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For those lamenting the lack of sex - Be careful what you wish for

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Toodamnpragmatic Established Member

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I turned on Sirius Playboy Radio Advisor for literally 1 minute yesterday and a 46 yo recently divorced female called to say her boyfriend can't keep up with her and she doesn't feel wanted (or something to that affect)...... She then goes on to say she wants it 3X's a DAY!!!!!! Yes she may have rediscovered her libido, but she could kill a guy with that appetite:D;):laugh:.....

 

Without skipping a beat the male (on the radio) suggested that it may be asking a lot of a male as much as he may want sex to keep up that schedule and politely/subtly suggested to buy a vibrator, name it and use it 5X's out of 6, suggesting fairly that once every 2 days should be enough for a normal male......

 

Funny thing is I did not hear gasps from the women on the show.....:p

 

Note I also posted this on the Sexual practices board, but thought it may be worth posting here too....

somedude81 Established Member

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Three times a day, what's wrong with that?

 

It breaks down to, first thing in the morning, upon coming home from work, before bed.

 

I would love that schedule.

waynebrady Established Member

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Offcourse there are exception's, but in the vast majority of all relationships it's the woman who can't keep up with the mans sex drive.

 

Most men would love to have it 3 times a day, but are lucky if they get it once a month from their wife/girlfriend.

Woggle Established Member

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Some women want it more when they can't easily get it. I know when I stopped wanting sex with my ex she all of a sudden developed a libido. I think that some women just can't take rejection.

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Three times a day, what's wrong with that?

 

It breaks down to, first thing in the morning, upon coming home from work, before bed.

 

I would love that schedule.

 

Yeah sounds nice, particularly if 3x is an average. You know, 5x on Saturday and Sunday, skip Monday ...

LittleTiger Established Member

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Some women want it more when they can't easily get it. I know when I stopped wanting sex with my ex she all of a sudden developed a libido. I think that some women just can't take rejection.

 

Nicely done Woggle :)

 

One four letter word can make such a difference - and because of that word I'm going to agree with you. It's actually human nature to want something more when we're deprived of it, so it works for men too.....and nobody likes to feel rejected.

 

Maybe the woman on the radio was married to a man who had a low libido so she wants to make up for lost time.....or maybe her ex husband was as highly sexed as she is, so she expects the same from her boyfriend.

 

I do wonder what she meant by 'sex' though. It's possible she wasn't referring to intercourse but to some kind of sexual activity/contact, which may or may not include intercourse......or maybe she just needs an orgasm three times a day, which obviously doesn't have to involve her boyfriend.

 

Sexual intercourse three times every day could be a bit much, especially when you factor in normal life. Three times a day at the weekend sounds great if you're not too busy. However, sexual contact three times a day sounds quite reasonable to me - especially in the early days of a relationship.

 

If my partner didn't touch me sexually several times during the day I would wonder if something was wrong - it's just part of foreplay for us - but obviously it depends on the dynamics of the couple.

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she wanted.... Enough already, let's have a show of hands those that have had it 21X's week......:laugh:;):D Anyone???? And how old were you and how long did you keep it up????

LittleTiger Established Member

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she wanted.... Enough already, let's have a show of hands those that have had it 21X's week......:laugh:;):D Anyone???? And how old were you and how long did you keep it up????

 

Ok, not sure how you'd know that unless she actually specified 'full sexual intercourse' and this was a radio programme so I doubt she was being entirely honest - unless she's a nympho. :laugh:

 

You're not going to get too many people saying they've had this much sex for any prolonged period. A week or two at the beginning of a relationship maybe, otherwise, no.

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God bless her :)

dreamingoftigers Established Member

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she wanted.... Enough already, let's have a show of hands those that have had it 21X's week......:laugh:;):D Anyone???? And how old were you and how long did you keep it up????

 

When I was 17 and briefly in my twenties I had sexual compulsion issues. At the time where I was 17 I would orgasm to every track on a CD I had before going to sleep. 17 tracks, not a coincidence.

