I'm AWFUL at telling if a girl likes me or not! ?

[bsilmb]

You're right they will. They will see you as the guy who has the balls to go for what he wants. 95% of guys can't say that.

 

I'm not sure if that's actually how they'll see me...

[welikeincrowds]

haha ok! the only question is, you don't think that that could just be her being friendly?

 

Yeah, sure, it could, whatever. Who gives a ****? You're not asking her out because of what she thinks. You're asking her out because you think she's hot and you want to see what she's like on a date.

 

We believe in you. Green, Tim, Runner, MrNate, and I all want you to ask this girl out the next time you see her and let us know how it goes, because we believe in you. There's absolutely nothing to be nervous about. Go after what you want.

 

Looking forward to your next update, bro.

[bsilmb]

Yeah, sure, it could, whatever. Who gives a ****? You're not asking her out because of what she thinks. You're asking her out because you think she's hot and you want to see what she's like on a date.

 

We believe in you. Green, Tim, Runner, MrNate, and I all want you to ask this girl out the next time you see her and let us know how it goes, because we believe in you. There's absolutely nothing to be nervous about. Go after what you want.

 

Looking forward to your next update, bro.

 

 

dang y'all are convincing. I think Im gonna do it! not sure when yet, but I will!

 

anymore advice??

[welikeincrowds]

anymore advice??

 

Yeah. Decide when.

 

By the way, the correct answer is "the very next time you see her."

 

She's just a human being, bro. A friendly human being that you want to get to know. Think about how great that date could be. Think about how soft her lips must feel. What, exactly, are you waiting for? Imagine it in your mind, bsilmb. Visualize what you want, and you getting it. Picture the whole thing. That little step of asking her pretty seems arbitrary. Don't get hung up on it. It's like saying you're concerned about traveling the world because you're nervous about correctly tying your shoes. You want the date. You don't have to do anything special to get it. You just have to tell her you want to take her out and then ask her when she's free, like you're asking her what her favorite band is.

 

You know what's scary? Talking to two big guys who want to take your wallet from you. I've done that. I'd much rather be talking to girls I want to date. That's fun.

[bsilmb]

Yeah. Decide when.

 

By the way, the correct answer is "the very next time you see her."

 

She's just a human being, bro. A friendly human being that you want to get to know. Think about how great that date could be. Think about how soft her lips must feel. What, exactly, are you waiting for? Imagine it in your mind, bsilmb. Visualize what you want, and you getting it. Picture the whole thing. That little step of asking her pretty seems arbitrary. Don't get hung up on it. It's like saying you're concerned about traveling the world because you're nervous about correctly tying your shoes. You want the date. You don't have to do anything special to get it. You just have to tell her you want to take her out and then ask her when she's free, like you're asking her what her favorite band is.

 

You know what's scary? Talking to two big guys who want to take your wallet from you. I've done that. I'd much rather be talking to girls I want to date. That's fun.

 

ok that's all good advice man!

 

 

thing is, we've only really talked for about 4 days. I saw her once today in passing but she didn't see me.

 

I'm working late tomorrow and she MAY be there, so that would be good.

 

I just don't know much about her. I vaguely remember her dating some guy a year older, but I don't think they're together anymore.

 

also, I remember us NEVER talking to her last year, BUT I also remember us making some regular eye contact. I don't know if it's the same with girls, but I don't glance over at a girl throughout a year if I'm not at least somewhat attracted to them.

 

is eye contact, especially her initiating it, a sign at all that she likes me??

 

not to sound cocky, but I don't think she would keep looking at me because I'm ugly!

 

she claimed some random girls were checking me out, is that some sort of subtle hint she finds me attractive too?

[welikeincrowds]

thing is, we've only really talked for about 4 days.

 

OK, look. I've gotten phone numbers after talking for about 5 minutes. That's not bragging, that's just standard practice. Ask anyone here and I'm sure they'll give you similar stories about how quickly they met and planned a date with someone.

 

The actual date is where you find out what she's about. Beforehand, you don't need to concern yourself with anything except getting the date planned. The sooner you do it, the better. Just like the sooner you pay your bills, the better. The exciting thing isn't paying your bills, it's getting to use the electricity.

