OceanGirl Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I mean say you are with a girl and you just don't feel that "spark". Can the kissing still be good?
utterer of lies Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I mean say you are with a girl and you just don't feel that "spark". Can the kissing still be good? Yeah, but why would I do that? Only leads to drama.
skydiveaddict Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 No...I'll only go so far as a hug... What are you doing up so early?
EasyHeart Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I mean say you are with a girl and you just don't feel that "spark". Can the kissing still be good?Nope. No kisses for her!
SomewhatExperienced Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Nope. Done it. Just end up going through the motions.
Leigh 87 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 That " spark" your are infering to, is called " chemistry". If it is not there, and there is no spark, then it will not be enjoyable to kiss women, You would only bother if you were horny and desperate for sex.
Feelin Frisky Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Nope. Done it. Just end up going through the motions. This ^ But sometimes going through the motions is better than no motions. Depends on a few things besides looks.
Mad Max Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Two things: 1)No, I don't kiss women I'm not attracted to 2)I'm getting real tired of women using terms like "spark" and "chemistry". I NEVER see men using those terms. All that matters is attraction. Sparks and chemistry don't lead to attraction. The only time I ever used chemistry was in 10th grade and I almost blew up the lab.
Jannah Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 I had a guy one time hug me on the first date, but text me a few hours right after the date saying he enjoyed meeting me and that I was physically attractive. Who knew what to think.
112233 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 If she's unattractive, or what? I mean, if I didn't want to kiss her I wouldn't go out with her, I'd get the guys together and have some beer.
tb24 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 (edited) Ok this is quite an embarrassing story but I'll tell it anyway. Out at a club with some friends when I was about 19 or 20, a 35-40 year old woman who I was not interested in at all came up to me and said "You're gorgeous" and kept giving me compliments. I tried to back off but she kept coming back and talking to me. Next thing I know, she kissed me. She pretty much forced herself on me, it's not fun at all. One of my biggest regrets was actually kissing her for a few seconds and not backing off straight away. At least I didn't let it go any further! Lesson. Learned. Edited November 13, 2010 by tb24
Mellisa Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I had a guy one time hug me on the first date, but text me a few hours right after the date saying he enjoyed meeting me and that I was physically attractive. Who knew what to think. That means he thinks you are physically attractive in an objective way,probably to most other guys,but that doesnt really do it for him..When i say to somebody they are physically attractive,i usually dont feel any real connection.But so long as i'm physically attracted to someone, i dont pass the chance to kiss them.Kissing dont mean much to me.
Mellisa Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Ok this is quite an embarrassing story but I'll tell it anyway. One of my biggest regrets was actually kissing her for a few seconds and not backing off straight away. At least I didn't let it go any further! Lesson. Learned. Come on,one of you biggest regrets?it's not that dramatic...What you got to lose?
Jannah Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 That means he thinks you are physically attractive in an objective way,probably to most other guys,but that doesnt really do it for him..When i say to somebody they are physically attractive,i usually dont feel any real connection.But so long as i'm physically attracted to someone, i dont pass the chance to kiss them.Kissing dont mean much to me. That's what I thought too, but he continued to call me quite a lot afterward, so lots of mixed signals. Oh well.
Author OceanGirl Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 If she's unattractive, or what? I mean, if I didn't want to kiss her I wouldn't go out with her, I'd get the guys together and have some beer. Yes, say you don't really find her attractive. I know plenty of men who do date women that they don't find that attractive.
Author OceanGirl Posted November 14, 2010 Author Posted November 14, 2010 That means he thinks you are physically attractive in an objective way,probably to most other guys,but that doesnt really do it for him..When i say to somebody they are physically attractive,i usually dont feel any real connection.But so long as i'm physically attracted to someone, i dont pass the chance to kiss them.Kissing dont mean much to me. I had a guy tell me once that I am objectively attractive but that I don't really do it for him
112233 Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 Yes, say you don't really find her attractive. I know plenty of men who do date women that they don't find that attractive. Wow really? Why? Well I guess you need feedback from them, I can't help except to ask, are you sure they find their dates unattractive? You can find some beauty in almost anything if you look at it the right way.
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I would definitely kiss someone that I was mildly attracted to, but I would not kiss someone that I was not attracted to unless I was on something. I knew a guy at uni who was an awful womaniser, and he would kiss absolutely any female if she let him. He had to be drunk first, but then he really didn't discriminate. It was quite funny, to be honest, because a number of times I saw him chasing after girls who weren't very attractive. The next day I would take care to remind him.
JamesM Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Yes. IF...the girl was an excellent kisser who was doing so enthusiastically. Beauty has nothing to do with the ability to kiss. While I love my wife dearly, the one who kissed me the best was not her.
jimbo Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Nope, can't do it. I've tried and it turned into a hug.
SadandConfusedWA Posted November 15, 2010 Posted November 15, 2010 Yes. IF...the girl was an excellent kisser who was doing so enthusiastically. Beauty has nothing to do with the ability to kiss. While I love my wife dearly, the one who kissed me the best was not her. I did think that kissing and chemistry are kind of intertwined...
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