Not sure if I should pull the plug just yet

[lekker01234]

I have a friend who I like and she is having trouble with paying her bills. She asked me if I could give her brother a job so he could help out with the bills since they live together which I did and it really didn't help me too much as far as romance. The she asked me to help pay part of her water bill which I did and it hasn't helped me much romantically either since I don't really feel like we talk that much. She works at a bar and sometimes this group of guys come by and buy drinks. Usually afterwards everyone heads out to another bar that stays open later and usually she is there with them drinking and being affectionate. I almost think she is affectionate to the poinbt where she is seeing one of them. In any case it doesn't bother me but when do I pull the plug on helping out and also should I ask for the money back?

[imagine]

Hey man, this relationship doesn't sound too lekker to me.

 

Either you help out or you buy a prossie (I don't recommend the latter). Cons work on people who think they are getting a cheap deal. I think you have been conned and it is unlikely that you will get your money back.

[Bryanp]

You have been used and she has played you for a fool long enough. You did the nice thing getting the brother a job. Stop paying for her expenses. Do you really need to have a piano fall on your head to figure out that she is just using you?

[lekker01234]

I totally agree Bryan. I am not going to help her anymore. Its not my job, hopefully one day she will rememebr that I helped. I am not sure what to do about her brother though. I don't want to fire him but at the same point it doesn't seem fair that I should keep him on. I may give that another week or two then see what I do. Its unfortunate this situation but in the end I think I did the right thing...

[Bryanp]

Leeker - You sound like a really nice guy. Remember the old saying because I think it is applicable to your situation: "No good deed goes unpunished."