[bsilmb]

OK, look. I've gotten phone numbers after talking for about 5 minutes. That's not bragging, that's just standard practice. Ask anyone here and I'm sure they'll give you similar stories about how quickly they met and planned a date with someone.

 

The actual date is where you find out what she's about. Beforehand, you don't need to concern yourself with anything except getting the date planned. The sooner you do it, the better. Just like the sooner you pay your bills, the better. The exciting thing isn't paying your bills, it's getting to use the electricity.

 

 

haha you are full of some great analogies, no sarcasm!

 

I will try to do what you are saying, I just am doing my best to not screw things up. by four days, I mean we've had a few conversations. I'm pretty sure they were all initiated by her. I don't remember if you answered my one question, but do you think that eye contact I see her initiate is just coincidental or is she attracted to me? I usually look away before she does, it just depends. ice always wondered if constant eye contact with a girl is a good sign...

[refurb]

Dude, ask her out in a non-serious way.

 

Next time you see her: "Hey XXX, you hungry? I'm going to grab some dinner."

 

The ONLY way your going to know if she likes you is if you ask her out. You can analyze her "signals" until the cows come home, but it won't tell you what you want to know.

 

RF

[bsilmb]

Dude, ask her out in a non-serious way.

 

Next time you see her: "Hey XXX, you hungry? I'm going to grab some dinner."

 

The ONLY way your going to know if she likes you is if you ask her out. You can analyze her "signals" until the cows come home, but it won't tell you what you want to know.

 

RF

 

we are in high school, and I don't have a license. not quite that easy.

 

the thing that still confuses me, was what my roommate said. he's prett cool, and usually just says what's on his mind.

 

on the way back to the hotel we were laughing about how when I danced and she starting burning up a few minutes Later. some of our group claimed it was my dancing hah. then my roommate just says "oh yeah, she likes you"

 

what does he mean??

 

I think he means he thinks she's attracted to me but I didn't really follow up with aquestion. it confuses me so much!

[bsilmb]

we are in high school, and I don't have a license. not quite that easy.

 

the thing that still confuses me, was what my roommate said. he's prett cool, and usually just says what's on his mind.

 

on the way back to the hotel we were laughing about how when I danced and she starting burning up a few minutes Later. some of our group claimed it was my dancing hah. then my roommate just says "oh yeah, she likes you"

 

what does he mean??

 

I think he means he thinks she's attracted to me but I didn't really follow up with aquestion. it confuses me so much!

 

sorry if that doesn't make much sense. if your read the very beginning of the thread, I explain it a little better, but I hope ou get the idea.

 

there were little things that gave me the idea it was more than just casual friendliness. at first it seemed like it was out of her being nice, trying to get me to talk, but some of the stuff she did, just seemed like downright hints.

 

like when we walked out in the cold and she saw I didn't have a jacket and came from behind and put her hands on me. I don't think it was just friend-like.

 

just the physical contact and going out if her way to have conversations with me just seemed out if the ordinary. she would randomly say hi during the day and try to make conversation, and whatever I said usually made her smile or laugh

 

do any girls have input on this??

 

sorry for all the questions, just a curious guy!

 

rather be safe than sorry, and don't wanna screw anything up. thanks to all who have responded!

I could be wrong about this whole thing, BUT I usually never pursue these signs, so what do I know.

[Green]

alright I will admit these are all problems i've made in my own head.

 

it's just there seems to be a high risk of asking her out, cuz then everyone in that class will see me differently.

 

I just need advice that consists of how to flirt and figure her out, but I will ask her out soon! I just need a little more confidence that she's interested

 

Oh so you admit your scared. Well we are all a little scared to get rejected but truth is it doesn't even hurt if you don't take it to seriously and you get over it quicker then the girl does. (they hate rejecting guys they actualy some times say YES to a guy they don't even like... but that gives that guy a chance to turn that frown upside down!"

 

OH SHE IS 100% interested in you I just know so ASK HER OUT. That is if you are interested in her which I am also 100% certain of or else why would you even be posting on this site.

 

haha ok! the only question is, you don't think that that could just be her being friendly?

 

No girls are never just friendly and even if they are they still want you to ask them out. (look just ask her out) BE YOURSELF thats good advice right? and YOURSELF wants to DATE her so be the CONFIDENT version of YOURSELF and ask her out.

