Superdude87 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 My most recent ex and I dated for about 6 months, then she decided to move across the country to live with her sister and for possible job opportunities. She had mentioned it when we first started dating, so it wasn't a total shocker. She planned on spending about a year over there and coming back, but she's ready to come back sooner (within a month or two). She hasn't met any friends, it's in the middle of nowhere, and can't find a job with her degree (yet). The only problem is that she is tired of living in the area that I am (where we met, where she grew up). That was one of the reasons for moving, as well as being with her sister. She left a month ago, and since then we talk at least once or twice a week. Technically we weren't doing a long distance relationship, it was never really discussed and we both agreed it wasn't a great idea for various reasons. She called me a few days ago to tell me she was probably gonna be coming back ASAP. So since things ended on good terms and she was really a great girl, naturally I thought about us getting back together. The ONLY reason I didn't fight for her to stay here is that she was seriously sick of the area and I'm just not selfish enough to be the only reason she is here. I don't want her here if she's not happy. However, I was pretty torn up when we broke up but I hid it pretty well and wanted to be supportive of her. Here's the problem. I talked to her just a few hours ago, and she mentioned coming back and all that, but also mentioned moving away AGAIN next summer to somewhere sunnier. Her area now is cold and snowy, again the only reason for the move was to be with family. She wants to be in Southern Cali or Arizona. So obviously she doesn't see us getting back together if she is already considering moving again and telling me about it? A little confused on how to proceed, but something tells me once she gets home she will want to hang out and be friends. I'm not sure if I can be just friends knowing she is just going to move again. This time, I would be willing to fight for this girl. She is really a great girl, and definite wife material. I realize I am young (23), but I don't need a million notches on my belt to know when I have a quality girl in my life. If she comes back, and we reconnect, how do I proceed? I want a relationship with her but if she's just ready to leave again it almost sends the message that our relationship isn't really that important. Although I would definitely considering relocating if things worked out, kinda scary since I've lived here my whole live and everything I know is here, but a big change could be a good thing. Thanks for reading all that, any advice is appreciated!
loverush Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 All i can say is be open with her, i mean you are very much interest in that girl. So take action now, just meet her when she come back then tell to her what you think about her! Just forget she is moving again or not! Just go and tell to her what you think about her! Just my opinion and Sorry for my bad English.
shayan Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 yes it seems like things were good for you guys so why don't you just honestly ask her if she wants to take another go around. I think that's the best way to proceed, don't dance around the issue and not ask her and hope she will fall in love again or what what. Just be honest, not desperate, but confident and honest. You know what you want now she if she wants it too.
Author Superdude87 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Yeah good advice, I better speak up just in case she feels the same way. If I have a "I don't care you're leaving" attitude she might assume I don't want anything serious, even though I DO, and she may also but doesn't want to push it if I apparently don't care.
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