Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Listen here buddy. Quit with the mind games and just ask her out. In my opinion, nothing you can do can change her answer (if she likes you, she'll say yes. If she doesn't she'll say no and you can move on) so therefore the only way is to just go in for the kill. I've made it a rule to avoid this psychological body language crap. Seriously, it's not the Cold War, there is no point in being subtle because I know that subtlety never pays off. Even if you have been over analysing these "signs", that still doesn't change the fact you like her. Go for her. Not just to seriously date her but to get over her if she doesn't like you as well. hahah yes I need to! so in your opinion, is this good evidence that she likes me? it's like I understand how girls work and what hey do to show guys they like them, then I become stubborn when it happens to me.
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 I must be the only person who does this. I know the signs of a girl liking me yet when it happens to me, I pretend there's a logical reason for her flirtiness. even two people who know her tell me she likes me, possibly half jokingly, but also half serious nonetheless. like I said how she keeps wanting me to and the girls response(someone who is decent friends with her) "oh yeah she does like you" what do I take from that? was she joking about it, or kinda dropping a hint to me??
windows Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 You're missing the point! You don't need evidence she likes you! Just ask her out in person!! My own rulebook on dating is that it's not worth entering this body language crap! You just want to hear something to convince you that if you ask she'll definitely say yes and I'll tell you, nothing on the internet nor in any book can provide that! If you need to be sure she likes you before you ask her out, then you'll never get anywhere in love. For your sake: Yes she likes you. She's crazy about you, now go and return the favour and ask her out!
windows Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 All you have to do is take her aside one of these days, talk to her and simply say "Will you go out with me?" or something similar along those lines. It's not a big secret!
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 You're missing the point! You don't need evidence she likes you! Just ask her out in person!! My own rulebook on dating is that it's not worth entering this body language crap! You just want to hear something to convince you that if you ask she'll definitely say yes and I'll tell you, nothing on the internet nor in any book can provide that! If you need to be sure she likes you before you ask her out, then you'll never get anywhere in love. For your sake: Yes she likes you. She's crazy about you, now go and return the favour and ask her out! alright thanks for the advice! and to all the others who helped me! especially green! I'm going to ask her out, just gotta move things along and see what happens. you see it's kinda hit or miss whether I see her, but now that we know each other I tend to see her a couple of times a day. if she initiates contact when were alone one day in the halls, it'll be a perfect time to casually ask her, right? now I just need a little advice about how to ask her out. I'm not sure where we would go, but not really something uber romantic right off the bat. she seems interested enough in me. today she was with some friend and she stepped away to try and toss my stuff on the ground while touching me a bit in the process, oughta mean something. I feel pretty stupid for doubting things so much when I look at it all.
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 All you have to do is take her aside one of these days, talk to her and simply say "Will you go out with me?" or something similar along those lines. It's not a big secret! haha, so my hallway idea was good? we see each other a couple times a day in the hall and it's only been a couple days, but she has made contact once a day. so she obviously isn't repulsed by me. so maybe we can be walking and I'll try to bull sheet some small talk, then kinda casually ask if she wants to do something sometime?
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 OK, it's always easier to see the signs from the outside, but this is getting ridiculous. RF WHAT DOES THIS GUY think is so ridiculous??