 

I'm not sure if that's actually how they'll see me...

 

Who cares how they will see you. What if they think ur a loser for asking out the girl... but then you get a date and a gf... most likely they will think you are cool even if you get rejected. If they say anything just be like "I have balls"

 

dang y'all are convincing. I think Im gonna do it! not sure when yet, but I will!

 

anymore advice??

 

Yeah when you ask her out make it for THAT DAY or the NEXT day at the lates. "Lets get dinner tonight" then even if she says no or yes... just wip out ur phone and have her put her number in for you.. then txt her right there and then "Hey its _______ now you have my number"

 

On the date KISS her on the LIPS before you say goodbye or durring the date. Don't let the date end with out a KISS. IF you play it like you have no balls and ZERO ROMANTIC intensions you will seem LAME. Don't water yourself down TOUCH/KISS her ... don't ask "may I please have a kiss" just KISS her without asking she'll duck or say no if she doesn't want it and you will look and feel cool for having tried ... but most likely she will just let you and like it.

 

ok that's all good advice man!

 

 

thing is, we've only really talked for about 4 days. I saw her once today in passing but she didn't see me.

 

I'm working late tomorrow and she MAY be there, so that would be good.

 

I just don't know much about her. I vaguely remember her dating some guy a year older, but I don't think they're together anymore.

 

also, I remember us NEVER talking to her last year, BUT I also remember us making some regular eye contact. I don't know if it's the same with girls, but I don't glance over at a girl throughout a year if I'm not at least somewhat attracted to them.

 

is eye contact, especially her initiating it, a sign at all that she likes me??

 

not to sound cocky, but I don't think she would keep looking at me because I'm ugly!

 

she claimed some random girls were checking me out, is that some sort of subtle hint she finds me attractive too?

 

Dude she likes you and probably doesn't have a bf atleast a seriouse one. Don't even ask about the BF if she has one she will let you know. "sorry I have a bf" then you just say "well he's a lucky guy" and you stare at her all horny like.

 

Dude she 100% likes you and YOU KNOW it now ask her out before she loses interest. Like NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER. and ask her out for THAT DAY or the next if she gives you problems don't set the date to far in the future down the line. Remember ask for the DATE first then The number not number first then date. And be careful with txting after u get her number calling is better. And don't call the DATE a DATE... I mean if she asks "is this a date" just be like "call it what you want" or just say "yes" but when you ask her out just be like "lets get dinner" or "lets go bowling" or what ever you say just don't put the word date in there.

 

we are in high school, and I don't have a license. not quite that easy.

 

the thing that still confuses me, was what my roommate said. he's prett cool, and usually just says what's on his mind.

 

on the way back to the hotel we were laughing about how when I danced and she starting burning up a few minutes Later. some of our group claimed it was my dancing hah. then my roommate just says "oh yeah, she likes you"

 

what does he mean??

 

I think he means he thinks she's attracted to me but I didn't really follow up with aquestion. it confuses me so much!

 

Oh so you didn't believe him or yourself that she liked you and still had to come ask us. Look if you don't have a car just have your parents or brother or whatever drive you to her house to pick her up for the date and tell them not to talk to much lol. (nicely)

 

sorry if that doesn't make much sense. if your read the very beginning of the thread, I explain it a little better, but I hope ou get the idea.

 

there were little things that gave me the idea it was more than just casual friendliness. at first it seemed like it was out of her being nice, trying to get me to talk, but some of the stuff she did, just seemed like downright hints.

 

like when we walked out in the cold and she saw I didn't have a jacket and came from behind and put her hands on me. I don't think it was just friend-like.

 

just the physical contact and going out if her way to have conversations with me just seemed out if the ordinary. she would randomly say hi during the day and try to make conversation, and whatever I said usually made her smile or laugh

 

do any girls have input on this??

 

sorry for all the questions, just a curious guy!

 

rather be safe than sorry, and don't wanna screw anything up. thanks to all who have responded!

I could be wrong about this whole thing, BUT I usually never pursue these signs, so what do I know.

