bl22 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Theres a few guys on here going through the same situation as me who have been updating and recording there progress on this site (alwaysshoping, swfc_77, ajax + many others) Well today I noticed something that made me think, on Fb a friend had commented 1 of my pics an old friend, i click the comment and i see 1 of my ex's comments at the top from when we was together and i noticed her FB picture had changed... Whats interesting about this is , when we got to know each other 2.5 years ago, she changed her picture to us. then we became official, she ALWAYS had a picture of us 2 as her display, she said she could never have her display picture without me. that was until we broke up, she changed it 1 of her...2 weeks later it was 1 of her and the person she left me for. It was at that point i refused to bother lookin at her fb.... but today, after that comment on my picture, i noticed her wasnt them 2, it was a picture she'd taken from when we was together, just herself... so that makes me think why has she changed the picture of them 2 after just a couple of weeks. She had pictures of me n her as her display for 2.5 years....hmmm After all this, you're probably going to say why do you care. Well yeah i miss her, i stil love her and i do care...but i know more than anything theres not a chance in hell for us right now, even if she decides to want to come back. Maybe in a years time but right now no. I just really want this new relationship she has to go wrong because it was started through deciet and betrayal at my expensse where as me and her was just so real and innocent and pure.
just1guy Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 (edited) Don't waste too much of your time looking and trying to analyze every move she makes. I was in the same boat you. After two years, she decides to break up so for the next several months, I kept looking and deciphering every little deal trying to figure it out. I ignored the signs that she has some serious issues and thought that because I was a good, stable guy who treated her well, she would come back. I wished every bad thing to happen to her and her new guy. Now, ten months after we've broken up, I find out that she ended up marrying the guy she immediately dated after me. Something about him being divorced with two kids must have attracted her. Just keep yourself busy, live your life, and try your best to not think about her. Don't waste your weeks or months like I did. In the end, it's her decision and her life. Edited November 14, 2010 by just1guy
alwayshoping Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Theres a few guys on here going through the same situation as me who have been updating and recording there progress on this site (alwaysshoping, swfc_77, ajax + many others) Well today I noticed something that made me think, on Fb a friend had commented 1 of my pics an old friend, i click the comment and i see 1 of my ex's comments at the top from when we was together and i noticed her FB picture had changed... Whats interesting about this is , when we got to know each other 2.5 years ago, she changed her picture to us. then we became official, she ALWAYS had a picture of us 2 as her display, she said she could never have her display picture without me. that was until we broke up, she changed it 1 of her...2 weeks later it was 1 of her and the person she left me for. It was at that point i refused to bother lookin at her fb.... but today, after that comment on my picture, i noticed her wasnt them 2, it was a picture she'd taken from when we was together, just herself... so that makes me think why has she changed the picture of them 2 after just a couple of weeks. She had pictures of me n her as her display for 2.5 years....hmmm After all this, you're probably going to say why do you care. Well yeah i miss her, i stil love her and i do care...but i know more than anything theres not a chance in hell for us right now, even if she decides to want to come back. Maybe in a years time but right now no. I just really want this new relationship she has to go wrong because it was started through deciet and betrayal at my expensse where as me and her was just so real and innocent and pure. Hey, Well, I reckon things might not be perfect between them. Perhaps its a sign to you? One thing i have really been thinking about lately is if they come back then how do you trust them? She may try to change etc but once a cheater..... I hope her relationship messes up soon as she will come right back to you bl22. But I bet you wont want her, or if you do the lack of trust will break things up. Somethings cant be fixed no matter how hard you try, and because they broke it, they are to blame. Its wierd as I really cant get over my ex. Then today happened. I was rehersing for a play im in and started chatting with a nice girl. She said I was so funny. Good looking etc. I couldnt believe it so just started to flirt etc and whatever I said she laughed and messed with her hair. I never felt like that with my ex. She never complimented me or told me Im funny (even though others tell me it all the time!). Im really shy, and super unconfident but if people compliment me enough it gets me outa my shell. Anyways I digress. She showed me how someone who likes you acts. It was nothing like my ex. Yes my ex showed affection etc but she never made me feel like the funniest prettiest guy in the world. You know? This girl did it in 10mins! So whilst nothing may come off this it really showed me what I have been lacking for the past 3 years. The wierd thing is I didnt even expect to meet her, But when I did I made an effort to talk to her! Its wierd because I didnt think of my ex once tonight apart from thinking this girl ticked so many more boxes than she ever did in 3 years. I know its hard to see. But it will happen and really make you think why was my ex so ****. This girl probably wont see again but it gives me hope for the future. I know in a week I will be back thinking about my ex and thinking she is perfect, but truth is she wasnt, but I wanted her to be. Yes I wanted to marry her, like you bl22. But seriously, they CHEATED ON US! I hate cheaters (an opinion I had before my ex cheated on me), so why do I think its okay for my ex to do it? Love really makes us blind as I would take her back. We just need to wait for the smoke to clear. God knows how long that will take but hold on bro because there is no way you will be able to see her in the same light again. I know its hard, but she isnt pure anymore, she is stained with the deceit that ended your relationship. Deep deep deep down you know that your too nice and good to be treated like that. Fair enough if they want out, but to do it in such a manner? I would defriend my best mate if he did that. Anyways Ive just ranted, simply bcos I feel you need a nice reply from someone going through the exact same thing! take it easy matey. Always Hoping x
AgeOfUninnocence Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Theres a few guys on here going through the same situation as me who have been updating and recording there progress on this site (alwaysshoping, swfc_77, ajax + many others) Well today I noticed something that made me think, on Fb a friend had commented 1 of my pics an old friend, i click the comment and i see 1 of my ex's comments at the top from when we was together and i noticed her FB picture had changed... Whats interesting about this is , when we got to know each other 2.5 years ago, she changed her picture to us. then we became official, she ALWAYS had a picture of us 2 as her display, she said she could never have her display picture without me. that was until we broke up, she changed it 1 of her...2 weeks later it was 1 of her and the person she left me for. It was at that point i refused to bother lookin at her fb.... but today, after that comment on my picture, i noticed her wasnt them 2, it was a picture she'd taken from when we was together, just herself... so that makes me think why has she changed the picture of them 2 after just a couple of weeks. She had pictures of me n her as her display for 2.5 years....hmmm After all this, you're probably going to say why do you care. Well yeah i miss her, i stil love her and i do care...but i know more than anything theres not a chance in hell for us right now, even if she decides to want to come back. Maybe in a years time but right now no. I just really want this new relationship she has to go wrong because it was started through deciet and betrayal at my expensse where as me and her was just so real and innocent and pure. You never know, people put up the weirdest things as their profile pictures, it depends on individual situations. However, my ex and his new girl both had different versions of profile pictures of the two of them. One day I noticed that she changed hers to one of her and some friend of hers. And roughly a week after that, she dumped my ex. So you never know, but I wouldn't stalk out profile pictures as an indication of a bad relationship. I have another group of friends who were dating, the girl dumped the guy, and the guy still hasn't changed his profile picture of the two of them. So it's never to real an indication I'd say, until after the break up occurs. In retrospect, then you can see what was going on.
Author bl22 Posted November 15, 2010 Author Posted November 15, 2010 Yeah you're right alwayshoping, they did cheat on us. And i stil find it so hard to come to terms with it. My ex always did make me feel like the only guy in the world for her, she always complimented me and I gotta say she was pretty perfect until what happened. Makes it so much harder to take, I think she will be trying to come back 1 day in the future, but I won't consider it again until I'm over it and it's on my terms....which won't be for a long time yet. Also...just to let you no , my ex ex has tried making contact since my break up...just goes to show really. I have no desire to reconnect with her again, she was nothing compared to my recent ex , our relationship wasnt that close...and yet shes trying to reconnect on fb again...no thanks!!
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