Taucher Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Excuse the clumsy title...I couldnt think of how to express it. I got an email from my GF today and she said that she has been on the verge of tears quite a lot and cried too because she misses me. I must admit, when she says this it makes me feel reassured which makes me feel guilty. I mean, I love her...I dont usually WANT her to be sad. But then, if she went away from me and was like "whatever", it would be horrible, right? Or am I just a bad, bad man?
atypicalG Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Excuse the clumsy title...I couldnt think of how to express it. I got an email from my GF today and she said that she has been on the verge of tears quite a lot and cried too because she misses me. I must admit, when she says this it makes me feel reassured which makes me feel guilty. I mean, I love her...I dont usually WANT her to be sad. But then, if she went away from me and was like "whatever", it would be horrible, right? Or am I just a bad, bad man? You're definitely not a bad, bad man, lol. I know exactly what you mean - whenever my girlfriend says she's had a bad day and misses me, or sometimes other little things, it really is reassuring. I think it's just part of being somewhat insecure and needing that reassurance. That's how I am, anyway...
folieadeux Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Definitely not a bad person for thinking this way, but I can totally understand the awkwardness of the situation, for lack of a better term. It's a fine line. We don't want our SO's to have a bad day. It's just reassuring to know that they're missing us as much as we're missing them. Something would be wrong if both people involved didn't have times where the distance just plain frustrated the hell out of them at least once.
LittleTiger Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 No need to feel guilty at all. I think we all need this kind of reassurance at some point. My SO is so strong most the time and I'm the one who struggles to cope. I hate to see him unhappy or suffering in any way but, I have to admit, when he does have a weak moment it does feel good to be the strong one just for a little while. I know that our relationship is rock solid so I don't have insecurities about it lasting but he's just so much better at putting on a brave face there is an element of reassurance in knowing that he doesn't find it plain sailing all the time. Of course, at the same time I feel bad that I can't physically comfort him if he's struggling, so it's a double-edged sword.
HeavenOrHell Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 Totally natural to want them to miss you
aerogurl87 Posted November 13, 2010 Posted November 13, 2010 That's normal to want your partner to miss you. I hate seeing my boyfriend sad, but when he mentions how much he misses me it makes me happy to know he loves me as much as I love him.
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