 

I'l be waiting for the updates. Don't worry about if things get screwed up they always do. You have to be willing to RISK LOSING a GIRL in order to GET HER. Just remember that, if there is no risk involved then no gain. Also stop worying so much about GIRLS input on this, women don't have some magical code word they can give you to get other women and girls never had to ask out other girls as a guy so they don't have that experience. Bottom line you need to gain your own experienc Ask her out and get it over with YOU ARE WINNER JUST FOR ASKING HER OUT. no matter what she says

[bsilmb]

Oh so you admit your scared. Well we are all a little scared to get rejected but truth is it doesn't even hurt if you don't take it to seriously and you get over it quicker then the girl does. (they hate rejecting guys they actualy some times say YES to a guy they don't even like... but that gives that guy a chance to turn that frown upside down!"

 

OH SHE IS 100% interested in you I just know so ASK HER OUT. That is if you are interested in her which I am also 100% certain of or else why would you even be posting on this site.

 

 

 

No girls are never just friendly and even if they are they still want you to ask them out. (look just ask her out) BE YOURSELF thats good advice right? and YOURSELF wants to DATE her so be the CONFIDENT version of YOURSELF and ask her out.

 

 

 

Who cares how they will see you. What if they think ur a loser for asking out the girl... but then you get a date and a gf... most likely they will think you are cool even if you get rejected. If they say anything just be like "I have balls"

 

 

 

Yeah when you ask her out make it for THAT DAY or the NEXT day at the lates. "Lets get dinner tonight" then even if she says no or yes... just wip out ur phone and have her put her number in for you.. then txt her right there and then "Hey its _______ now you have my number"

 

On the date KISS her on the LIPS before you say goodbye or durring the date. Don't let the date end with out a KISS. IF you play it like you have no balls and ZERO ROMANTIC intensions you will seem LAME. Don't water yourself down TOUCH/KISS her ... don't ask "may I please have a kiss" just KISS her without asking she'll duck or say no if she doesn't want it and you will look and feel cool for having tried ... but most likely she will just let you and like it.

 

 

 

Dude she likes you and probably doesn't have a bf atleast a seriouse one. Don't even ask about the BF if she has one she will let you know. "sorry I have a bf" then you just say "well he's a lucky guy" and you stare at her all horny like.

 

Dude she 100% likes you and YOU KNOW it now ask her out before she loses interest. Like NEXT TIME YOU SEE HER. and ask her out for THAT DAY or the next if she gives you problems don't set the date to far in the future down the line. Remember ask for the DATE first then The number not number first then date. And be careful with txting after u get her number calling is better. And don't call the DATE a DATE... I mean if she asks "is this a date" just be like "call it what you want" or just say "yes" but when you ask her out just be like "lets get dinner" or "lets go bowling" or what ever you say just don't put the word date in there.

 

 

 

Oh so you didn't believe him or yourself that she liked you and still had to come ask us. Look if you don't have a car just have your parents or brother or whatever drive you to her house to pick her up for the date and tell them not to talk to much lol. (nicely)

 

 

 

I'l be waiting for the updates. Don't worry about if things get screwed up they always do. You have to be willing to RISK LOSING a GIRL in order to GET HER. Just remember that, if there is no risk involved then no gain. Also stop worying so much about GIRLS input on this, women don't have some magical code word they can give you to get other women and girls never had to ask out other girls as a guy so they don't have that experience. Bottom line you need to gain your own experienc Ask her out and get it over with YOU ARE WINNER JUST FOR ASKING HER OUT. no matter what she says

 

 

 

thanks for taking all the time to answer all my questions!

 

I'm feeling a lot more confident about this now.

 

I always find a reason to question what a girl thinks and convince myself to not give it a shot.

 

only thing I'm afraid of really now, is finding out she was just being nice and doesn't like me.

 

I know you said those are signs that she 100% likes me, but it's just the doubt in the back of my mind, trying to tell me this is a bad idea.

 

hopefully she'll be there tomorrow so I can get a chance to talk and maybe ask her out.

 

If you have anymore advice for me, that would be awesome!

 

based on what I've read off other sites, the way she makes eye contact, touches or punches me, smiles at me, and laughs at things I say, are all BIG signs that she likes me. how could I have been so blind?!

[Green]

thanks for taking all the time to answer all my questions!

