Grobyc Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 So, its been almost 2 months seeing her, although I've known her for 2-3 years, this fact about her has never changed. I'll be reading my tumblr or twitter, and she makes a post and it shows up in my feed right? Just like everyone else, I read it. Sometimes there about things bothering her. What really irritates me is I'll ask and she just doesn't want to talk about it. I've confronted her about this a couple times and she says she doesn't like bothering people about her stuff. It's bothersome to me because I'm not used to people just not telling me their problems, because a whole bunch of people do, and I do listen if they're a good friend. I care you know? Its just irritating. She's always been like this, from the time I've known her she always has been. I'm starting to see her telling me more of what bothers her and such, but I'm not entirely sure. I don't pry though, if she doesn't want to i just re-assure her I'm always here if she wants to just talk.
Els Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 It's just the way some people are. Some people feel worse after talking about their problems instead of better. If you truly care, would you not let her deal with her problems in the way that's best for her (assuming it doesn't cause any significant detrimental effects to your relationship)?
Author Grobyc Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 It's just the way some people are. Some people feel worse after talking about their problems instead of better. If you truly care, would you not let her deal with her problems in the way that's best for her (assuming it doesn't cause any significant detrimental effects to your relationship)? I guess, I'm just not used to it. I mean, I'm the kind of person that just knows when somethings wrong and such. When I was younger my parents told me not to analyze people. The last girl before this relationship im in now, she thought I was completely stupid. That is until I told her what her insecurities were and all of her social awkwardness. She said after that she thought i was pretty smart since nobody else ever figured it out, she always had to tell them, unlike me, I just picked up on it. Nothing happened with her. I mean, I know what to look for to read people. Then I ask, when I get told "I'm fine" or "No, its alright" and I know they are not. It aggravates me. I guess I'll have to get used to it.
folieadeux Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 To me, it doesn’t make sense that someone who doesn’t like to talk about their problems would post things online eluding to them. But hey, to each their own I suppose. If you say this is always how she’s been, then you just have to respect that and deal with it like you’ve been doing. I know it must be frustrating because you want to help, but this really isn’t something you can force. I think it is a good sign though that you said she’s beginning to come around to you more so you must be doing something right in her eyes.
MissKnowitall Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I don't like to tell my long distance bf my problems because I don't want to worry him and I don't want to come across as a wet whiney rag. I have my friends to dump on. I do tell him some things but I am selective at what I tell him. Two months isn't a long time to trust to tell someone your problems. Not for me it isn't. Plus there is this fear that if she tells you her stuff that you will maybe think less of her or question your time with her. She wants to be seen in a good light. She will tell you but don't coax her. Just remind her that you are there for her
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