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melissa123 Established Member

melissa123

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Hey all

 

I need a few tips on how to deal with my situation.

Its a very long story and im going to make it really short for you so hopefully you can get the idea of whats going on and help me cope.

 

Long story short I became involved with a guy who I basically fell in love with. I had never been made to feel so special. Before we got together offically (but when we were flirting like mad and txting back on forth non stop) he slept with one of my good friends. I got upset but he insisted he had done nothing wrong and feed me so much bull that I let it go.

 

Things get quite intense, he tells me he loves me wants no one else but me etc etc and then again virutally the next day he goes and sleeps with someone else.

 

This time I raged and shut him out but he begged and begged. He inisited again he had done nothing wrong and feed me all sorts of bull about me being the only girl he has ever loved and he doesn't wanna ever lose me. He send me cards etc and eventually I begin talking to him again.

 

He insisted we meet up so I went along and we have a massive long indepth talk about how much he loves me and never wants to lose me and hes done nothing wrong bla bla bla. I left feeling a bit better.

 

Wake up the next morning and find out he has slept with my good friend AGAIN that night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Im actually just heartbroken this time! I feel like an absolute idiot :(

 

He doesn't know that I know about this latest girl and thinks we are on speaking terms again so how do I bring it up?

I see him everyday :(

Should I contact him now, tell him I know, and go nuts.

Or just see him tomorrow and ignore him?

And whats the best way to act around him?

 

You don't need to tell me im an idiot as I already know, and please dont tell me not to go back there as I also already know that. I just need advice on how to deal with being around him etc.

 

thanks sooooo much

zengirl Established Member

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Is there some reason to be around him?

 

After that story, I'd say the best way to deal with being around him is: Don't.

 

And why are your friends sleeping with the fellow you're seeing? Friends don't do that.

brainygirl Established Member

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Tell him you have decided that you don't wish to be in a relationship anymore. Don't accuse him of anything because 1) he'll likely deny it and 2) it gives him an opening to use his bull on you.

 

If you must see him regularly as part of work or school or whatever, be pleasant but avoid contact. Just walk on by.

daphne Established Member

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What brainy said. You need to cut him loose and then ignore. It's not no contact with wishful thinking. It's no contact to move on and find something better.

 

This guy is a serious douchebag and maybe he'll learn at some point down the road the consequences of his actions. You don't want to see if that ever happens cos he'll not be able to prove it to you but rather someone else. Whatever you do, try not to blow up at him. That'll just make him happy to know that he affected you.

 

My ex cheated on me repeatedly. I disconnected my phones and walked away. Didn't yell. Didn't accuse. I just left and I felt much better about it. He called relentlessly for a year. 2 years later he asked me to marry him. He's still asking me back and it's been 3 years. I do not want that kind of misery.

 

Bow out gracefully but firmly. And determinedly.

daphne Established Member

daphne

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Can anyone answer why women fall for guys like this?

 

She even KNEW he was a douche-bag in the beginning.

 

I need to learn to stop being honest to women, and just fill their heads with crap, it seems like they prefer crap over honesty.

 

It's usually high attraction added in with a dose of naievete. In my situation, I suspected but could never confirm. When I confirmed I got the hell out of dodge. In the OP's case, I suspect that she has esteem issues and let him talk his bs.

Mad Max Established Member

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So he des the same thing twice and you allow it?!?! You acted like a doormat. I would never tolerate a woman sleeping with another man, whether we were official or not. He's a player, you allow him to walk over you, and since he knows you'll allow it, he keeps doing it.

Mellisa Established Member

Mellisa

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Hey all

 

I need a few tips on how to deal with my situation.

Its a very long story and im going to make it really short for you so hopefully you can get the idea of whats going on and help me cope.

 

Long story short I became involved with a guy who I basically fell in love with. I had never been made to feel so special. Before we got together offically (but when we were flirting like mad and txting back on forth non stop) he slept with one of my good friends. I got upset but he insisted he had done nothing wrong and feed me so much bull that I let it go.

 

Things get quite intense, he tells me he loves me wants no one else but me etc etc and then again virutally the next day he goes and sleeps with someone else.

 

This time I raged and shut him out but he begged and begged. He inisited again he had done nothing wrong and feed me all sorts of bull about me being the only girl he has ever loved and he doesn't wanna ever lose me. He send me cards etc and eventually I begin talking to him again.

 

He insisted we meet up so I went along and we have a massive long indepth talk about how much he loves me and never wants to lose me and hes done nothing wrong bla bla bla. I left feeling a bit better.

 

Wake up the next morning and find out he has slept with my good friend AGAIN that night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Im actually just heartbroken this time! I feel like an absolute idiot :(

 

He doesn't know that I know about this latest girl and thinks we are on speaking terms again so how do I bring it up?

I see him everyday :(

Should I contact him now, tell him I know, and go nuts.

Or just see him tomorrow and ignore him?

And whats the best way to act around him?

 

You don't need to tell me im an idiot as I already know, and please dont tell me not to go back there as I also already know that. I just need advice on how to deal with being around him etc.

 

thanks sooooo much

 

How was the sex between you two? Seems like his penis and him want different things...I just dont get why he even bothers keeping you around ?

Mellisa Established Member

Mellisa

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Hey all

 

I need a few tips on how to deal with my situation.

Its a very long story and im going to make it really short for you so hopefully you can get the idea of whats going on and help me cope.

 

Long story short I became involved with a guy who I basically fell in love with. I had never been made to feel so special. Before we got together offically (but when we were flirting like mad and txting back on forth non stop) he slept with one of my good friends. I got upset but he insisted he had done nothing wrong and feed me so much bull that I let it go.

 

Things get quite intense, he tells me he loves me wants no one else but me etc etc and then again virutally the next day he goes and sleeps with someone else.

 

This time I raged and shut him out but he begged and begged. He inisited again he had done nothing wrong and feed me all sorts of bull about me being the only girl he has ever loved and he doesn't wanna ever lose me. He send me cards etc and eventually I begin talking to him again.

 

He insisted we meet up so I went along and we have a massive long indepth talk about how much he loves me and never wants to lose me and hes done nothing wrong bla bla bla. I left feeling a bit better.

 

Wake up the next morning and find out he has slept with my good friend AGAIN that night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Im actually just heartbroken this time! I feel like an absolute idiot :(

 

He doesn't know that I know about this latest girl and thinks we are on speaking terms again so how do I bring it up?

I see him everyday :(

Should I contact him now, tell him I know, and go nuts.

Or just see him tomorrow and ignore him?

And whats the best way to act around him?

 

You don't need to tell me im an idiot as I already know, and please dont tell me not to go back there as I also already know that. I just need advice on how to deal with being around him etc.

 

thanks sooooo much

 

To answer you question,when you see him next time, just go ahead and say"Why are you sleeping with my good freind this time again?"And then sit back and amuse yourself when he's feeding you with these bs again;It'll get even funnier this time;When he's done with the bs, you simply say coldy and casually"Thanks for the amusing bs.We are done.Go **** whatever woman you want.It's not my business anymore"And then turn around and WALK AWAY

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