 

I'm feeling a lot more confident about this now.

 

I always find a reason to question what a girl thinks and convince myself to not give it a shot.

 

only thing I'm afraid of really now, is finding out she was just being nice and doesn't like me.

 

I know you said those are signs that she 100% likes me, but it's just the doubt in the back of my mind, trying to tell me this is a bad idea.

 

hopefully she'll be there tomorrow so I can get a chance to talk and maybe ask her out.

 

If you have anymore advice for me, that would be awesome!

 

based on what I've read off other sites, the way she makes eye contact, touches or punches me, smiles at me, and laughs at things I say, are all BIG signs that she likes me. how could I have been so blind?!

 

My current gf didn't even know I existed when I asked her out. We had never talked or anything. I saw her in class when I heard her voice and I thought she was really pretty. So durring a break I just walked over and asked her out. I didn't care what other people thought. I invited her to a party that was hapening over the weekend at a friends house. She gave me her number and said she would think about it. She ended up kinda blowing the party off, I called her the day of the party and left a msg and by the time the party was starting I still hadn't heard from her so I just went with out her. Then she sent me a txt msg saying that she hoped we would get to hang out some time and sorry for not comming to the party. So it ended up working out.

 

The point of the story is you just need to be yourself. Don't ask this girl out unless you really like here which it sounds like you do because she is friendly and seems to like you too. Don't worry bout what happens, atleast you tried. You need to always try. The more girls you ask out the less awkward it will be. I once paid money to have a girl sung to in class by a group of people and a guy playing a guitar a song with her name in it. Every one in class watched and I got in real close to her put my arm around her and had some one take a pic lol. End a long story short I never ended up going on a date or anything with her. And I didn't really care and no one ever even noticed or cared. So stop being scared and just DO IT.

 

ur best bet is to ask her out infront of no one, by asking her outside the room for a sec "hey come over here I want to show you something" then when you walk outside the room away from people "lets get dinner tonight"

 

Or i you have to just ask her out infront of people... but away is best. Remember I don't want to here any excuses "she was busy" you can interupt and create a good ask out situation.

 

NOW GO FOR IT! You win even if she says no because you had the balls to ask. If she does say "no" don't make a big deal about it just keep smiling and say "how about tomorrow then" if she still says no then just keep your mood the same don't act sad and say "maybe some other time" then hand her your phone and instruct for her to put her number in... if she says no to that jsut be like "ok" and act normal and treat her the same as before. Girls really are wussies and can't handle some one being mad at them so if you act cool she will treat you the same as before even if its a complete rejection. Nothing should change. I've asked out plenty of girls in class and nothign changes if you just act cool about it. Really it doesn't matter if you get rejected happens to everyone except like movie stars.

[gypsy_nicky]

it's not that I've never asked a girl out, I have. I don't fear rejection or I wouldn't do it in the first place. it's just I don't want to mistake her friendliness for actual flirtiness. the fair amount of eye contact we had and the indent where she turned red after my little butt thing haha, makes ke think it's a little more than friendliness but I could be wrong. I'm also transferringto her class in publications at semester which is December through may, so I will start seieng and talking to her on a more regular basis then.

 

oh yeah and what are those "tactics" PUA's use to judge whether a girl is interested or not??

 

but seriously guys and especially girls, what are hints that you show that you like a guy?? is she giving any of those signs??

 

 

its on the internet, look it up (I discovered it in this forum from a thread while back). If you want more specifics, you need to buy their material or torrent it.

 

If you feel you need to see if she's really interested, then wait. Doesn't mean your 'scared', it means your willing to take risks, just not jumping into them straight away. It also shows you care enough for her feelings too.

 

A lot of the posters here are baiting you to ask her out simply because it's 'common knowledge' to do it. What they miss is there is a certain way of actually asking out a person.

 

Green, sorry I still don't agree with you. Asking any woman out does not build attraction, it must be there to begin with. Its very self centered to think that just because you ask her out, she's in someway now obliged to like you back. That doesn't happen.

[bsilmb]

its on the internet, look it up (I discovered it in this forum from a thread while back). If you want more specifics, you need to buy their material or torrent it.