Green Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I'd say it's a GOOD update! so just to let you know, the running joke was how I shake my butt when icpick things up haha. well she always wants me to do it if she sees me by throwing something on the ground. we saw each other briefly today and we met eyes and she then smiled and grabbed for my stuff to toss on the ground. I didn't let her, but she touched me quite a bit when trying. good sign??? then I was joking with some workers about it and one girl was like "oh she really likes you" thing is I just don't know if they're playing along or are halfway serious. they say it not completely seriously, but still, what do y'all think? that's now two people who have said that. I have brought her up in conversation in both times, but I think it may mean something. her name is Kathy by the way, and Im Jake. Your update is more of what we already knew...its OLD NEWS. You should have ASKED HER OUT!!!! Girls interest is time sensitive especialy at a young age waiting can only risk this. YOU GOT THIS MAN GREEN LIGHT GREEN LIGHT MEANS GOOOOOOOOOOOO! OK, it's always easier to see the signs from the outside, but this is getting ridiculous. RF He didn't know what you meant. What refurb means is its obviouse to every one who reads what you wrote that SHE LIKES YOU... even YOU KNOW THIS but refuse to believe it out of FEAR OF REJECTION... stop being scared its not the end of the world to get rejected its good for you actualy. haha what's so ridiculous? I mean can't a girl just be friendly? I could be reading the signs wrong.... and those two people couldve been messing around even though they seemed at least halfway serious. I just need some advice please Ur not reading the signs wrong, none of the posters including me are reading the signs wrong. Two different unreleated people IN YOUR LIFE are not reading the signs wrong. are you mocking me? I mean, am I seriously missing all of these hints? I brush all of this off as her jus being a nice girl. it is interesting that we've known each other less than a week and she already touches me and is really joking with me. I may be overanalyzing all of those signs, but as I look back, seems like she is flirty. I mean, is there a chance that I'm completely wrong, or does this all mean she likes me? I kinda do want at least ONE girls input on this so I know I she was actually flirting with me. thanks in advance! Yeah youre overanalyzing and you need TO STOP. No more asking on the internet if a girl likes you. If you are right it will build ur confidence in believing you a right and if you are wrong well don't be hard on yourself you will see how you were wrong. You need to risk this.. ur not risking anything. Think of this as FUN, not stressful hahah yes I need to! so in your opinion, is this good evidence that she likes me? it's like I understand how girls work and what hey do to show guys they like them, then I become stubborn when it happens to me. Yeah u are stubborn you missed a GREATTTTT opportunity today to ask her out. "So I get the feeling you like me the way you're always looking at my ass" "NOOOO!" "well I think you do, lets get dinner tonight" You don't have to be that cocky about it but still even a lame "will you go out with me" would have probably worked today since you had a good energy going. JUST DO IT NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER.... SEEK HER OUT AND MAKE IT HAPPEN. I must be the only person who does this. I know the signs of a girl liking me yet when it happens to me, I pretend there's a logical reason for her flirtiness. even two people who know her tell me she likes me, possibly half jokingly, but also half serious nonetheless. like I said how she keeps wanting me to and the girls response(someone who is decent friends with her) "oh yeah she does like you" what do I take from that? was she joking about it, or kinda dropping a hint to me?? You can't go through life thinking people are messing with you. Trust that it was true, and even if she was joking... people JOKE ABOUT THE TRUTH. All you have to do is take her aside one of these days, talk to her and simply say "Will you go out with me?" or something similar along those lines. It's not a big secret! "will you go out with me?" is kinda lame... not as lame as doing NOTHING and wondering if a girl likes you by posting about it and blowing a good oportunity to ask her out... but he should go with something more like "Lets go bowling" or "lets get dinner tonight" Basicly STATE a TIME & ACTIVITY (make the date that night or the next day) (if she says I can't do it tonight, u say then how about tomorrow night?.. if she says no to that just pull out ur phone and get her number and ask her out a different day... ASK HER out then get her number NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. alright thanks for the advice! and to all the others who helped me! especially green! I'm going to ask her out, just gotta move things along and see what happens. you see it's kinda hit or miss whether I see her, but now that we know each other I tend to see her a couple of times a day. if she initiates contact when were alone one day in the halls, it'll be a perfect time to casually ask her, right? now I just need a little advice about how to ask her out. I'm not sure where we would go, but not really something uber romantic right off the bat. she seems interested enough in me. today she was with some friend and she stepped away to try and toss my stuff on the ground while touching me a bit in the process, oughta mean something. I feel pretty stupid for doubting things so much when I look at it all. Its ok don't feel stupid. When I was younger I was so afraid of getting rejected I NEVER ASKED ANY GIRLS OUT... not even ones that gave me signs... I was just to afraid. So good job on being braver then me. I once asked a girl for her number and tried to call it a few times but she didn't answer... so I never spoke to her again... thats how lame I was. Now I'm good with women and the only difference is I STOPED BEING SCARED and learned to just have fun EVEN IF A GIRL SAYS NO its still fun to TRY If she doesn't initiate