happy with out a gf... but YOU want this girl and you know it will be fun so just do it........ Ask her out.............. if you try atleast you can be proud. I'll cheer you on. You'll make my day if I come on tomorrow and its like UPDATE I DID IT I ASKED HER ON A DATE......... I don't even care what she says it means you battled ur demons...... don't listen to that voice that says Tomorrow.. next week... next semester........... dude if you don't do it Tomorrow it won't ever happen. U had a great chance today tomorrow probably wont be as good......... u just do it any way. You stay on the look out for her ... and u approach her. Just have FUN with it... if you go in expecting her to say NO but yet you still have fun.... then u win... means you went in with no expectations......... I'm not trying to say think she will say NO because all signs ALLLLLLLLLLLL signs point to her saying yes had you asked her today...... with time she may stop liking you... .but the point is alll signs still point to her saying yessssssssss but you should ask simply for the FUN of asking... don't worry about if she says yes.

[dispatch3d]

its not that you can't read girls signals. They are ****ing waving boobs in front of your face. The problem is you don't have the balls to ask for a number, make out with them, etc.

[bsilmb]

its not that you can't read girls signals. They are ****ing waving boobs in front of your face. The problem is you don't have the balls to ask for a number, make out with them, etc.

 

 

these forums has helped me find some!

[bsilmb]

no update needed today. I didn't see her

[810]

no update needed today. I didn't see her

you have her number don't you? call her up and ask her out.

[bsilmb]

you have her number don't you? call her up and ask her out.

 

naw I don't have her number.

 

I got her email address for the paper, but I'm not asking her outthat way.

 

just gotta hope I see her tomorrow

[dispatch3d]

getting a girls number is not a big deal. It's sort of like finding out where she lives. In fact I bet if you knew where she lived, you could get her number to.... I'd go so far to say I could get a number easier than I could find out where they live. Since the latter is kind of a weird question.

[Banega100]

what happened...?

[bsilmb]

what happened...?

 

well I got her number, but basically she told me she's likes me but isn't really completely ok with her breakup. she had been dating this guy for two years, so it was a while. I'd say it worked out well. she's probably the prettiest girl who I've actually known to like me. it was a plus in my book!

 

thanks for asking!

[bsilmb]

i'm just making lots of girl friends. I'm not gonna be a player and date a bunch of chicks. I've been most successful with women when we have become good friends, but there's some sexual tension always. I know the friend zone thing, but things usually turn out well

[bsilmb]

bump

 

 

 

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