JP2882 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Good evening. I am curious what others think about their exes contacting them on their birthdays. What are they trying to accomplish? I understand if you and the ex are still on good terms and are in at least semi-regular contact then birthday wishes are fine. But an ex that, for all intents and purposes, just disappeared from the face of this earth? What's the point? I recently had a birthday and got a text message from an ex girlfriend. That's cool and I appreciate the gesture. I responded with a thank you, and asked how she was doing. You know, just trying to be friendly and catch up a bit. And then....nothing. She refuses to respond. I just don't understand. I have long since buried that hatchet and thought she had too. What is she trying to accomplish? I understand that maybe she was just being nice or wanted to be polite so as not to appear "heartless", but come on. Why even wish an ex happy birthday if you don't have any desire to at least catch up. Not try to rekindle a burnt out flame, just be friendly. What's the motive? When I wish an ex happy birthday if they choose not to respond that is OK. If however they say thanks and ask how I am doing or what I am up to then I respond and we catch up a bit. It just seems like the decent thing to do.
WiselyNaive Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 sounds like she was just trying to be friendly and not heartless just like you said , she probably had no intention on catching up but birthdays are special...from they way u talk i'd say u probably still have feelings for her and she may be close to indifference ,seems like maybe u even got happy she texted you , if she knows that u still love her or if the break up left her feeling guilty in any way it make have just been a gesture to clear her conscience a bit . . . your best bet may have been not to respond AT ALL . . . more likely to recieve a follow up text ... if she texts u again..which doesnt seem likely dont respond or wait a while... a LONG While UNLESS!...u were the one that hurt her...if so she may be just trying to get your attention a little or trying to keep no contact but thought a birthday was an exception. i use to beat my self up about an upcoming bday of my ex the first one since we broke up...its next month...its wierd cause ours is in the same month..kinda wished mine came first so id know what to do...in my case i was left in the dust..lol i was the one hurt & still loving my ex...ive decided i wont say happy birthday...not out of bitterness...cause we catch up time to time....but i just dont feel it is necessary and although i know he will remember my birthday, if mine was first i doubt he would say happy birthday. . . so just be happy she did & dont read into it too much.
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