contact with you, then YOU SEEK HER OUT. ANd just be casual about it. Feel free to tease her if that sounds fun "I think you like me" "noooo" "well lets get dinner tonight" (just don't practice, say what comes to your mind natural) If you get nervouse and stutter girls actualy find that cute.... so really just push through and ask her out and try to enjoy it. Talk yourself up and say I'm cool for trying . Look at her body if you need to get yourself horny for confidence. (having a boner can help lol just hide it under ur shirt or book u are holding if you do lol) haha, so my hallway idea was good? we see each other a couple times a day in the hall and it's only been a couple days, but she has made contact once a day. so she obviously isn't repulsed by me. so maybe we can be walking and I'll try to bull sheet some small talk, then kinda casually ask if she wants to do something sometime? Yeah do some small talk about how she acts like she likes you and what her friend said lol... then even if she denies it lie "ewww nooo" then stil lask her out haha. If you don't like that idea just grab her hand and play with it while talking about the weather haha and then ask her out. WHAT DOES THIS GUY think is so ridiculous?? You and ur over analysis and inability to just ask this girl out WHO YOU LIKE so stop worrying if she likes you. BUT ALL SIGNS POINT TO YES. If there is a girl you LIKE MORE THEN HER then you should also ask that girl out. You don't have to focus just on one girl haha... till one becomes ur gf. NOW ASK HER OUT... and KISS HER ON THE DATE. don't ask just kiss before the date is over... don't you dare say goodbye for the night without a kiss. also be flirty with touches like touhing her arm when she laughs at ur joke, or grabing her hand and holding it in urse for a moment.
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Your update is more of what we already knew...its OLD NEWS. You should have ASKED HER OUT!!!! Girls interest is time sensitive especialy at a young age waiting can only risk this. YOU GOT THIS MAN GREEN LIGHT GREEN LIGHT MEANS GOOOOOOOOOOOO! He didn't know what you meant. What refurb means is its obviouse to every one who reads what you wrote that SHE LIKES YOU... even YOU KNOW THIS but refuse to believe it out of FEAR OF REJECTION... stop being scared its not the end of the world to get rejected its good for you actualy. Ur not reading the signs wrong, none of the posters including me are reading the signs wrong. Two different unreleated people IN YOUR LIFE are not reading the signs wrong. Yeah youre overanalyzing and you need TO STOP. No more asking on the internet if a girl likes you. If you are right it will build ur confidence in believing you a right and if you are wrong well don't be hard on yourself you will see how you were wrong. You need to risk this.. ur not risking anything. Think of this as FUN, not stressful Yeah u are stubborn you missed a GREATTTTT opportunity today to ask her out. "So I get the feeling you like me the way you're always looking at my ass" "NOOOO!" "well I think you do, lets get dinner tonight" You don't have to be that cocky about it but still even a lame "will you go out with me" would have probably worked today since you had a good energy going. JUST DO IT NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER.... SEEK HER OUT AND MAKE IT HAPPEN. You can't go through life thinking people are messing with you. Trust that it was true, and even if she was joking... people JOKE ABOUT THE TRUTH. "will you go out with me?" is kinda lame... not as lame as doing NOTHING and wondering if a girl likes you by posting about it and blowing a good oportunity to ask her out... but he should go with something more like "Lets go bowling" or "lets get dinner tonight" Basicly STATE a TIME & ACTIVITY (make the date that night or the next day) (if she says I can't do it tonight, u say then how about tomorrow night?.. if she says no to that just pull out ur phone and get her number and ask her out a different day... ASK HER out then get her number NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. Its ok don't feel stupid. When I was younger I was so afraid of getting rejected I NEVER ASKED ANY GIRLS OUT... not even ones that gave me signs... I was just to afraid. So good job on being braver then me. I once asked a girl for her number and tried to call it a few times but she didn't answer... so I never spoke to her again... thats how lame I was. Now I'm good with women and the only difference is I STOPED BEING SCARED and learned to just have fun EVEN IF A GIRL SAYS NO its still fun to TRY If she doesn't initiate contact with you, then YOU SEEK HER OUT. ANd just be casual about it. Feel free to tease her if that sounds fun "I think you like me" "noooo" "well lets get dinner tonight" (just don't practice, say what comes to your mind natural) If you get nervouse and stutter girls actualy find that cute.... so really just push through and ask her out and try to enjoy it. Talk yourself up and say I'm cool for trying . Look at her body if you need to get yourself horny for confidence. (having a boner can help lol just hide it under ur shirt or book u are holding if you do lol) Yeah do some small talk about how she acts like she likes you and what her friend said lol... then even if she denies it lie "ewww nooo" then stil lask her out haha. If you don't like that idea just grab her hand and play with it while talking about the weather haha and then ask her out. You and ur over analysis and inability to just ask this girl out WHO YOU LIKE so stop worrying if she likes you. BUT ALL SIGNS POINT TO YES. If there is a girl you LIKE MORE THEN HER then you should also ask that girl out. You don't have to focus just on one girl haha... till one becomes ur gf. NOW ASK HER OUT... and KISS HER ON THE DATE. don't ask just kiss before the date is over... don't you dare say goodbye for the night without a kiss. also be flirty with touches like touhing her arm when she laughs at ur joke, or grabing her hand and holding it in urse for a moment. alright thanks a lot man! that's a ton of advice! but it all leads to me asking her out, so that's what I'm gonna do!