 

My h when I met him and I used to do it 2-3X a day right up until we got married (about 10 months). I did ask if we could have a day off from it because I was pretty sore at one point and he seemed pretty rejected. I honestly don't think he ever got over it.

 

We once tried to find out how many Os I could have before I couldn't have one anymore, we didn't hit the end (I think it was around 30). It was just getting sore and we got kind of bored after that long.

 

No kidding. No bs. But that was long before I started recovery, just so you know, it is possible.

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Most men in there 20's maybe. Not into their 30's and 40's.

 

As for the once a month - that is only true if you are with someone you are incompatible with.

 

Offcourse there are exception's, but in the vast majority of all relationships it's the woman who can't keep up with the mans sex drive.

 

Most men would love to have it 3 times a day, but are lucky if they get it once a month from their wife/girlfriend.

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When I was married I thought it was fantastic.. I was 20 and he was 34... We had sex at least twice a day, sometimes more..never went a day without any at all with the exception of the times my daughter or I were in the hospital. Cant even say the same for him...he had to have foot surgury, and when I went to visit him, ended up locking the door for some private time. We were ridiculous and it was fantastic LoL

 

Unfortunately, I seem to be cursed with men who have little to no sex drive ever since...with my ex, if we had sex once a week it was like some sort of accomplishment.

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Most of the times, when women say 'sex' they merely mean 'affection'.

 

A lot of men arent so affectionate. So the only way women can get affection from them is through sex.

 

If a woman already gets kisses and hugs a lot, she wont crave for sex as much.

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Most of the times, when women say 'sex' they merely mean 'affection'.

 

A lot of men arent so affectionate. So the only way women can get affection from them is through sex.

 

If a woman already gets kisses and hugs a lot, she wont crave for sex as much.

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:BLAHAHAHAHA

 

 

If you give a woman a lot of affection, she is more compelled to actually have sex. So many of these guys figure that if they threaten or put a time limit or whatever that their women will "understand their need" and they don't need to do that romance "crap."

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:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:BLAHAHAHAHA

 

 

If you give a woman a lot of affection, she is more compelled to actually have sex. So many of these guys figure that if they threaten or put a time limit or whatever that their women will "understand their need" and they don't need to do that romance "crap."

No, its not that.

 

I actually feel sad about women who have to have sex with their men just to get affection. I think men should be more affectionate at all times and stop pushing for sex. Men should accept that most women are just not biologically made to be as sexually needy as men.

 

In all the relationships I had, I almost never initiated sex. As a normal guy, most of the times Im always ready for sex, but women arent the same. So I would rather wait for her to initiate than having to think that she might agree to have sex with me even though she didnt really want to because it makes me sad.

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a couple of good points are raised here.

 

Woggle's comment about how "some women want it more when they can't easily get it" hits it on the head by illustrating how much sex is a mental activity. When you're getting it regularly, you don't think about being deprived; inversely, when the sex wanes (as in once or twice a year, if that often), then yeah, it's ALL you think about because THEN it becomes an issue of rejection. Which ties into to what MM11 says about women "not being biologically made to be as sexually needy as men" ...

 

think about it: For a chick, sex entails so much more than her mate inserting Tab A into Slot B; there's a whole level of intellectual foreplay as well as physical affection that *isn't* actual screwing. And when she feels ignored because her partner doesn't like kissing or hugging, or worse – thinks that it automatically means that it's going to lead to sex (whether he doesn't want it or does want it) – it's a form of rejection in her mind.

 

just some stuff to think about, guys ...

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No, its not that.

 

I actually feel sad about women who have to have sex with their men just to get affection. I think men should be more affectionate at all times and stop pushing for sex. Men should accept that most women are just not biologically made to be as sexually needy as men.

 

OKay, you are a great human being and yes this is very true.:o

 

In all the relationships I had, I almost never initiated sex. As a normal guy, most of the times Im always ready for sex, but women arent the same. So I would rather wait for her to initiate than having to think that she might agree to have sex with me even though she didnt really want to because it makes me sad.

