xpaperxcutx Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Last time I heard a guy who weighed 118 at 5'10, he was anorexic. I honestly wouldn't date a guy who weighs lesser than me. It's hard enough to live everyday without worrying about gaining weight, or putting on a pound, but to constantly be with someone who would remind me of " weight" can be very stressing.
Author tb24 Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 I'm not anorexic I'd actually like to gain weight.
daphne Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I wouldn't but I weigh 104 pounds. I have mostly dated thinner guys, however. I'm not terribly attracted to overweight guys.
Mellisa Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I ask this because I'm 5'10 and 114lbs, I'm very skinny, No, there's nothing wrong with me, it's just the way I am. My father is the same (though he's a mechanic so is bigger due to lifting heavy things around all day) and so is my grandmother, it's entirely genetic and I'm perfectly healthy. Would you have a problem dating a guy smaller than you? Some girls just seem to want big muscular men. I've done ok with girls but I do wonder if my size is setting me back. Thanks for any input, be honest please Do you work out?If you are skinny in a lean athletic way,there is no problem.But if you are skinny skinny,personally,i just not physically attract to them.I'd rather them be a little overweighted than too skinny.
USMCHokie Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 5'10" and 114 lbs is very slim...and I picture a rather gaunt individual...I think you may underestimate how much food you actually have to eat in order to gain some weight, especially if you are a hardgainer to begin with... Some women dig that look, but many might not...
aerogurl87 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 My boyfriend's 6'1 and weighs a buck fifty. I'm 5'6 and weigh 130 pounds. I think he's the sexiest guy I've ever dated, so yeah he may not technically weigh less than me. But he's not all muscle which I like as I've always been more into guys who are tall and skinny for the most part.
Mellisa Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 My boyfriend's 6'1 and weighs a buck fifty. I'm 5'6 and weigh 130 pounds. I think he's the sexiest guy I've ever dated, so yeah he may not technically weigh less than me. But he's not all muscle which I like as I've always been more into guys who are tall and skinny for the most part. Tall and skinny is not bad;Average or short skinny it not good...for average or short guys, it's better they have some muscles on to make up for the lack of height.The sexist body type to me is tall,lean and a little muscular.The least is short and skinny
aerogurl87 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Tall and skinny is not bad;Average or short skinny it not good...for average or short guys, it's better they have some muscles on to make up for the lack of height.The sexist body type to me is tall,lean and a little muscular.The least is short and skinny Yes I have to agree with you. Well my boyfriend's tall and skinny but his arms are actually somewhat muscular due to the type of work he does. It's just perfect for me. And yeah short and skinny is bad, but I think short and fat might be a tad bit worst.
Green Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 5'10" and 114 lbs is very slim...and I picture a rather gaunt individual...I think you may underestimate how much food you actually have to eat in order to gain some weight, especially if you are a hardgainer to begin with... Some women dig that look, but many might not... He might be eating highly processed foods and very little at that. A person literaly has to force themselves to eat if they are in his situationg. Lots of and lots of nuts and fruits along with a big glass of milk and mass amounts of brown rice and chicken about 6 times a day would probably help this guy out a lot. If he worked just a little each week say weight lifting 3 times a week and ate 8k calories a day he would gain weight not problem. he probably barely eats 1500 cals a day is my estimate.
Mellisa Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Yes I have to agree with you. Well my boyfriend's tall and skinny but his arms are actually somewhat muscular due to the type of work he does. It's just perfect for me. And yeah short and skinny is bad, but I think short and fat might be a tad bit worst. Yep, to correct, the least sexy body type is short and fat lol
Els Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 To be very honest, I do know some women who are turned off by very thin men. An ex of mine was 5'9" and about 125 lbs, and he was really lanky and thin, the thinnest guy I'd ever seen, so I'm honestly having trouble imagining someone thinner than him (which you seem to be). However, if you're eating healthily while still being at this weight, and don't have any medical conditions that could be contributing to it, please don't start stuffing yourself with lots of calories and protein just to bulk up, as some of the posters here are suggesting. That would only predispose you to certain medical conditions and serves noone any good. If you really feel you want to bulk up, the most you should be doing is eating a little more while doing muscle training exercises. But when you meet the right girl, it shouldn't be an issue anyway. The abovementioned ex's body wasn't really my type, but I fell in love with his mindblowing wit and intelligence, and his lovely personality. I'm sure there will be girls who will fall for you in the same way.
runner Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 several years ago, with an ex, we were naked in bed one evening. i had to get up and accidentally slipped on her jeans. i knew it didn't fit quite right and quickly realised that it was hers and not mine. the look of disgust on her face was priceless :lmao:
denise_xo Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 (edited) My H is very skinny. I'm fairly slim, too, I go back and forth between slim and more average weight, but in terms of BMI or whatever this gets measured by I'm sure he's lower on the scale than me. And no, that's not an issue. Edited November 14, 2010 by denise_xo
sally4sara Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 If a guy was skinnier than me, he'd probably have a lot of heath issues. So no, I don't think I would date him.