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 We're not baiting him... He came here telling a story of how a girl is flirting with him and he HIMSELF seems to think she likes him as well as independent sources like his hotel room mate said after a dance or whatever she seemed hot for him. Then he admitted he was a little scared to just ask her out even though he himself thinks she likes him but he is distrusting of his OWN feelings... but I trust them and I am 100% sure that yes she does like him. yes you are. independent sources don't matter. Also, a lot of the signals the girl is giving out is ambiguous. The guy wants to make sure, you give him advice yet you guys instead are pushing it with your own views. Well he doesn't have to build attraction if you read the details of his story you will see that he just needs to ACT while there still is attraction. Like I said in my 1st reply. I never wanted to give the apearance that asking a girl out automaticaly gets a girl to LIKE YOU. BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT figuratively speaking you do need a dog in the fight, ASKING a girl out give you a possible CHANCE and it is ROMANTIC to be invited out to something and ROMANCE does build attraction. Being BRAVE enough to ask out a girl you like is ATTRACTIVE. so you do agree with me. A possible chance if the 'dog' was trained properly for a fight, figuratively speaking. It is romantic, but it is not romantic if the girl isn't in to you. Romance builds attraction if there is one to begin with. Attractive only if she is attracted to you. Flattering nonetheless. His approach is to sit back and do nothing for now of course you like it. Buttt you already know the girl likes you, you're just AFRAID to trust YOUR OWN gut insticts. oh no, that's not what I said. He's actually doing something. The best way to learn is TO MAKE MISTAKES. But you don't seem willing to even TRY so how are you ever going to make mistakes and learn from them. I GAURANTEEEEEEE you will MAKE MISTAKES. Even if she says yes something will happen and you will LEARN FROM IT even if she becomes your WIFE you can't be PERFECT. True. But some/most people never learn and keep doing the same thing over and over again getting the same result. LESSON ONE>. STOP OVERTHINKING this sht and DO SOMETHING. ASK HER OUT. I know what I'm talking about I do well with women and one of the reasons I do well is because I TRUST MY OWN GUT INSTINCS and I"M NOT AFRAID TO BE MYSELF. he's not over thinking, merely playing the cards right. The most you could hope for from reading a PUA book or tape or what ever would be MOTIVATION. BUTTT the fact is PUA stuff is meant to MAKE MONEY, thats why they stretch it out and give code words to things that already have normal words for them. maybe for you when you read it, not for all guys though. What's money got to do with it?? Completely off topic..... I told him to torrent it. The code words are also irrelevant. YOU THINK THIS GIRL LIKES YOU, that alone should be good enough. If you ACT on this it will make you BETTER at figuring out if women like you or not either way. It will either CONFIRM or MAKE YOU QUESTION what you already know. That will teach you. The fact is its not just you who thinks this girl likes you, A lot of us do, including your hotel roommate who saw the entire thing (does he have a reason to lie) (do you have a reason to be dilusional about if this girl is flirting) Let's say, if he acted on it then got rejected, will he learn to figure out a woman's interest?? No he won't. If he had done like what mostly what you's wanted, to jump in straight away and ask her out.
