mgene15 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 So me and my ex girlfriend broke up about 2 months ago, and immediately she tells me she loves me, but goes out with another guy. She says part of her is with him and part of her is still with me. we're both 21 and went through a whole lot, a couple baby scares, we both took eatchother to our parents, and everything. We have not contacted eatchother for 3 and a half weeks now, an i begged an begged to no avail, but when i begged she said she still loved me.. and immediately she gets with a new guy TO EASE THE PAIN AND SKIP THE BREAKUP PAIN FEELING PROCESS! WOMEN ARE MASTERS AT THIS< BECAUSE THERE WOMEN AND ALWAYS HAVE GUYS WAITING IF SOMETHIN DOESNT GO RIGHT WITH THE CURRENT RELATIONSHIP. meanwhile im here in the grey area... is this a rebound she's going out with now? to not feel the breakup pain??? a couple people told me alot of girls do skip the breakup pain process and immediately go out with some new guy to take there mind off of it, to only find out down the road they miss the guy they originally broke up with
watshername Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Probally a rebound. Not all girls do that and it's rediculas to say so. I am still madly inlove with my ex and wouldnt think about getting with someone else until I was almost completely over him. She is either just over it (which it doesnt sound like she is if shes saying she loved you without being provoked!) or she is just trying to get over you by having someone else which is the worst thing you can do. I don't think it speaks much aout how she felt about your relationship and clearly she doesn't have much respect for you to just get with another guy when you are hurting so much. You are well rid my friend. Concerntrate on yourself, work on yourself and love yourself, you deserve better x
iamawesome Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 My ex did the same thing to me, so you are not alone. Women who do this are not emotionally mature. You are better off without her. There are better girls out there who have the self-efficacy to avoid this kind of childish behavior. Find those girls and let this one be. Edit: By the way, most def. a rebound. Don't be her backup option or get grey-zoned. If she wanted to be with you, she would. She dosn't want to be with you, move on.
bl22 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Same happened here. Got with a new guy but told me the only thing shes sure off is she loves me, but needs 'time' I really hope it doesnt work out with the guy she left me for.
Gt.ooh Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Been there... They say they want a break, etc etc. It just means you're plan B. Trust us when we say: Keep busy, and work on yourself...Down the road, and I mean down the road, if she really cared..she'll come back, but better be ready for you to say No.
Coolsbreeze Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 It really saddens me when I hear other people going through the same thing I'm going. My ex broke up with me about 9 weeks ago and she's been with a new guy for 8 weeks now. Basically tells me that she neither really cared or loved me at all and didn't respect me neither. She just strung me along all that time until she could replace me. And after we broke up she told me that it's going to be a long time before she starts seeing somebody else. I've learned my lesson never believe a flipping thing she says. I'll just judge her by her actions. I mean seriously what kind of sick demented and just plain evil person could do such a thing to a person that loved you.
Wilie Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 It really saddens me when I hear other people going through the same thing I'm going. My ex broke up with me about 9 weeks ago and she's been with a new guy for 8 weeks now. Basically tells me that she neither really cared or loved me at all and didn't respect me neither. She just strung me along all that time until she could replace me. And after we broke up she told me that it's going to be a long time before she starts seeing somebody else. I've learned my lesson never believe a flipping thing she says. I'll just judge her by her actions. I mean seriously what kind of sick demented and just plain evil person could do such a thing to a person that loved you. My same exact situation.. except i was stupid enough to believe her for almost a month. Then to make it worse, last nite i broke 6 days NC to answer her call after she called 10 times, and wrote a email saying she made a mistake, etc,etc. We made plans to get together, she was to call me today... no call.. but a friend saw them together. Turns out my wife must have been upset at her new guy, and used me as a pawn to piss him off or soemthing. Lesson learned, listen to the signs, dont break NC for ANY F*****g reason people. Trust me, i was on the road to healing and it set me back yet again by believing in the hope. It's over when it is over, dont try to resurrect something that has died. Wilie
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