112233 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 But, men who are older than 35 are very difficult in terms of experiencing love anyway. Nah you just need fresher bait.
Alma Mobley Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I wouldn't write the the younger men off. I was 34 when I met my husband, who was 24. We married a few years later and just had a baby a few months ago. He was really smitten with me and had never dated an older woman before. We're very happy! Be careful, though. Don't get too attached if the men you are dating are not looking for anything serious. A lot of people that age are not.
LisaLee Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 I wouldn't write the the younger men off. I was 34 when I met my husband, who was 24. We married a few years later and just had a baby a few months ago. He was really smitten with me and had never dated an older woman before. We're very happy! I agree, I also have a substantial agree difference between my boyfriend and I. I was not looking for a younger man, nor was he looking for an older woman, but what happens happens. And we are in it for the long term.
BlackLovely Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Just have fun mama! Celebrate your freedom from your WS-indulge in a sexy young thing. If you're too vulnerable for casual sex, I would suggest staying away from younger men. You need to be okay with being single before you get into your next relationship.
MissW1988 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hello All, I am currently dating someone that is about 9 years older than I am. He and I get along fine for the most part. However, priorities get in the way more often than not. He is 31 and I am 22. We both have things in common, but differences simultaneously. He is more of a home body, and I am far from that. I would classify myself as a mover and shaker. I love going out, traveling, seeing and trying new things, and he could care less. We try to compromise, but we end up just going our seperate ways ans spending less time together. I worry that his interests and mine will eventually take a turn for the worse in the long run. Any suggestions?
AverageJoe Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 And I also advised him that it might be a good idea to live alone for a period of time so he could have his freedom. I am surprised no one else picked up on this. This is a profound statement. I already know it, but I am glad to see some honesty. Gentlemen, when you are unmarried you are free. Otherwise, you are not free. Carry on.
AverageJoe Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Any suggestions? Yep, dont compromise yourself. Move on.
welikeincrowds Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Gentlemen, when you are unmarried you are free. Otherwise, you are not free. Is that so profound? It reads to me more like a truism. It's not unlike saying that when you are not working, you are free, or when you haven't a family, you are free. Great things require devotion. Freedom, in this sense, is just the possibility to devote to something else. I'd rather admire the great things than the possibilities.
AverageJoe Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Is that so profound? It reads to me more like a truism. It's not unlike saying that when you are not working, you are free, or when you haven't a family, you are free. Great things require devotion. Freedom, in this sense, is just the possibility to devote to something else. I'd rather admire the great things than the possibilities. I cant disagree with that, it is certainly true also. It is just refreshing to see a female acknowledge it. And coming from a female, it is profound in its own regard. Great things are subjective to each individual and what their desire may be. However, this was posed in the context of someone in a relationship or marriage who is no longer involved. Not everyday life activities.
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Dating a man who is much younger than you is good mostly for sex. You will probably fall in love with him. But, he is probably with you only for sex. In other words, it is much easier to fall in love with young hot guys than with guys around your age or older. But, it is much more difficult to make a younger guy to fall for you. But, men who are older than 35 are very difficult in terms of experiencing love anyway. Well - I guess I will know if it is just the sex if I tell them from the beginning that I want way more than just sex. I just wont have sex?!?!?!?! Does that mean that a 35 years old will definately want more than sex? I am genuinely curious. What about 5 years difference?
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Are you sure you're over your ex? I think it will take me another year before I am totally over my husband. I think it takes longer when you have the contact with each other that having a child brings. I do know that I do not want a relationship with him anymore. Not just because of the cheating.
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I wouldn't write the the younger men off. I was 34 when I met my husband, who was 24. We married a few years later and just had a baby a few months ago. He was really smitten with me and had never dated an older woman before. We're very happy! Be careful, though. Don't get too attached if the men you are dating are not looking for anything serious. A lot of people that age are not. Hey Alma, so it can work but it really does depend on the man. If he really wants a relationship then the age difference may not matter too much. I am starting to see that I do need to be careful. Actions speak louder than words. He may say he wants to be commited but do his actions support that?
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I agree, I also have a substantial agree difference between my boyfriend and I. I was not looking for a younger man, nor was he looking for an older woman, but what happens happens. And we are in it for the long term. LisaLee - I also am not looking for a younger man. I don't feel I am a cougar. These men have pursued me. I have never approached a man. Not that I wouldn't approach a man I was interested in. I want to meet a man my age. But it is not happening. I become confused because I write off anyone younger than me.
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Just have fun mama! Celebrate your freedom from your WS-indulge in a sexy young thing. If you're too vulnerable for casual sex, I would suggest staying away from younger men. You need to be okay with being single before you get into your next relationship. I am having fun but I really feel that something is missing...... LOVE.... But I may indulge in the flirting and dancing for a bit longer.
Author JaneDoe35 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 I am surprised no one else picked up on this. This is a profound statement. I already know it, but I am glad to see some honesty. Gentlemen, when you are unmarried you are free. Otherwise, you are not free. Carry on. I also never get why a married man feels tied down in his marriage so cheats. Then before long he ends up in the same situation with another woman. I really do want my husband to feel free.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Salvador Dali's wife was ten years his senior, and I believe he was about 25 when they first starting seeing each other. She was his muse, and he was very much in love with her.
Mellisa Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 This is a definate concern of mine when dating younger. But then again my husband was the same age. I am not unattractive but he left for a 21 year old. Now he regrets it. Sadly men like younger women,especially when they are older;:mad:That's why my mom always says it's better you marry a guy who is at least 5 years older
Mellisa Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Well, she didn't turn out to be the person he thought she was. She is very jealous and there are constant drama's. She doesn't cook and is very untidy. She doesn't like our daughter. She was perfect until they moved in together. He told you so?He married a 21 year old..be prepared to babysit:laugh:That is karma,isnt it:bunny:Nothing got to give
Mellisa Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 But, it is much more difficult to make a younger guy to fall for you. But, men who are older than 35 are very difficult in terms of experiencing love anyway. I dont think it'll be hard to make younger guy fall for you.The matter is how long can they stay in love;It's easy to experience one of the most passionate love with them but they can also change their mind so quick that you can barely keep up..I do somehow agree that older guys are difficult to fall in love..you hardly seen them go crazy about anyone.That's probably because they've seen more and experienced more,so when it comes to you, they no longer find it special anymore.
Mellisa Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Hello All, I am currently dating someone that is about 9 years older than I am. He and I get along fine for the most part. However, priorities get in the way more often than not. He is 31 and I am 22. We both have things in common, but differences simultaneously. He is more of a home body, and I am far from that. I would classify myself as a mover and shaker. I love going out, traveling, seeing and trying new things, and he could care less. We try to compromise, but we end up just going our seperate ways ans spending less time together. I worry that his interests and mine will eventually take a turn for the worse in the long run. Any suggestions? That's normal,you are 22 and he's 31.Find things you both like doing,that way you'll have more quality time together.
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