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 What a load of cobblers. We're not "baiting" him, thank you very much. There is no set way of asking someone out - if someone is interested, they're interested. That's like saying there's a certain way to get a girl to kiss you. yes you are and your welcome. I wasn't talking about a set way of asking someone out. I was dispensing advice on what the OP needed and that was to figure out interest first then ask her out. and for the record, I'll answer your last sentence that's completely unrelated to my post- no its not. There is no certain 'way'. There are many different 'ways' to do things and then accomplish things. But there are 'ways' that can make accomplishing things easier.
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 According to him there probably is a certain way and instead of learning it for yourself its best to learn it in a book first from people who claim to be experts. Its funny though, hope we get a good UPDATE Again, that's not what I said. Re-read and comprehend my post properly.
runner Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 yes you are. independent sources don't matter. Also, a lot of the signals the girl is giving out is ambiguous. The guy wants to make sure, you give him advice yet you guys instead are pushing it with your own views. unless the OP was mischaracterising how things actually played out, i would still have to say that this girl does like him- at least on some level. and besides, at this stage, he needs to focus on how HE feels and what HE wants; if he wants to get to know her better and take her on a date, then he needs to make that known, without ambiguity, and just bloody go for it. she's at least giving him the GREEN (ha !) light to do so...
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 unless the OP was mischaracterising how things actually played out, i would still have to say that this girl does like him- at least on some level. and besides, at this stage, he needs to focus on how HE feels and what HE wants; if he wants to get to know her better and take her on a date, then he needs to make that known, without ambiguity, and just bloody go for it. she's at least giving him the GREEN (ha !) light to do so... see here its- "at some level", ....and what did he say or want?? He didn't say not wanting to ask her out nor did he say he wanted to wait things out a little longer. He just wants to see if there really is interest.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 and for the record, I'll answer your last sentence that's completely unrelated to my post- no its not. There is no certain 'way'. There are many different 'ways' to do things and then accomplish things. But there are 'ways' that can make accomplishing things easier. Didn't you say this earlier: What they miss is there is a certain way of actually asking out a person. Well done for contradicting yourself.
runner Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 then i guess the subtext here is: "dude, there are no guarantees in life" he can buy and read all the PUA books on the planet, and he'll still return to where he began. he needs to just go for it. ...and then come back here and tell us how he failed miserably, or got naked. either way its a win-win situation for him.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 (edited) see here its- "at some level", ....and what did he say or want?? He didn't say not wanting to ask her out nor did he say he wanted to wait things out a little longer. He just wants to see if there really is interest. Yes, and you seem to have a problem with the concept of us telling him to go for it, regardless of how he perceives her interest level. Edited November 17, 2010 by Tim The Enchanter
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Didn't you say this earlier: Well done for contradicting yourself. well thank you. But I didn't contradict myself. You took one post out of context. That was a reply to a post 'I don't want to mistake friendliness for flirting'. Op just said he wants to go through the motions of making sure before asking her out.
gypsy_nicky Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 (edited) Yes, and you seem to have a problem with the concept of us telling him to go for it, regardless of how he perceives her interest level. no I never had problem with that-How about you look for that little post of mine and quote it again, like what you seem to be good at. Edited November 17, 2010 by gypsy_nicky
Author bsilmb Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 see here its- "at some level", ....and what did he say or want?? He didn't say not wanting to ask her out nor did he say he wanted to wait things out a little longer. He just wants to see if there really is interest. yeah I haven't even decided when I plan on asking her out. I'm going to, just not sure about when. I am just mainly curious about if she she's interested in me. today I saw her in the hallway once and she was already looking at me and we had a smile and laughed. should I initiate coversations when things like that arise? we were walking on opposite sides of the hall, but neither of us were walking with friends. i just probably wouldn't know what to say, that's all. due to really not knowing each other too well. when I'm doing that, before actually going to ask for a date, would asking for ber number be a better idea?? I know green said to ask for a date first but I don't think it is the best idea in my siuation. so how should I progress things in conversation? thanks for the advice!