 

I wouldn't just wait for her to initiate, women want to know that they are very sexually wanted as well. Maybe try to do it half of the time. :) It sucks to always be the initiator.

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she wanted.... Enough already, let's have a show of hands those that have had it 21X's week......:laugh:;):D Anyone???? And how old were you and how long did you keep it up????

 

I suspect this woman would be the same if she actually GOT sex 3x a day for a few weeks. Her need is amplified because she is coming from a place of lack. She'd calm down if she got lots and lots of sex for a while, I bet.

 

Most of the times, when women say 'sex' they merely mean 'affection'.

 

A lot of men arent so affectionate. So the only way women can get affection from them is through sex.

 

If a woman already gets kisses and hugs a lot, she wont crave for sex as much.

 

sorry, muse, I have to disagree with this as well. It is the kissing and hugging (touch) that makes me want sex the majority of the time. I can have 0 thoughts of sex, and then I hug H and smell his neck, feel his body press into mine.....yeah.....

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As appealing as it sounds, I just don't have the time for sex 3 times a day. Some women have high sex drives. What can I say?

dreamingoftigers Established Member

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As appealing as it sounds, I just don't have the time for sex 3 times a day. Some women have high sex drives. What can I say?

 

I don't either, it would take away from my LS time. :laugh:

musemaj11 Established Member

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I wouldn't just wait for her to initiate, women want to know that they are very sexually wanted as well. Maybe try to do it half of the time. :) It sucks to always be the initiator.

Nah, I dont initiate. If I initiated then I wouldnt be able to enjoy it.

 

But I always told my partners why I didnt initiate so they knew its not them.

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I turned on Sirius Playboy Radio Advisor for literally 1 minute yesterday and a 46 yo recently divorced female called to say her boyfriend can't keep up with her and she doesn't feel wanted (or something to that affect)...... She then goes on to say she wants it 3X's a DAY!!!!!! Yes she may have rediscovered her libido, but she could kill a guy with that appetite:D;):laugh:.....

 

Without skipping a beat the male (on the radio) suggested that it may be asking a lot of a male as much as he may want sex to keep up that schedule and politely/subtly suggested to buy a vibrator, name it and use it 5X's out of 6, suggesting fairly that once every 2 days should be enough for a normal male......

 

Funny thing is I did not hear gasps from the women on the show.....:p

 

Note I also posted this on the Sexual practices board, but thought it may be worth posting here too....

 

 

Dang! With that much sex, she'd be hobbling around, if she could do that much at all!:p:lmao:

 

Makes you wonder what happens when two sex addicts get together and go at it hard, of course no one anywhere within ear shot will be able to sleep, let alone think!:bunny::bunny:

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Three times a day, what's wrong with that?

 

It breaks down to, first thing in the morning, upon coming home from work, before bed.

 

I would love that schedule.

 

Yeah, it'd be fun for the first month or so. I'd like to see you try that for the entirety of your married life... or a year-long relationship, even, before you comment on that again. ;)

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Yeah, it'd be fun for the first month or so. I'd like to see you try that for the entirety of your married life... or a year-long relationship, even, before you comment on that again. ;)

 

I was married for 4.5 years and it never got old... Maybe we were just nyphos or something :bunny:

 

and even he cheated on me...so even though we having sex at least 2-3 times every day, he was still fitting in more times with someone else too.

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I was married for 4.5 years and it never got old... Maybe we were just nyphos or something :bunny:

 

and even he cheated on me...so even though we having sex at least 2-3 times every day, he was still fitting in more times with someone else too.

 

Gosh. Didn't you guys have full-time jobs and other hobbies/friends/obligations? :confused: I have really no idea how two adults could fit in sex 3 times a day for such a prolonged period of time. On vacations/weekends/during college, sure. But at other times? Unless you take like 5-10 minutes each time, that is. :laugh:

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