 

If you feel you need to see if she's really interested, then wait. Doesn't mean your 'scared', it means your willing to take risks, just not jumping into them straight away. It also shows you care enough for her feelings too.

 

A lot of the posters here are baiting you to ask her out simply because it's 'common knowledge' to do it. What they miss is there is a certain way of actually asking out a person.

 

Green, sorry I still don't agree with you. Asking any woman out does not build attraction, it must be there to begin with. Its very self centered to think that just because you ask her out, she's in someway now obliged to like you back. That doesn't happen.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Alright I like you idea/approach. So what exactly do you think I should do??

 

Please give me some tips or advice to find out if she likes me and maybe how to be more flirtatious??

 

Thanks so much!

[Green]

 

A lot of the posters here are baiting you to ask her out simply because it's 'common knowledge' to do it. What they miss is there is a certain way of actually asking out a person.

 

We're not baiting him... He came here telling a story of how a girl is flirting with him and he HIMSELF seems to think she likes him as well as independent sources like his hotel room mate said after a dance or whatever she seemed hot for him. Then he admitted he was a little scared to just ask her out even though he himself thinks she likes him but he is distrusting of his OWN feelings... but I trust them and I am 100% sure that yes she does like him.

 

Green' date=' sorry I still don't agree with you. Asking any woman out does not build attraction, it must be there to begin with. Its very self centered to think that just because you ask her out, she's in someway now obliged to like you back. That doesn't happen. [/quote']

 

Well he doesn't have to build attraction if you read the details of his story you will see that he just needs to ACT while there still is attraction.

 

I never wanted to give the apearance that asking a girl out automaticaly gets a girl to LIKE YOU. BUTTTTTTTTTTTTT figuratively speaking you do need a dog in the fight, ASKING a girl out give you a possible CHANCE and it is ROMANTIC to be invited out to something and ROMANCE does build attraction. Being BRAVE enough to ask out a girl you like is ATTRACTIVE.

 

Alright I like you idea/approach. So what exactly do you think I should do??

 

Please give me some tips or advice to find out if she likes me and maybe how to be more flirtatious??

 

Thanks so much!

 

His approach is to sit back and do nothing for now of course you like it. Buttt you already know the girl likes you, you're just AFRAID to trust YOUR OWN gut insticts.

 

The best way to learn is TO MAKE MISTAKES. But you don't seem willing to even TRY so how are you ever going to make mistakes and learn from them. I GAURANTEEEEEEE you will MAKE MISTAKES. Even if she says yes something will happen and you will LEARN FROM IT even if she becomes your WIFE you can't be PERFECT.

 

LESSON ONE>. STOP OVERTHINKING this sht and DO SOMETHING. ASK HER OUT. I know what I'm talking about I do well with women and one of the reasons I do well is because I TRUST MY OWN GUT INSTINCS and I"M NOT AFRAID TO BE MYSELF.

 

The most you could hope for from reading a PUA book or tape or what ever would be MOTIVATION. BUTTT the fact is PUA stuff is meant to MAKE MONEY, thats why they stretch it out and give code words to things that already have normal words for them.

 

Use your DESIRE for this girl to MOTIVATE you to ACTION. Lets talk about this logicaly WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE.... NOTHING...... NOTHINGGGGGGGGG.... YOu will look COOL just for having tried even if she rejects you right out or dumps you after you start dating. No one can gaurantee SHT. HEck I can gaurantee your mommy and daddy will stay togather that is if they even are still togather.

 

YOU THINK THIS GIRL LIKES YOU, that alone should be good enough. If you ACT on this it will make you BETTER at figuring out if women like you or not either way. It will either CONFIRM or MAKE YOU QUESTION what you already know. That will teach you. The fact is its not just you who thinks this girl likes you, A lot of us do, including your hotel roommate who saw the entire thing (does he have a reason to lie) (do you have a reason to be dilusional about if this girl is flirting)

 

GO FOR IT TODAY!!! and update us.

