I have an ex gf that I am still on good turns with but...

[lekker01234]

I have an ex girlfriend that I talk with all the time. She considers me her rock and all but recently she has been going on trips with this guy. Now normally this wouldn't bother me since I know chances are something is going to happen but I can't understand why during these trips she never picks up the phone. The guy knows about me so it shouldn't matter but when she gets back is business as usual with us talking. At one point on one of her trips I got fed up and never called again. we didn't for a week and she sent me an email asking me why I don't call. So my question is why won't she pick up the phone if I already know she is on a trip with a guy?

[PegNosePete]

The question is, why do you feel she should pick up the phone while she's on a trip with another guy?

If I was on a trip with a girl and an ex kept phoning me, I wouldn't pick up either.

[lekker01234]

Its not that I feel she should pick up but then why should I even call her. It shouldn't matter if she is with someone or not. When she isn't on trips she wants me to call at least 2 a day.

[PegNosePete]

She's your ex, you don't have to do what she wants any more.

 

I don't have any friends who I call twice a day, or even once a day for that matter! That's too much contact for a healthy friendship IMO, whether with an ex or just a friend. What do you talk about, the weather?

[lekker01234]

We just call to say hello and see how the other is doing. I agree that its not healthy, especially since I'm the one usually calling her. This has happened before but I'm a sucker for second chances, about the not picking up when she is on a trip with another guy. After this I know I won't be calling her again. I'm not angry nor jealous about the situation I just find it disrespectful. I think that for any relationship, friends or initmate, to succeed there has to be communication and thoughtfulness. I think with any friendship you can't just turn it on and off when one person feels like it. I am not going to discuss it with her nor rationalize it, I feel a quiet retreat is the best way to go. I've learned that when it comes to women action speaks louder then words and to argue over this would be silly. I know she will eventually get bored and try to call me but this is the perfect excuse and time to move on and let it be.

[PegNosePete]

Yes couldn't agree more

If she calls and has a moan at you for not calling her then just hang up.