Don't give up on what you want

[madjac74]

Hey guys! I havent been on in awhile and the last time I was my gf and I had decided to end our LDR and try to retain our best friendship. Ive always been glad I found this site and met some great people who havethe same LDR struggles so I thought I'd share my experience.

 

Despite ending our relationship and trying to maintain our friendship cuz she really is my best friend, I tried to back off quite a bit. mostly because Im a guy and I have my pride. I felt like she wanted the good parts of our relationship but also wanted the ability to find something closer if the opportunity arose. As much as I tried to back off and as much as we worried about eventually hurting each other by finding someone new, we never stopped talking day in and day out. The saturday before halloween we talked all day long and she said she was going to several parties and then out to the clubs with friends (dressed as a nurse no less) I was staying home with the kids and said Id miss talking to her. She wondered why I wouldnt talk to her and I just said well you will be partying and I wouldnt want to bug you. Well she ended up cancelling her plans and staying home and we talked til early in the morning. And then I woke up the next morning to find this message on my yahoo:

 

"so a year ago today i was supposed to marry the most awesome guy i have ever met and for whatever reason it didnt happen. but over the past year i have learned that i love him even more than i thought was possible one year ago. and for that reason i don't regret waiting. i can tell you today that if he will have me then i will be with him forever, marrriage or no marriage, distance or no distance. you are my best friend mark and i love you more than i can even begin to describe. happy halloween gorgeous."

 

Of course I said no thanks! Haha jk! Just a little back story... a year ago we were planning to marry on halloween but it was just after she moved and things became complicated. Im not sure why I told that story...maybe I just like to or maybe it will convince others not to give up. It didnt solve any of our problems but I think it took a lot of stress off both of us trying too hard to make something we want happen. We both know we want to be with each other no matter when it happens. We have both admitted that no one else interests us. We cant give up on a love like that! Ok that was long but I havent been on in awhile so I had to catch up

[folieadeux]

Hi Madjac, while I am unfamiliar with your entire story, this post reduced me to tears (in a good way). I guess I’m just in one of those moods today.

 

Life is way too short to not just go for it.

[madjac74]

Well thank you! Im glad it had an affect on someone and i'm glad it was good tears and not dry heaves! haha! And I am always in those type of moods...she is definitely the tougher one emotionally and for her to send me this message was really more epic than it seems.

[LittleTiger]

That's great madjac. I'm really happy for you.

 

It's a bit of a cliche but they do say 'love will always find a way'.

 

I had noticed your absence on here and assumed you were 'getting your head together' - your last post had a bitter edge to it, if I remember correctly.

 

I'm so glad she proved you wrong.

[Citizen Erased]

I am so happy to read this! I was really surprised when you said you two had split.

 

When they're it, they're it, no matter what. Thankfully she realised that before she let you get away!

[PhyB]

I am also very happy to read your story!!! I am so touched. I hope things will get better in my case. You make me positive.

[skydiveaddict]

I agree with you madjac. distance means nothing. You can make it work if you both want to

[madjac74]

That's great madjac. I'm really happy for you.

 

It's a bit of a cliche but they do say 'love will always find a way'.

 

I had noticed your absence on here and assumed you were 'getting your head together' - your last post had a bitter edge to it, if I remember correctly.

 

 

My last post was very bitter. Not usually like me even in the worst circumstances but I felt like she was making the wrong decision.

 

I'm so glad she proved you wrong.

 

Did she really prove me wrong or did I prove she cant live without me haha jk! I could care less. All I know is she makes me happier from 800 miles away than anyone here can. And i'm glad she feels the same

 

folieadeux, Citizen Erased, LittleTiger, PhyB, skydiveaddict...thank you all for the kind wishes and support! This really is a great site with great people

[aerogurl87]

Madjac I'm happy for you. Well it goes to show you when something's right it'll find a way to survive no matter what you do to stop it. I'm happy she came to the realization that she wants to be with you no matter what. That was a sweet line "i can tell you today that if he will have me then i will be with him forever, marrriage or no marriage, distance or no distance". That put a smile on my face.

[LisaLee]

Aww, that is very endearing! I was also surprised when you mentioned you guys split, because you sounded so into her and in love. However, I am kind of confused on what exactly the official status of your relationship is now. Back together, or just taking it day by day? And when will you guys get to see each other again?

 

PS. I love the picture in your avatar!

[madjac74]

aerogurl, that line put more than a smile on my face it put tears in my eyes. I'm a wuss! What a way to wake up on a sunday morning and my favorite holiday. I couldnt tell her enough how much it meant to me.

 

Lisa, we are very much together and more committed than ever to making this work. One morning when I talked to her she asked me how I felt about getting married in Greece. Im still partial to Iceland but could I really complain either way?