Room Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 The guy that I like is 5'9'' and 123 lbs. I think he's very attractive. At least to me
D-Lish Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I once dated a guy that was pretty skinny- he had a rockstar thing going on, played in a band, and I think he drank a lot more than he ate:p I was super skinny too, but the fact that we were around the same weight bothered me. I think he about 125lbs and I was about 110lbs- but he was a few inches taller than me. I don't think I'd be able to do it again- it always made me feel a tiny bit self conscious being with someone so thin.
lululucy Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Nah.. my bf is 5'11 and 195 but it's mostly muscle (he's a hockey player) .. though I don't mind a bit of padding. The "skinniest" guy I've ever dated was 175 -- I like to feel safe and protected just walking beside him. I like being the girl
Room Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I was wondering if a too skinny guy would have a good health ? I hope yes. My guy is really skinny. He is considered underweight according to BMI measure. He drinks about 2 oz of alcohol a week. He also works 12 hours/day. He doesn't eat much. I'm so worried. I'm afraid he might collapse.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I do need to start working out properly, I already know eating doesn't help. Eating and working out go hand in hand. You can't expect to build a body on either working out or eating alone. I think a lot of people don't realise that going to the gym is only about a quarter of the effort you need to make in order to get a great body. The rest is all about diet and getting plenty of rest. I used to be pretty skinny - I seemed to be perpetually stuck at 155-60 (I'm 5'11"), despite starting to go the gym regularly when I was 20. It was only when I started a career in my mid twenties and started eating properly (i.e. for bodybuilding) that I started to put on lean mass. The heaviest I've been was slightly over 200lbs, and I could have conceivably added another 10 or 20 if I had the desire. At the moment I'm about 185 but am actually trying to lose a bit of weight.
ascendotum Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I ask this because I'm 5'10 and 114lbs, I'm very skinny. I've done ok with girls but I do wonder if my size is setting me back. At that weight, I have no doubt it will be reducing your prospects, you suspect it that's why you are posting here. There have been times when I have weighed just a little bit more than you at the same height (total ectomorph) and I really struggled with picking up women then. Putting on weight made a really big difference. (likewise there was a massive turnaround in love life for someone else I know who overcame a health condition and subsequently bulked up). The aspect that really made it hard for me is that skinny, slender, petite women who I am intrinsically attracted to were the ones that usually had the 'rack off' attitude during those times. I am sure what country you live in will be a factor as to how much skinny is accepted by women as not being too much left of centre from the local ideal. Half my GFs have been foreign. Other aspects I have noticed over the years... There was a post made a day ago by someone here regarding a study showing how women's weight effected their financial prospects in life as regards snagging a man with a good career. I have also noticed this effect from the male perspective bulked vs thin as regards the level of income with my GFs and also the level of congeniality of women (in relation to their careers/education). Someone else not so long ago posted a study showing how the more sexual a woman is the more likely she will be attracted to more masculine/alpha men. I have noticed this aspect with my friends over the years in terms of the women they would hook up with. The more macho guys would 'tend' to get the more attractive/feminine looking women but also they were more raunchier.The girls I was with when skinny were more tepid when it came to sex compared to when I bulked up (asian girls excluded).
SadandConfusedWA Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 No, I wouldn't. I kind of do not even attempt to connect with a guy unless I think we would look good as a couple (i.e. he is taller and bigger than me but in shape). I am pretty superficial though :S I did however, fall in love with my boss and he is skinnier and shorter than me. But he is the most intelligent man I have ever met so that kind of out weighed the looks. That's the only exception though and I am 31. My most significant ex was 6'4" and 175lbs. He was really thin but had a triangular shape that I found appealing. He also looked bigger than me because of his height even though he had a lower BMI.
USMCHokie Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Eating and working out go hand in hand. You can't expect to build a body on either working out or eating alone. I think a lot of people don't realise that going to the gym is only about a quarter of the effort you need to make in order to get a great body. The rest is all about diet and getting plenty of rest. Actually, the remaining 75% of the effort is in doing bicep curls...just curls...for the girls...
Eeyore79 Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I wouldn't want to date a guy who weighed less than me, or who was skinnier than me. My friend was 5'10" and 112 lbs, and he was extremely skinny, to the extent that he had trouble dating. He used to complain that average sized women wouldn't date him because he was skinnier than them - he now has an extremely petite gf who is even slimmer than him. So maybe dating smaller women is the way to go? I personally find skinny guys unattractive, but my own tastes tend more towards heavier men anyway. I don't have a problem with a guy being 220-230 lbs or more, and would much prefer a huge man with a hairy chest and plenty of meat on his bones instead of a slim, bald-chested guy. Different people have different preferences - whatever you look like, there's always someone who will find you attractive.
Els Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Nah.. my bf is 5'11 and 195 but it's mostly muscle (he's a hockey player) .. though I don't mind a bit of padding. The "skinniest" guy I've ever dated was 175 -- I like to feel safe and protected just walking beside him. I like being the girl To be fair, weight doesn't necessarily correspond with physical strength/ability. The bf only weighs 10 lbs more than me (he's 125lbs) but he can carry me effortlessly, swing me through the air and stuff. I have seen much heavier guys struggle to lift 115lbs.
Author tb24 Posted November 16, 2010 Author Posted November 16, 2010 I once dated a guy that was pretty skinny- he had a rockstar thing going on, played in a band, and I think he drank a lot more than he ate:p hehe is it ok to be skinny with a rockstar look? If so I'm set Thanks for all your responses and honesty I am trying to bulk up, at least a bit. I've no plans to go overboard I'd just like to be a little bit bigger, though it is difficult for me as I've said.
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