edwards99 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Hi all..well..after 3 months of what we both told each other was supposed to be 6 months..my finace and I are back together and have been for roughly 3 mnths..during our seperation I had sex with two women..I'm being honest..and I fiound out that she alos had a relationship for a few wks...which was nothing more than a fling..I haven't told her and she really hasn't admitted to anything...either way we both love each oither..I know I love her and want to spend my life with her and she the same..we are so into each other..have so much in common..and life is just amazing...it really is..but I feel as tho she cheated on me..and resent her for it..is this justifed...I did the same really..I regret every second...but I don't know why this is bothering me so..we fight about runors and crap..and I don't want to any longer..anyone have a take on this...sry for my gramma..I am very upset!!
Author edwards99 Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 Why do I nevwer get any replies to my questions I post..am I doing something wrong
ReturnToSender Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Happens to me too sometimes, where it takes awhile for a response. Dont take it personally, for the most part I figure either no one is sure how to answer or respond, or the answer is so obvious it doesnt need a response. Like...you are angry with her for doing the exact same thing you did.... That doesnt make sense. You are now back together and trying to move forward. So Im not sure where the issue is...unless you really dont want to move forward with her and using this as a really bad excuse to harbor negative feelings towards her. Theres got to be more to this than that.
Adi Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 In life we all worry about something, for me i used too worry about my dog making a mess in my new home, untill me and my girlfriend broke up, when we got back together, the people she had been with while we were apart never botherd me, cause she cheated just before we broke up. My point is if she did not cheat then i would be thinking of the people she was with during the break up, you just can not win, ask yourself this, are you second best, does she wont too be with this person she saw, i guess not has she is with you. Trust me make a coice now let it go or break up, i ended things with my partner, and i no now it can be easy too date, but finding the one very hard, but in my case it needed to happen, cause of cheating. In your case, read this and go and see your girlfriend, hug her and be gratful you have a second chance, dont look at the guy has someone she loved, it is survilval she was coping.
Author edwards99 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 What do u mean in that last sentence...about survial and coping??
Adi Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Think about why rebounds mostly never work out, when people split there is a big void too fill, that is what you girlfriend did, she survived the break up by being with someone else. The prop you have got is you are now using the internet, and people around you for ans, dont waste your time, just be happy that you can be happy
Jayerjay Posted November 17, 2010 Posted November 17, 2010 Why wouldn't she have seen other people? Isn't that the point of taking a break, to explore other options and determine if you're right for each other? She didn't do anything wrong if you were broken up when she started seeing someone new. It's natural for it to sting a little bit knowing she was with someone else, but bottom line is she chose you, is with you now, don't ruin it by thinking about the past. When it comes to second chances, only look forward!
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