WowReally Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 So my xMM is still reaching out to me even though he's already returned home. Should I anonymously tell his wife that her husband is still no angel or should I let things play out and let her think things are fine? I hate to ruin the holiday spirit but at the same time they both live in such denial...
YellowShark Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 So my xMM is still reaching out to me even though he's already returned home. Should I anonymously tell his wife that her husband is still no angel or should I let things play out and let her think things are fine? I hate to ruin the holiday spirit but at the same time they both live in such denial... You should stay out of his life and move on. You don't need the drama of "protecting" his wife from a unrepentant cheater. He returned home and still wants to cheat. You don't need that. Walk away, go NC, and stay away from MM. Good luck!
Author WowReally Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 Would you want someone to tell you or would you rather find out that your husband is a serial cheater/masochist?
dreamingoftigers Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I would want to know. I have a very strict anti-infidelity code that I live by. If one of my friends decides to cheat on their mates, I WILL tell them. The wife deserves to know what is going on.
Author WowReally Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Either you second or multiple chance people dont want to know or you dont think your partner will repeat their cheating ways...
YellowShark Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Would you want someone to tell you or would you rather find out that your husband is a serial cheater/masochist? Here's what happened to me. I told the BS that her husband was cheating with my EX. Hell, I caught them in-the-act for christ sakes! She went home after our talk and her husband convinced her I was insane and lying. She sided with her husband. 9 times out of 10 the BS will take the path of least resistance, believe the lies, and side with the WS. 1 time out of 10 they will not if there is a solid history of infidelity between them. IMHO you will just be wasting your breath WowReally. MM will gaslight his wife saying you are simply a jilted woman who pines for him and he shut you down... so you tried to "boil his bunny" by telling his wife he is a cheater. But do what you must, I am only offering what will most likely happen. Best of luck.
Author WowReally Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 If she willingly took him back for whatever reason then she should know by now that he's trouble and has an issue with being loyal...
YellowShark Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 If she willingly took him back for whatever reason then she should know by now that he's trouble and has an issue with being loyal... Well all I am sayin' is her loyalty is with her husband and not with you - (the OW.) She will side with him. Personally I would steer clear of that trainwreck and blacklist the both of them. Do what you must, but IMHO moving on and going total NC would be the healthiest route to follow. Good luck!
2sunny Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 yes, as a former BS - i'd want to know. how can we know - if we don't know? however- even IF you tell - don't expect that she will believe you- and definitely expect your MM to continue to lie - he will most likely deny it to his W. in that event - the best outcome is that he might stop trying to contact you for the fear that you will reveal his truth each time he contacts.
lululucy Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Well all I am sayin' is her loyalty is with her husband and not with you - (the OW.) She will side with him. Personally I would steer clear of that trainwreck and blacklist the both of them. Do what you must, but IMHO moving on and going total NC would be the healthiest route to follow. Good luck! i think this is the best route. She'll find out eventually, one way or another.. if the girl my bf had been cheating on me with had been the one to tell me, she might have been in some major trouble. No need to play the hero, just let their marriage alone. I'm sure she knows what kind of person he is and she will come to terms with it and deal with it on her own time.
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