Funf Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Tonight I'm going out on a date with a guy that I've had a crush on for a while. I find him really attractive and he has a wonderful personality. Unfortunately, I can be very socially awkward around a guy that I like. I have difficulty conveying how I feel adequately so I end up doing or saying stupid things. Other times I'll try to refrain from saying or doing something stupid and I come off cold. So tonight we are going out to dinner at a place that seats people in booths so I'll be sitting across the table from him. I think it will be very difficult to make any physical contact due to that. I just need to know how I can show that I'm interested in him without looking like a moron or appearing too cold.
Cee Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Smile and laugh. And make some eye contact. Have a good date.
USCGAviator Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Just be yourself have fun with him and let your body language do the talkin. Body language can speak louder than words to a man
lululucy Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Lots of smiling, usual flirting stuff like playing with your hair-- and don't be afraid to touch his arm across the table if it feels right. If the booth is too big or there is awkward tension, bumping under the table (not in a super-sexual way) is a good way to break the ice and have a laugh about it. And relax! If you take the pressure off, you're going to be less likely to say things you'll regret later.
Author Funf Posted November 13, 2010 Author Posted November 13, 2010 I cant believe all the people on here that are so against communicating their feelings with a date.See, I want to communicate my feelings, but I can never do so eloquently. Instead I just blurt out "I really like you" and it comes off really awkward. Maybe my timing is inappropriate, I don't know. I've dated guys who were interested in me, and they never explicitly communicated their feelings early on.
SomewhatExperienced Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Forget about anything that you want to accomplish on the date. Don't think about signals to give him, or holding his hand, or god-forbid a kiss. Simply go out and enjoy his company without any preconceived notions. If you do this everything else will fall into place naturally.
reservoirdog1 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Lean forward, so as to communicate that you're interested in what he's saying. Smile. Make eye contact a lot, though be sure to take breaks from it (i.e. don't stare). DON'T cross your arms -- avoiding that will make you seem more "open" and less protective of your personal space. And, once or twice, if there's a pause in conversation, keep holding his gaze for a second or two more than is comfortable, then break the gaze by looking DOWNWARDS (not to the side) with a slightly embarassed-looking smile on your face.
zengirl Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Focus on him intently. If you're interested and you focus your energy on someone and be totally present, they'll get the hint unless you're completely socially inept. If you're socially inept for some reasons; normal interest cues people naturally give off are: smiling, laughing, asking questions about the person (especially follow-ups), touching lightly (i.e. touching his shoulder), etc. Just be yourself and your interest will generally shine through.
lululucy Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 ARE YOU SERIOUS?!?!?! playing with your hair????????? how old are you 14??? I cant believe all the people on here that are so against communicating their feelings with a date. Hahah -- no. I'm not talking about flipping your hair and acting like a child. Have you ever watched a date with two very interested individuals? The woman is more likely to "preen", touching her hair and rubbing her lips as to make herself more desirable. Don't communicate your feelings with a first date -- I'm sorry, I've never met anyone for whom that has gone well.
sanskrit Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Don't worry about expressing feelings. Just be light, flirty and fun. Talking about feelings and "liking you" on early dates is not the way to go for either gender. To show some interest, nudge into him when walking beside him, touch him lightly on the shoulder or upper arm when he says something funny or punch him in the arm playfully if he says something snarky. He will take things from there.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Forget about anything that you want to accomplish on the date. Don't think about signals to give him, or holding his hand, or god-forbid a kiss. Simply go out and enjoy his company without any preconceived notions. If you do this everything else will fall into place naturally. +1 I see this question a lot where people ask how they should behave on a date. The best advice I can think of for being on a date is to simply be yourself, and let nature takes its course. One way to increase the chances of things messing up is to put an act on or act in ways that you don't find natural or comfortable.
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