wicar1 Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 It mostly takes two to make (and break) a relationship. It's rare that one person is entirely at fault and the other is blameless. The cheating is inexcusable, yes, and so is the neglect that leads to it. Each are responsible for their part. It mostly takes two to make (and break) a relationship. It's rare that one person is entirely at fault and the other is blameless. Yes, It takes two in this case the cheating W/H and OM. (To break the relationship) - The cheating is inexcusable, yes, and so is the neglect that leads to it. Each are responsible for their part Again neglect is no reason to cheat. Yes neglecting intentionaly is wrong. Still no person can take it as a reason to cheat. The partner who neglected his/her spouse has no part whatsoever in the immoral affair. Yes if one gets neglected they can choose to cheat, But it shows the cheap character of that person. He/she is a selfish, cowards who has no values. If someone is being neglected and can do nothing about it then they should just walk away from the relationship instead of f**** behind his/her spouse.
Silly_Girl Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 It mostly takes two to make (and break) a relationship. It's rare that one person is entirely at fault and the other is blameless. Yes, It takes two in this case the cheating W/H and OM. (To break the relationship) - The cheating is inexcusable, yes, and so is the neglect that leads to it. Each are responsible for their part Again neglect is no reason to cheat. Yes neglecting intentionaly is wrong. Still no person can take it as a reason to cheat. The partner who neglected his/her spouse has no part whatsoever in the immoral affair. Yes if one gets neglected they can choose to cheat, But it shows the cheap character of that person. He/she is a selfish, cowards who has no values. If someone is being neglected and can do nothing about it then they should just walk away from the relationship instead of f**** behind his/her spouse. Do you understand the word 'inexcusable'? And the neglectful behaviour may not form part of the affair dynamic, but it's an enormous contributor to the demise of the primary relationship - the marriage.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 I would hope you would care enough to address the issues and not bury them, hence working together, not against one another. i completely agree. but person in question didn't go that route until after cheating. And by the sounds of the thread in question it was a half-assed attempt to help the guy that was being cheated on. either way, its creepy.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 It mostly takes two to make (and break) a relationship. It's rare that one person is entirely at fault and the other is blameless. The cheating is inexcusable, yes, and so is the neglect that leads to it. Each are responsible for their part. once again, with the situation in question, it wasn't a matter of a guy simply neglecting his wife for the hell of it or purposely withholding sex....the guy has some sort of problem that needs to be dealt with with by a physician, or a therapist.
Author Toodamnpragmatic Posted November 19, 2010 Author Posted November 19, 2010 once again, with the situation in question, it wasn't a matter of a guy simply neglecting his wife for the hell of it or purposely withholding sex....the guy has some sort of problem that needs to be dealt with with by a physician, or a therapist. plus courtship where he concealed the issues. The woman in question was completely bamboozled and also capitulated by accepting it tacitly for so long and turning a blind eye to the issues, which she still is completely oblivious to.
Dexter Morgan Posted November 19, 2010 Posted November 19, 2010 plus courtship where he concealed the issues. The woman in question was completely bamboozled and also capitulated by accepting it tacitly for so long and turning a blind eye to the issues, which she still is completely oblivious to. ok, to hell with the H then
wicar1 Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Do you understand the word 'inexcusable'? And the neglectful behaviour may not form part of the affair dynamic, but it's an enormous contributor to the demise of the primary relationship - the marriage. Yes I do understand, but how it looked seemed you were blaming BS indirectly for the affair. Atleast that's how I felt. Besides if someone is being neglected by their w/h then if they have any sort of dignity or self respect they should leave the marriage.
twinrexes Posted November 21, 2010 Posted November 21, 2010 Hmm, not sure what the reason is for withholding, I didn't see those posts. But my mother married my father at age 21 and divorced 17 years later after having sex about once a year. He used to pick fights with her when she was in the mood, just to get out of his "obligation". Meanwhile, at least early on, Dad was getting it elsewhere. From other men. And no, she never realized til late in the marriage that he was gay. (Nor did she go looking for sex outside the relationship.) Have either of these women considered that possibility?
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