bl22 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Hey guys If you're in a simarlar situation to me which many of you are (getting over an ex) I feel it will be beneficial to everyone going through this to list any mistakes we have made in our relationship. We've all had time to reflect and although this has come out of the blue for most of us, there is bound to be things where we think ' I would have done that differently ' If we can get a list together, it will help us for the future, not to make the same mistakes, that way we will be better equipped for whoever we meet or if they decide they want another chance and we accept. I dont feel i made any major mistakes but minor ones, put down even the minor 1s. Mistakes of the top of my head - 1. Got too comfortable in the relationship 2. Got too used to her treating me (I never asked she just insisted) Its a bad idea, although I treated her with gifts and suprises and i always thought I was a thoughful and spontanius guy, she took it to the extreme and i just presumed it was a woman thing. Never let them pay for things for you even if they insist. 3. Didnt go to a family party of hers because we had argued and I didnt want to risk carrying it on at the party, this was late on in our relationship and its 1 of the things i feel most guilty about. I cant even rememebr what we argued about....damn 4. We never booked a holiday together, always talked about it but I never got round to it and it would have been so nice. 5. Quit the gym. Damn when i was with her for the first year I was full of confidence, and was pretty ripped with decent mass. But i quit to spend more time with her as I lost the motivation, I wasnt trying to imrpess anyone anymore. I lost some of my physique and discipline with meals (not majorly), protein etc...essentially i got lazy. Since we've broke up though I've regained my passion for the gym and this time wont quit...already feeling good for myself and in a few months time hopefully Ill be back where i left off. Thats off the top of my head...i was always complimentary and caring with her, so i cant complain about that. Please add your own guys...
swfc_77 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 do - treat them with respect and try to be a nice respectable person dont - hold them back, even if they do thing you ont like, do not stop them from doing it
Author bl22 Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 do - treat them with respect and try to be a nice respectable person dont - hold them back, even if they do thing you ont like, do not stop them from doing it deffo did the first 1, the 2nd 1 i tried to convince her to stay for like 2 weeks when she wanted to leave, i loved her and she said she stil loved me so i didnt getit. Eventually i let go.
reknown29 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I booked a holiday with my girl and she bailed two weeks before,. Tixs were non refundable/ changeable. I went to Europe alone. Consider yourself lucky for NOT booking a trip.
alwayshoping Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 me and my ex went to France and Morrocco. It was awesome! So much fun! But tbh, it was no more fun than going with your friends (apart from snuggles!). I think the main thing is to not forget yourself and always be ready for them to leave you aka looking after yourlself, keeping work a priority (for promotion etc) and having outside intrests besides her! If your life is super intresting she will never leave. I realised I dedicated too much to her and in the end lost too many good freinds, let myself get fat, and became less funny! I still treated her like a princess but thats not enough, I forgot myself! I am now back and realise how much of a catch I can be when I just focus on making myself happy and not someone else. Hmmm maybe Im talking crap but its the weird way I feel this evening! Btw People you can PM me now! (SW77) Always Hoping x
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