irc333 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I have a male friend of mine, he recently got out of about just a 6 month relationship with a woman. Before when I met him, we wre talking about the certain women we liked, dating and stuff. Now that he's broken up, he's been single for a while though, and I asked him, "So you have any interests as of yet?" And he goes, "Nah, not really looking, just enjoying my single hood" In the mean while, I have seen pics of him recently at a social event with women sitting on his lap or feeding him whipped cream out of a can. I remember seeing a guy friend of ours walking with some of us, and he kind of started lagging behind because he was feeling up this woman he just met...they were hugging on each other, looking into each others eyes. Hadn't seen them kiss though. Then I emailed him later, and I said, "So, you seemed to be hitting off with <her name>" And he says, "What are you talking about?" And I kinda blink ad replied, "Ummm....that woman you were feelin' up when we all hung out last night" ANd he goes, "She's just a friend" Why can't people fess up that they're into someone? LOL OR at least not deny something that everyone else had witnessed.
norajane Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Because they like to front that they're cool, and not desperate or insecure or needy. Granted, maybe when your friend says he's just enjoying the single life, he really does mean he is enjoying having different girls in his lap feeding him whipped cream and different girls to feel up all the time. Maybe he really isn't interested in a relationship, and likes playing with different girls. But usually, it's just that they don't want people to know they're not so happy deep down.
phineas Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 wenching From the verb "to wench". One of the most enjoyable pastimes of young men. The act of shamelessly flirting, charming and pursuing women (or "wenches" with the sole purpose of bedding them. (wench: (1) an old word used for the young women that worked in taverns in the evenings and were often easily persuaded to work nights too.
welikeincrowds Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I remember seeing a guy friend of ours walking with some of us, and he kind of started lagging behind because he was feeling up this woman he just met...they were hugging on each other, looking into each others eyes. You guys were probably out drinking, right? I can relate to that exact experience. "I'm not really looking" means "I don't have the energy." Flirting is non-committal by nature, and it's easy to do. You can have a woman on your lap, feeding you whipped cream, and you could just as well be walking by the pier, looking at the seagulls. At that point, it's just something pleasant to do.
eric82 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 In my experience, the girl asking about this kind of stuff does it to try to manipulate the situation (whether that's to mold herself into what she thinks will make her more appealing, or so she can spread gossip and potentially cock-block). Time always reveals that she either has a thing for me, she hates the other girl, or she's simply so miserable with her own life that she doesn't like to see anyone else having fun. What's your real reason for wanting to know his (their) personal business?
EricaH329 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 It sounds to me like your friend really is just enjoying being single. All that whipped cream stuff doesn't really scream 'commitment' to me. I'm not looking for a relationship right now, but i'll flirt with people. It's harmless. I would never intentionally lead someone on, but harmless flirting is just that. Harmless.
sanskrit Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 It's quite possible to get lots of attention when not looking, in fact it seems more likely to because you send out a totally unstressed vibe that lots of people find attractive.
2sunny Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 your question - OP- begs another question... why do YOU even care enough to ask him? why are you paying so much attention to what he is or isn't doing? i would think he would be left wondering the same thing...
Author irc333 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 why do YOU even care enough to ask him? why are you paying so much attention to what he is or isn't doing? I dunno, most of my friends typically converse in this manner <shrug>, we talk about women we try to date. Like, "Hey, what do you think of Sue, she's pretty cute?" And they'd give their opinion, or they say they'd been out with her, etc etc. We do it all the time. Women do it too, just called making conversation. It is human nature to pay attention to what you're friends are doing. ;-) (or not). I wonder if this method is similar to washing your car in order to get it to rain? Like participate in reverse behavior to get what you want? Yeah, "Enjoying the single life" is pretty much par to going to gentlemen clubs, having women sit in your lap, etc, etc. That does coincide.
BobSacamento Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Why can't people just stay out of other people's business? You say you're a friend but you act like you are nothing but trouble.
Author irc333 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I guess you don't have the kind of friendships like I do with my friends....I guess that's the difference between your relationship with YOUR male buddies...and my relationship with my male buddies. Maybe it's a cultural or geographical thing, but we're always talking to each other about our dating experiences (we don't get that graphical), but just general stuff like. "Hey, how'd your date go with so and so last night" Perfectly normal conversation....well, at least from our point of view. Maybe you and your friends aren't as open with each other? Why can't people just stay out of other people's business? You say you're a friend but you act like you are nothing but trouble.
BobSacamento Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I guess you don't have the kind of friendships like I do with my friends....I guess that's the difference between your relationship with YOUR male buddies...and my relationship with my male buddies. Maybe it's a cultural or geographical thing, but we're always talking to each other about our dating experiences (we don't get that graphical), but just general stuff like. "Hey, how'd your date go with so and so last night" Perfectly normal conversation....well, at least from our point of view. Maybe you and your friends aren't as open with each other? Generally I don't ask questions. I wait for the person to bring it up to me. Or if it involves myself I will bring it up to my friends. Pretty simple. Otherwise I stay out of it. From my experience, women tend to be trouble when it comes to being wingwomen. Basically they are buzzkills.
threebyfate Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Consider it like a Venus Flytrap. One second he's a harmless plant, next second he's ingesting his prey.
2sunny Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 (edited) i think you like him more than you are willing to admit. wow, i now looked at your other threads and am realizing your are a male... oops! how old are you? Edited November 15, 2010 by 2sunny
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