Green Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Let's say, if he acted on it then got rejected, will he learn to figure out a woman's interest?? No he won't. If he had done like what mostly what you's wanted, to jump in straight away and ask her out. If he acts and gets rejected, and instead of feeling sorry for himself he notes what he did wrong, he realizes that its fun chasing girls and getting rejected didn't harm him... and he tries again with another girl or the same girl... well he'll learn a lot and be a lot closer to being comfortable enough to just do this stuff on his own. Confidence is what he can gain either way. In fact willingness to fail when you were trying your best to win breeds confidence. People so afraid to fail that they don't even try, thats sad... but thats how a lot of guys are especialy young ones. Facing failure builds character when done with a posotive attitude. see here its- "at some level", ....and what did he say or want?? He didn't say not wanting to ask her out nor did he say he wanted to wait things out a little longer. He just wants to see if there really is interest. Look here is the problem with your advice. We read what he wrote but we are not taking it LITTERALY. You see we read the subtext of what he wrote "I'm AWFUL at telling if a girl likes me or not!?" as "I can tell that a girl likes me and I like her but I'm afraid of rejection and what other people might think if I'm wrong or it doesn't work out".... So its not that he's bad at telling if girls like him... its that he can tell that this girl likes him but he's afraid.. afraid he could be wrong.... So instead of giving telling him to go read PUA books we tell him YEAH she does like you... and we give him what he really needs ENCOURAGEMENT to do WHAT HE WANTS... HE WANTS THIS GIRL... so we encourage him to ask her out. He doesn't just want to see if there really is interest... he already thinks their is interest as do I and he was afraid of what people and the girl might think and of awkwardness. The truth is awkwardness CANNOT be avoided. You want to live a drama awkward free life stay away from women and you will have a better chance at it. The trade off is you will miss out on A LOT of FUN!!!!! So my sugesstion is TAKE THE RISK and ASK HER OUT. I hope there is a good UPDATE today. Reasons why I think she likes him. <<1>> HE THINKS SHE LIKES HIM <<2>> HE TELLS STORIES OF HER FLIRTING WITH HIM!!! <<3>> HIS FRIEND SAID SHE SEEMS LIKE SHE LIKES HIM <<4>> HER FRIEND JOKINGLY LET IT SLIP " yeah she likes you" Well those seem good enogh to me, I would have settled for "she always asks to borrow my pen" or "She asked me to help study" or "she asked if I had a good weekend" Look the croox of this is Most of the girls I date didn't even know I existed before we started dating. It's actualy NEVER happened where I dated a girl who some how signled she liked me. When I ask a girl out I hope they will say yes but I in no way need it to be gauranteed. I wouldn't have a gf right now if I needed a sure thing. Looking for the SURE THING is unconfident. CONFIDENCE means going after the girl YOU LIKE and hopefuly they like you back, all you can do is try your best. 1)flirt 2) ask out 3) kiss touch 4) hope a relationship develops and if she goes out on a few dates just tell her "your my gf" (they like labels) (hold back on "I love you" for atleast a few months its a respect thing for yourself and the person you are dating)
Green Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 yeah I haven't even decided when I plan on asking her out. I'm going to, just not sure about when. I am just mainly curious about if she she's interested in me. today I saw her in the hallway once and she was already looking at me and we had a smile and laughed. should I initiate coversations when things like that arise? we were walking on opposite sides of the hall, but neither of us were walking with friends. i just probably wouldn't know what to say, that's all. due to really not knowing each other too well. when I'm doing that, before actually going to ask for a date, would asking for ber number be a better idea?? I know green said to ask for a date first but I don't think it is the best idea in my siuation. so how should I progress things in conversation? thanks for the advice! So you saw her today and neither of you were with friends... WHY DIDN'T YOU DO IT TODAY????? ignore the little voice in your head that keeps telling you NOT NOW NOT NOW and JUST DO IT!!!!! heck even if you are both with LOTS of FRIENDS... you CREATE the situation... say "come over here I want to show you something" thennnnnnnnnnnn ask her out away from friends.... if you can't get her away......... well then its a good indication of maybe she doesn't like you.. but she will take the second to walk around the corner or whatever to see what