Trista Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Yesterday, I decided to go out drinking at party, after a particularly tough week. My boyfriend was invited to the party and he decided not to drink. After two drinks, i felt rather sick and asked him if he would mind taking me home. his response was " you got yourself here, so you are responsible enough to take yourself home, i deserve a break from taking you home once in a while." I was rather shocked! he usually takes me home, and i understand he needed a break once in a while, but i was intoxicated. So i am 5'1" and he expected me to go to the bus, while i was really sick, in the dark and take the 25-30 minute bus ride home. this was when I decided to tell him i want to take a break. Let me give you a history, of why it reached this point. We've been dating a year, and during this one year i've never met his family or friends. I am not even allowed in his house because he told me it's too messy. He's never truly romanced me with flowers, gifts, cards or plushies until i nagged him for it. and the only time he did it was within the last two months. I had to nag him to get me a ring for our anniversary. I had to nag him to help me with school projects. He did help me with the school projects, but in our fights he'll use those times he's helped me and "rub my face into it" saying, well i did that for you, so i don't have to do anything else. He's put me down for going back to school. He's put me down during the party calling me irresponsible and i get myself into messes. ( I drink at most once or twice every 2-3 months, and I am in a medical program so it get's really stressful and just want to cut loose.) He's 26 and still live with parents, and brother and sister in a small house. He has no motivation to get a license or a car. He has no car. He complains about the commute to come to see me. He is always saying he'll change for the better, but I am just not sure if he will change I know this is a long read, but I am wondering what best to do.
dreamingoftigers Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 End it, he is a score keeper and not the giving type, and stop nagging, if you have to nag a guy you have a problem, just back away.
Leandro Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Yesterday, I decided to go out drinking at party, after a particularly tough week. My boyfriend was invited to the party and he decided not to drink. After two drinks, i felt rather sick and asked him if he would mind taking me home. his response was " you got yourself here, so you are responsible enough to take yourself home, i deserve a break from taking you home once in a while." WOW. I didn't read the rest of your post. This right here stopped me. That's pretty messed up of him. Really messed up of him. Doesn't care about you at all if he wants you to find your own way home.
Keridan Posted January 4, 2011 Posted January 4, 2011 Yep, tell him to kick rocks. You two see the relationship as completely different things. You are also quickly reaching two very different lives. He is still acting the teenager and you are headed for a professional field. You expect romance and he expects a tally of favors done. I'm sorry you are having this trouble, but I think you are better off getting free while you can. I do wish you a lot of luck!
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