looker21 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 the girl i had been dating for a while gave me the whole i need space talk, and i have since obliged going on about three months now with no contact. Some day are harder than others but i always find myself thinking about her. This is where is gets tricky, i had been engaged before and was a year and a half removed (i'm leading a healthy life now) and she broke off her own engagement a couple months before we started dating. I know what you're thinking and i can assure you this isn't the typical rebound situation. I really wanted to help her in any way i could because i knew the pain she was going through. Some talks were very light and some were more serious (when we talked about the broken engagement) Everything was great but i think that me being in the picture allowed her to avoid her own problems. Soon after I think the weight of it all finally caught up to her and that's when she needed the space. I had been through a broken engagement myself so i knew that she needed legitimate space to sort her life out. SO, i've been thinking of just shooting her a very light hearted text or call just to see how she is, but everytime i talk myself out of it saying that i need to continue to give her space. I want to be with very badly but don't want to push her away any further. The most frustrating part is, since i haven't talked to her in 3 months so i don't know how she's coping whatsoever and we don't really have any mutual friends she would have opened up to. I feel strongly enough for her that i would wait for her for as long as she needs but i lack a little motivation lately since i haven't heard from her in a while... any advice?
SithLord Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Forget about her, worry about your feelings.....work on yourself., the pain lessens with each day. People don't come back until you truly forget them. Go to YouTube and search "Swingers" the first scene in the movie, he covers everything I just told you..lots of famous actors in the movie
bleeg Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 My good friend, do you want a second chance? I have some good news for you. It's a win/win situation. The only way you will get a second chance, is if you stop contacting her and move on. THAT is sadly the only way. If she comes back, great. If she doesn't, you're moving on. Win/win.
SmileyGirl Posted November 14, 2010 Posted November 14, 2010 I know exactly how your girlfriend is feeling!.. I too went through a failed engagement and jumped into what everybody kept calling a "rebound" relationship... I truly respected and adored the guy but after about 10 months I needed to take time and step back from the relationship to get myself together in the sense that I never had "me time" to cope with the break up. I found myself 10 months into the relationship thinking about my ex fiancee and had to re evaluate my thought process. I felt like I never went through that important "healing process". That certainly was not fair to my boyfriend at the time and definitely gave me some time to really understand the essence of time healing ones heart. I know it's completely against LS's motto but maybe a friendly text just to see how she is doing is not all that bad. I just know how I felt, and it was not that I did not like the guy I was seeing and did not want what was best for him or the relationship, I just needed some well deserved time to get my feelings in check. Good Luck to you!
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