 

For flirting JUST BE YOURSELF, talk sill and cute with her and look for excuses to touch her arm, or grab her hand. Talk about what ever you want, her striped shirt for god sakes... anything just be happy and have fun doing it. If you tease her make it something fun like the way she blinks or some sht... u make it up.. DONT INSULT HER. make sure you are having fun with her not bullying her.. .ENJOY it... ASK HER Out "lets get dinner" or "lets go bowling tonight" ... tHEN YOU GET HER NUMBER... just hold out ur phone have her put it in... Good luck now don't talk urself out of it. PUA material will actualy tell you to just go ahead and do it. but I recomend you stay away from the stuff

Edited November 16, 2010 by Green

[Odyssey]

OP, people make plenty of excuses and avoid what they're scared of... sometimes i still do. But i've learned that it's way better to ask and get rejected than live with regret.

 

You gotta look at it differently is all...you need a push. Let me put it bluntly... If you had only a few months left to live...would you still wait for the perfect moment?...would you rather die than miss the opportunity...not knowing?!? No. i bet you will ask her out without hesitation!

 

It's a gamble alright. But the risk is always worth taking! Life...really is that short... we take too much for granted.

[Tim The Enchanter]

 

A lot of the posters here are baiting you to ask her out simply because it's 'common knowledge' to do it. What they miss is there is a certain way of actually asking out a person.

 

What a load of cobblers. We're not "baiting" him, thank you very much.

There is no set way of asking someone out - if someone is interested, they're interested. That's like saying there's a certain way to get a girl to kiss you.

[Green]

What a load of cobblers. We're not "baiting" him, thank you very much.

There is no set way of asking someone out - if someone is interested, they're interested. That's like saying there's a certain way to get a girl to kiss you.

 

According to him there probably is a certain way and instead of learning it for yourself its best to learn it in a book first from people who claim to be experts.

 

Its funny though, hope we get a good UPDATE

[bsilmb]

According to him there probably is a certain way and instead of learning it for yourself its best to learn it in a book first from people who claim to be experts.

 

Its funny though, hope we get a good UPDATE

 

 

I'd say it's a GOOD update!

 

so just to let you know, the running joke was how I shake my butt when icpick things up haha. well she always wants me to do it if she sees me by throwing something on the ground.

 

we saw each other briefly today and we met eyes and she then smiled and grabbed for my stuff to toss on the ground. I didn't let her, but she touched me quite a bit when trying. good sign???

 

then I was joking with some workers about it and one girl was like "oh she really likes you"

 

thing is I just don't know if they're playing along or are halfway serious. they say it not completely seriously, but still, what do y'all think? that's now two people who have said that. I have brought her up in conversation in both times, but I think it may mean something.

 

her name is Kathy by the way, and Im Jake.

[refurb]

I'd say it's a GOOD update!

 

we saw each other briefly today and we met eyes and she then smiled and grabbed for my stuff to toss on the ground. I didn't let her, but she touched me quite a bit when trying. good sign???

 

then I was joking with some workers about it and one girl was like "oh she really likes you"

 

 

OK, it's always easier to see the signs from the outside, but this is getting ridiculous.

 

RF

[bsilmb]

OK, it's always easier to see the signs from the outside, but this is getting ridiculous.

 

RF

 

haha what's so ridiculous?

 

I mean can't a girl just be friendly? I could be reading the signs wrong....

 

and those two people couldve been messing around even though they seemed at least halfway serious.

 

I just need some advice please

[bsilmb]

are you mocking me?

 

I mean, am I seriously missing all of these hints?

 

I brush all of this off as her jus being a nice girl. it is interesting that we've known each other less than a week and she already touches me and is really joking with me.

 

I may be overanalyzing all of those signs, but as I look back, seems like she is flirty. I mean, is there a chance that I'm completely wrong, or does this all mean she likes me?

 

I kinda do want at least ONE girls input on this so I know I she was actually flirting with me.

 

thanks in advance!

[bsilmb]

bump bump bump bump

[windows]

Listen here buddy. Quit with the mind games and just ask her out. In my opinion, nothing you can do can change her answer (if she likes you, she'll say yes. If she doesn't she'll say no and you can move on) so therefore the only way is to just go in for the kill.

I've made it a rule to avoid this psychological body language crap. Seriously, it's not the Cold War, there is no point in being subtle because I know that subtlety never pays off. Even if you have been over analysing these "signs", that still doesn't change the fact you like her. Go for her. Not just to seriously date her but to get over her if she doesn't like you as well.

Edited November 17, 2010 by windows