you have to show... and then u have her alone ask her out. If its in a hall and no one else is really close or no good friends are around but random strangers like teachers and students you don't really know are around then yes just go ahead and ask her out infront of those random people who cares if they hear more confident if they hear actualy... don't speak to quiet. ASKING FOR HER NUMBER IS A HORRIBLE IDEA.. especialy for some one like you. Look you want to date her right? Well asking her out in person is your best bet of seeming 1) confident 2) Romantic 3) attractive... You have the best odds of getting a YES! in person. You ask her out over the phone or txt..... well its easier to say no... less confident... lame even. You'll get her number no problem if you ask her out on a date "lets go bowling tomorrow" and she says "Yes" heck even if she says "no I'm busy" you still have a great chance of getting her number by just pulling out ur phone after you ask her out and she'll put it in for you. Heck after she says "yes" to the date or even if she says "no" she may then say "let me give you my number" or she may ask for yours... either way You get her to put HER number in YOUR phone and then you imeadietly txt her "Hey its ___________ now you have my number too" Look the sad fact about when a girl does like you is.... it doesn't last forever. In fact especialy with YOUNG girls it has a chance to FADE or GO AWAY QUICK. The sooner you ask this girl out the BETTER. The closer it gets to the WEEKEND the more likely you will get a NO unless you are inviting her to a cool party you are going tooo... which is a good idea if you are invited to a cool party this weekend. but if not, then well just hurry. I'm disapointed in you passing up a great oportunity TODAY... you may not get as good an oportunity tomorrow but JUST ASK ANYWAYS. Stop being SCARED... AND stop with this I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY crap. Just make it up as you go. Look if all you can think of is "I always get horny after lunch" then say that. You'll probably think of something better. And not knowing her actualy gives you more to say you can ask her questions like "whats your favorit colour" "Pink" "thats my favorit color to for a different reason" look you get the point... just say what comes to your head BE YOURSELF... and you don't always have to say stuff.... all you have to do is ask her out.... seriously if you are so incapable of having some small flirty conversation about NOTHING then just walk up to her and ASK HER OUT... better if you have some small flirty conversation about how she blinks or what time it is or how it rained that morning and then ask her out but keep time considerations in mind..... MOST IMPORTANTLY DO ITTTTTTTTTTTTT> STOP THIS BULL CRAP OF PUTTING IT OFF AND OVERANALYZING AND ASKING FOR MORE ADVICE... YOU DONT NEED MORE ADVICE you'll teach yourself this sht but....... YOU NEED TO ACTTTTTTTTTTT>.......... AND QUICK......... SHOULD HAVE DONE IT TODAY!!!!!! U DONE F'ed up son. I would have F'ed up to when I was your age. I sucked with women. A girl could have liked me just like your girl likes you and I was my own worst enemy Overanalyzing constantly comming up with excuses not to ACT afraid I was wrong or that it would be awkward had nothing to say. Sooner you get over being your own worst enemy the sooner things will work out. Want my advice ASK HER OUT.. then u'll get her number. All your instincts are RIGHT....... the background chatter the voice that comes in afterwards... thats your fear ignore that
Banega100 Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I skipped from the third page where you gave your update, so i'm guessing youve already been hit over the head with this. Nevertheles, Book your ideas up and ask her out!!!! before she goes cold on you!!! Do you have your eye on a guy in the office, or what? Come on, she's gonna say yes so pull your socks up.
Green Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 I am just mainly curious about if she she's interested in me. today I saw her in the hallway once and she was already looking at me and we had a smile and laughed. should I initiate coversations when things like that arise? we were walking on opposite sides of the hall, but neither of us were walking with friends. I skipped from the third page where you gave your update, so i'm guessing youve already been hit over the head with this. Nevertheles, Book your ideas up and ask her out!!!! before she goes cold on you!!! Do you have your eye on a guy in the office, or what? Come on, she's gonna say yes so pull your socks up. What I quoted above is what he said today. he missed a good chance. Yeah it will go cold if he waits to long. Hard to know when it will go cold but could easily be soon if he doesn't do something (ask her out)
Recommended Posts