jamie43 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Hi. My BIGGEST problem in the dating world is approaching a guy I find attractive. Many times, I don't even make eye contact. I can't tell you how many attractive guys I've seen come and go, and I didn't even have the courage to say Hi. And the funny thing is, I'm not wholly shy or a recluse. I'm 20-yrs old and physically attractive (I model occasionally and have done photo shoots). I also do some acting and singing. So I have experience being in the spotlight. But when it comes to meeting a guy who I WANT to meet, for some reason it's just not in me to go up to him and say Hi, or even look at him for too long. A part of me fears being rejected, because he doesn't really know me and might think that I'm weird for approaching him. I'm looking for any books or articles that talks about dating for women. Not necessarily all about getting married, and not all about sex. Just dating guys in general, but it MUST talk about the subject of approaching a guy and minimizing my anxiety for approaching him. If you don't know of any books or articles, then I'd appreciate any tips of how to approach a guy and have a normal conversation, and deal with my fear of rejection. Thank you!
Mad Max Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Ever think of asking, the way guys do? Or are you hoping the women here will teach you how to play games and drop subtle hints that guys barely pick up on? What country are you in? This. Subtle hints are for little girls. You are a woman. You want him, you make a move and ask. Problem solved.
SomewhatExperienced Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Biggest thing is to lose the fear of being rejected. Ask him out, if he rejects you just say "Ah, well. Too bad." and be on your way to the next guy. There's a million reasons for someone to reject you and most of them don't have anything to do with you, so don't take it personally.
waynebrady Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 You are a woman. Why are you even considering doing the approaching? Women usually hate the idea of making the first move and doing the approaching. Most women will never even consider doing it.
musemaj11 Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Women are actually more well-equipped to do the ice-breaking part because women are generally more skilled socially. If a guy is interested after you broke the ice for the two of you, then he will start coming around more.
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